"I used to be so arrogant that I wouldn't allow my wife to force me to work. Then I pushed her down and she got sick. That's when I realized that I was such a bastard! ”
In a family, whether it is a long period of strong women and weak men, or strong men and weak women, it is easy to stimulate family conflicts.
The one who complains that one of them pays not as much as himself, and the one who hopes to pay less can understand his own fatigue and hardship.
Have you ever seen a husband like Sun Chun?
After 10 years of being raised by his wife to shoot scenes, he also "dared to" laugh at his wife and "shoot what things, impetuous, superficial, and without connotation!" ”
In the end, Fu Lili loved Sun Chun too much and was willing to tolerate and tolerate this "noble prince" all the time.
Or is there something hidden in it that is not known to the public?
After Fu Lili fell ill, Sun Chun repented and took up family responsibilities with tears and regrets.
At the age of 55, he won the "Best Actor Award" at the 28th Golden Rooster Awards of Chinese Cinema, when he achieved the name of "Film Emperor".
Yang Mi, who is far away at the Houston International Film Festival, said, "Sun Chun is one of the film emperors I most admire in the industry."
At that time, Sun Chun only wanted to hand the honor in his hand to Fu Lili and pay tribute to the wife who gave him 10 years of ivory tower life.
I do not accept anyone to put their so-called honors together with Fu Lili's "deteriorating appearance".
Sun Chun said that all the people who gave him the high hat of 'success and fame do not change their hearts' are bad people.
From the campus to the wedding dress, Fu Lili exchanged the first 10 years of marriage for her husband's awakening.
And in the last 27 years of marriage, even if you always have to take care of your sick wife, even if your wife fails to give birth to a son and a half daughter for herself.
Sun Chun also said five words with actions - I love you as always...
Love at first sight for the "noble prince"
Born in 1956 in Jinan, Shandong, Sun Chun is a "gongzi brother" who won at the starting line but lost in the middle of the road because of the times.
His father was a fairly powerful diplomat, and his mother was a people's teacher.
Growing up in the sunshine, Sun Chun can read foreign original masterpieces that others can't afford.
I can watch foreign movies that my peers have never been exposed to.
In the 1960s, many people were still struggling with food and clothing, but Sun Chun had pocket money every week.
In wang shuo's words: "To what extent his (Sun Chun) family is good — there is always money in the drawer next to the desk, and if you want to buy something, you can take it yourself." He grew up with little concept of money, even when he later started a family. ”
He has not suffered any hardships in terms of material conditions, and the knowledge cultivation he has received since childhood, Sun Chun is even faster.
It's just a pity that Sun Chun, who grew up with his head held high, did not catch up with the era that made him hold his head high.
After graduating from high school, he threw himself into work because he could not take the college entrance examination, and he became a watchmaker in a watch shop.
The hands turn in circles, and time ticks.
The delicate work on his hands became more and more skilled, and Sun Chun's youth walked away silently for several years.
Fortunately, in 1997, the Shanghai Theater Academy opened up to the whole country.
Influenced by his older brother Sun Zhou, who was still a photographer at the time and later became a director.
Sun Chun, who wanted to go to college, learned a few classic monologues from foreign movies and went to the theater.
One meter and eight tall, a mouth pure English cavity with a clear and handsome face.
Without any suspense, 21-year-old Sun Chun was admitted.
In a family in Zhangzhou, Fujian Province, Fu Lili, an 18-year-old girl, was also full of joy and opened the admission letter for the play.
Fu Lili was born in 1959, and her father was a powerful soldier.
Growing up under the discipline of her military father, Fu Lili was naturally "trained" to be strong and fearless, and to shoulder heavy burdens.
It is said that Tang Guoqiang and Guo Minkai, who were young, are representatives of "cream students".
But if you look at the photos of Sun Chun when he was young, he is not worse than the first two.
Good looking, well-educated, good talking, good grades. Sun Chun has no shortage of girls' favor and admiration in school.
And did not "put the other girls in the eyes", just because of the freshman year, Sun Chun fell in love with his classmate Fu Lili at first sight.
Fu Lili is bright-looking and has the tenacity to not accept defeat.
He never took the initiative to go up and talk, first, Sun Chun had no bottom in his heart that he would be able to win the favor of the other party.
On the other hand, it is the innate pride in his nature, so that he can't say he likes it first.
Carry the arrogance to the end
A sophomore assignment of "self-selected clip interpretation". Fu Lili selected the fragments from "How Steel is Made".
Worried about not having a partner to play "Paul Kochakin", classmate Gu Yian pulled Sun Chun to help.
Naturally, there was an intersection, and Sun Chun, who was happy in his heart, seized the opportunity of rehearsal to show his best self in front of Fu Lili.
A play was strongly praised by the teacher in front of the stage, and a relationship quietly took root under the stage.
And this side harvested love, that side and classmates together to go to the crew audition, did not expect that the "star" on campus, will be constantly rejected by the director.
"If there had been an idol drama in the 80s, I would have been popular in China 30 years ago."
Sun Chun, 57, said such things in an interview, which made the reporters present laugh.
In fact, Sun Chun did not exaggerate, he did not graduate when he constantly auditioned and was rejected, the reason given by the director is:
"You are too handsome and handsome, which is not in line with the avant-garde and social nature of the mainstream now."
In the film and television circles of the 80s, there was a strong "scar literature" color.
Handsome and dashing actors are the first part to be excluded, and countless red main themes of the film and television, biased towards the image of workers and peasants, children and soldiers, with avant-garde temperament, is the director's first choice.
Later, when Zhang Yimou asked Sun Chun to shoot his own "Shake, Shake, Shake to Grandma Bridge", he also said, "You look too much like an actor."
This sentence hit Sun Chun very hard, because being like an actor rather than a character is not a compliment.
Unable to change his appearance, then do not force the filming before graduation, Sun Chun feels that his excellence will be seen sooner or later.
"At that time, there were three graduation dramas in a grade, and I was the male lead in three scenes, and Fu Lili was the female lead in two. We were all excellent. ”
When he graduated in 1982, Sun Chun was spinning a circle for the graduation performance.
Director Han Xiaolei came to the door with the male protagonist of "Trainee Lawyer", "Yan Wengang".
"You are too suitable for my play, you must act, how to consider it?"
After taking over the script study for one night, Sun Chun had another shooting task in addition to the graduation drama, and opened his popularity with the first play.
Truly out of the campus, Sun Chun was assigned to work at Emei Film Studio, and Fu Lili was assigned to the Central Experimental Drama Theatre.
Not wanting to be separated from her lover, Fu Lili was transferred to Sun Chun's unit with the help of Pan Hong.
The girl, who was under the age of 23, was satisfied at this point.
She didn't know that for the next 10 years or so, she would become a person crushed by life for love.
"Five golden flowers" supported the façade of the actress of Emei Film Studio, and Fu Lili, who had just arrived, won the title of "National Color Peony".
Start the film and television journey from the little warrior "Lanzi" in "Red Leaves Paved with Paths".
In 1983, "Qiao Ge'er" and "There Is a Snowstorm Tonight" pushed Fu Lili to be nominated for the Golden Eagle Award for Best Supporting Actress.
The following year, through "Heroic Martyrs", she was nominated for the Hundred Flowers Award for Best Actress.
Fu Lili's first battle was very well played.
And Sun Chun also won the love of many audiences through the "Niu Hong" in the movie "Symphony of Pots and Pans".
But only this one play, after 1982, Sun Chun's "Gongzi disease" completely "attacked".
If there is no script, it will not be filmed, and the script will not be filmed if it is not good; There is no good role not to shoot, and the role is not satisfied or not to shoot.
"I either don't act, or if I want to act, I have to be able to move myself, and it's a film and a role that can be passed on for a long time."
I know that the lover has always been proud, and I know that he is very powerful.
So when many scripts were returned, Fu Lili did not persuade too much.
"Everyone has their own ideals to adhere to, I myself am a person who has no big ideals, Sun Chun has, I am willing to support him and guard his garden of thought."
Shouldering the lives of the two, in 1985 Fu Lili handed over her hand to Sun Chun, and after marriage, she was even busier.
Switch roles when guilt is useless
From "Gunshots on Desert Islands", "The Deal Under the Noose", "Cruel Lover" to "Refuge", "Wild Rose and Black Lord", "The Great Fission of Money".
Fu Lili was running hard in front of her, and there was a "noble" person in the back who could swing.
Just 10,000 yuan, Sun Chun wanted to watch foreign movie expansion films and changed to Toshiba's large color TV.
Fu Lili also did not have any dissatisfaction with this, but then Sun Chun's attitude made Fu Lili truly experience the words of suffering.
"My wife, Fu Lili, went to the cave in the 80s, and the conditions were not good at that time, and on several occasions she came back very tired, and she was unhappy because she was angry on the way."
"Normal husbands will comfort them, right?" I don't know what I thought at the time, but I actually said, 'Who are you willing to blame?'" ”
"Actually, my daughter-in-law has been raising me, and now I think about how I owe it so much, because she never says, 'You go after art, what do you want to take as an adoptive wife?'"
In addition to the words "you are willing, you can't blame others", what makes Fu Lili most sad is that Sun Chun starred in Chen Kaige's "The Great Parade" in 1985.
He began to verbally "ridicule" Fu Lili, asking her to take fewer "bad films" and commercial films.
It also makes it important to pay attention to inner self-feeling and spiritual gain, and not to always run for money.
Sun Chun looked up at the heavenly life, and did not realize that the land under his feet needed constant water to bloom beautiful flowers.
And Fu Lili loves Sun Chun deeply, and she is touched by Sun Chun's persistence and does not go with the flow.
But while encouraging him to put his talents to the knife's edge, she didn't want to hear her husband's "defilement" of herself.
Many times I want to quarrel, I want to vent the grievances and dissatisfaction in my heart.
But as long as she thought that her words would destroy the tall building in her husband's heart, she couldn't bear it.
As if in love to the point of insanity, Fu Lili preferred to swallow everything and plug her ears with busyness.
But the stupid woman in love is unwilling to unveil her husband's veil, but fate has ruthlessly lifted it off.
In 1992, after acting in director Huang Jianxin's "Stand Up Straight, Don't Lie Down", he was nominated for the Golden Rooster Award for "Best Supporting Actress" again.
Fu Lili fell.
Fu Lili
Sun Chun never thought that one day, his wife, who was as strong as the sun, would lie on the hospital bed and breathe weakly.
Because of years of running and fatigue and mental exhaustion, Fu Lili's body collapsed for the most part.
"She never told me she was unwell, and I didn't think about it. Obviously she was very hard and I could see it. ”
"I was a failed husband who faltered to the age of 40 for the sake of illusory ideals. Fu Lili also urged me to work before, but I just don't eat human fireworks and am ashamed to talk to people about money. I was a complete fool, and I had lost her health. ”
Sun Chun, who was very late in growing up, grew up overnight.
And the price his wife paid for this also made him feel guilty and regret for the rest of his life.
Sun Chun and his mother
Take your mother-in-law over and talk to your wife about home, and let your wife slow down and recuperate.
Sun Chun put aside his loft in the air and selectively took over the play.
From Zhao Baogang's "Imperial City Roots" to Xia Gang's "The Great Satan".
He has walked through "Miss China in the Foreign Firm", "Changtian Beacon", "Lie Detector", "Glory of Criminal Police".
Sun Chun, who changed roles with Fu Lili and supported a family, knew that in addition to poetry and distant places, there were helplessness and hardships in life.
But just when he and his family thought that Fu Lili's body was slowly recovering.
More serious diseases have struck.
Live like a man
Fighting the disease with the doctor, Fu Lili, who is in her 30s, haggarded at a speed visible to the naked eye.
Turning over all his savings, Sun Chun, who was one meter and eight meters old, cried bitterly in the office, only begging the other party to let his wife regain her health.
Pulled back to the ward by his parents, he held Fu Lili's hand and kept saying "I'm sorry" and "you have to insist".
Seeing such a husband Fu Lili was also uncomfortable.
"I'll cheer you up, you may get tired later." After all, I don't know when this disease is a head. But even for me, you try to find a script that fits your heart, okay? ”
After accompanying his wife through the most difficult time, after the couple won a stage victory, Sun Chun began to increase the workload exponentially.
As long as he was allowed to occasionally go back to accompany his wife for a few days during filming, he took over.
As long as he gets the role in hand, he will play it with his heart no matter how big or small.
"Everyone knows that quality can go far, I play every role well, quality and quantity, so that more people will come to me to shoot." 」
I don't know if the heavens saw Sun Chun's change and wanted to make his ideals come true.
In a 2003 "Towards the Republic", Sun Chun gained dozens of pounds to play "Yuan Shikai", which made countless people in the industry see Sun Chun's strength and dedication, and also let many young audiences also remember it.
Even from today's perspective, Towards a Republic is one of the best in terms of narrative strategy and values.
After filming this play, he met Pu Cunxin.
Sun Chun got a thumbs up high, and a sentence "Milestone Ah Sun Chun, great!" ”
Filming the works he pursued that were "printed in his mind", Sun Chun also met the roles that resonated with his soul.
"Zhai En" in "The Right Way on Earth is Vicissitudes" is a complete idealist, and he also implements the ideal into life.
After reading the script given by Zhang Li, Sun Chun cried at home.
Fu Lili heard the voice and hurried over to inquire, and Sun Chun could not say anything else, so she could only hug her wife and shout, "Zhai En is dead!"!
Sun Chun cried for the vibration in her heart, and Fu Lili wept for her husband's touch.
"I'm glad he met 'Jain' and that's the role he was looking forward to. Fortunately, he waited, even though he was 52 years old. ”
After performing this play with great enthusiasm, Sun Chun's interpretation created a long discussion of this role after it was broadcast on TELEVISION.
The protagonist Sun Honglei is not afraid to mind being "robbed of the limelight" by Sun Chun, saying that "Sun Chun is a near-perfect actor".
"Zhai En" opened up a new pattern in Sun Chun's career.
He no longer struggles with dispensable scripts, but starts from the heart with a discernment.
Find a balance between life and ideals and leave more time for your wife and family.
At the age of 55, he won the "Best Actor Award" at the 28th Golden Rooster Awards for "Autumn Joy".
Sun Chun thanked the director, producers, actors, and even this era on the stage.
Walking off the podium, he handed the trophy to Fu Lili and said, "In this recognition, you are more credited than me."
Don't be afraid, I'll be here in the future
Slightly slowing down the frequency of filming, Sun Chun will take his wife to the community to live a beautiful life.
In the early years, Fu Lili did not dare to have children because of her work, and later she could not have children because of her physical condition.
Sun Chun did not say anything dissatisfied with this, and even the parents on both sides did not say anything regretful.
"Having a child will definitely experience different troubles or joys, but I don't regret it without it." I am satisfied that I have my wife, I am not greedy, I only hope that she can always accompany me. ”
In the early years, in order to keep his wife from being bored, Sun Chun bought a small dog for her to keep.
Later, the puppy died, and he could not bear his wife's back, sun Chun spent 600,000 clones in addition to two dogs to accompany himself and his wife in their old age.
Over 60 years old, he took his wife on a trip, and the two walked through picturesque Dali together and also into the bustling urban alleyway.
The photos that can be shared from the two people's social platforms have made Sun Chun lose his temper.
"I was very, very angry when the media talked about my wife's changed appearance and figure after she got sick. They use this to praise me for my specialty and affection, and when I become famous, I will not forget to spoil my wife. ”
"Using my wife's pain to set me off is not praising me, it is stabbing me in the heart." Our relationship with Fu Lili and I know it ourselves, and we don't need to use this kind of statement to disgust people. ”
Fu Lili was indeed secretly sad because of the comments on the Internet.
Once she was the "Golden Flower Peony" of Emei Film Studio, her beautiful face has also been sought after and envied by countless people.
But under the ravages of the disease, she is no longer beautiful. What woman doesn't want to present her best in front of her husband?
And with his wife behind him, Sun Chun, now 66 years old, did not hide his heart in the show:
"Fu Lili thinks she was the most beautiful when she was young, and I want to say that I am not at all. She stood in front of me at every stage of the day and was the most beautiful. It's not that I'm good at it, that's what I think. ”
Married for 37 years, stumbling along the way, growing up in marriage, Sun Chun said that he was fortunate to meet Fu Lili, which is really not wrong.
What wife is willing to marry for 10 years, endure grievances and tears to hold up the ideal tower of her husband?
Fu Lili did it, she spread her sincerity, cherishing and understanding, which has harvested the happiness she has now.
If you incarnate as Fu Lili, will you achieve this for your "Sun Chun"?