"Why is my child always playing games?" To learn not to learn, to do homework do not do, every day I know to touch the computer to touch the phone, really want to throw the computer away, smash the phone! "In the face of children who are addicted to playing games, many parents will have such distress, although they say so, but in fact, they dare not do it, after all, computers and mobile phones are still quite expensive."
So, what should parents do in the face of children who are addicted to playing games? I recently read Shen Jiahong's "Can't Stop at All" and wanted to find the answer, because we have children in the family who are also addicted to playing games, don't go to school, and don't want to do anything.
Teacher Shen Jiahong pointed out that if you want to help children quit Internet addiction, the most important thing is to know the causes of Internet addiction. We all know that many of the internet addictions are basically teenagers, they have great learning pressure and social pressure, coupled with parents' higher expectations of children, teenagers' self-control and discrimination ability is also relatively weak, which leads to them being more addicted to games than adults.
The causes of Internet addiction, after years of research by Professor Shen, he wrote in "Can't Stop At All", these reasons are mainly the following points.
First, the impact of the social environment, the emergence of Internet cafes, the prevalence of online games, and the comparison between classmates.
Compared with our childhood, today's children are much richer in material life, mobile phones and computers are everywhere, online games are available all the time, and there are many friends and classmates around to play games. This can easily be affected.
The second is the family factor. Many people are addicted to the Internet because their parents were too busy at work when they were young, they did not have time to take care of themselves, their inner needs could not be met, and they could only choose to vent through the Internet, so playing games became an outlet for children. Children with poor family relations are more likely to become addicted to the Internet.
The third is the lack of satisfaction in children. What is a lack of satisfaction? His academic performance was not good, his parents did not understand him, he felt lonely, he had no sense of satisfaction without any friends. Once he can't give him satisfaction in real life, he will seek it in the virtual world, and at this time it is easy to get addicted to the game and addicted to the game world.
Fourth, basic needs are missing. Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory states that love and belonging and respect are basic needs of everyone. But many teenagers often do not feel love and respect in the process of growing up, do not feel belonging, they are lonely, so they are more prone to Internet addiction.
Teacher Shen Jiahong said: "The focus of quitting Internet addiction is to meet the reasonable needs of addicts in reality! ”
Dear parents, don't think that to help children quit Internet addiction is to send them to addiction school, not to smash the computer, throw away the mobile phone, not to isolate the Internet. Parents need to reflect on themselves, whether they do not care enough about their children, communicate with their children more, and understand what their children want and care about.
As a parent, you should also understand that learning and playing can be taken into account, as long as you reasonably control the time of surfing the Internet and playing. Don't send your dear child to some inhuman addiction school, and don't cruelly push your child away from him, thinking that he can only play games except play games.
In the final analysis, to solve The Internet addiction, it is still necessary to start from the family relationship and respect the needs of the child.
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