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In the summer of 1972, Lin Qingxia, who was not yet 18 years old, began her film and television life with the reluctant approval of her parents.
Debut is the peak, the evergreen tree of the film industry, the goddess in the eyes of a generation, these praises can all be used to describe her.
Although her family did not approve of her engaging in this industry at first, Lin Qingxia did prove herself with brilliant achievements.
But as she was all over the world and shining in the tv and newspapers, no one would associate her with a kindergarten teacher from a small city.
How could that middle-aged woman named Lin Li be Lin Qingxia's own sister?
Without talking about others, even Lin Li herself could not believe it. She couldn't believe that her biological parents were someone else, or that she had three younger siblings.
But the blood relationship can not be fake, Lin Qingxia in order to find her sister painstakingly, until 1990 the sisters did not officially meet.
What are the twists and turns behind this? After confessing, what has changed in Lin Li's life?
My long-lost brother suddenly wrote: Is the daughter still alive?
In 1984, cross-strait relations were gradually normalized. The 64-year-old Lin Weiliang inquired through many parties, and it was not easy to contact his long-lost brother Lin Weiyun.
The Lin Weiyun family moved from their hometown of Shandong to Heilongjiang very early, and the brothers had not been in contact for decades, and he almost thought that his brother and sister-in-law were no longer alive.
Therefore, when he suddenly received a letter from his brother, Lin Weiyun was very excited in his heart. But when he read the contents of the letter, his face gradually became solemn.
"Is my daughter still alive?" How has she been all these years, and I don't know if she is willing to recognize us? ”
Lin Weiliang's daughter is named Lin Li, the eldest daughter of him and his wife Ma Lanying. But as biological parents, they only raised their daughter for three months.
After his brother and sister-in-law left, Lin Weiyun and his wife took over the burden of raising their little niece and always regarded her as their own.
So this is also where Lin Weiyun is embarrassed, if she suddenly tells Lin Li the truth, can she accept it?
Although it was also involuntary at first, it was still indebted to Lin Li for more than thirty years.
After thinking about it, Lin Weiyun first sent a letter to his brother, informing his niece in detail of the situation over the years. Say everyone is all right, please don't worry too much.
After consulting with his wife, he decided to tell Lin Li the truth. Lin Li, who has reached middle age, has also become a mother, and I believe that she can understand the difficulties of her parents.
After Lin Li, who was far away in Xuchang, Henan Province, received the letter from her "parents", she was shocked for a long time, as if her life in the first thirty years had been subverted.
The "parents" she has always regarded as her own are actually her own uncles and aunts. Her real parents went to Taiwan three months after she was born.
Not only that, the big star Lin Qingxia, who is popular all over the country and even Southeast Asia, is actually his own sister?
All this sudden information made Lin Li confused, even though she was already an adult and a mother of three sons, she still couldn't accept it.
Behind the difficulty of accepting is not resentment, but a helpless wandering after the status quo has been broken.
Lin Li clearly realized that she was an ordinary middle-aged woman. Live peacefully in chai rice oil and salt, honor the elderly and raise children in the best of your ability.
But now everything is broken, she has a pair of biological parents who have not been seen for more than thirty years, and three long-lost siblings.
Everyone's growth environment and living habits are very different, even if they recognize each other, can they be intimate? Where do you go from here?
Lin Li, who learned the truth, fell into endless entanglement.
The original intention of the letter from her uncle and aunt was to hope that she would forgive her parents and get in touch with them as soon as possible to make up for the long-lost affection.
But at the moment, Lin Li could not do it for the time being, and her lost soul was also looked at by her husband Qian Shenyong.
Since receiving letters from her parents-in-law, my wife has been often absent-minded, what the hell is going on?
In the face of her husband's concern and inquiry, Lin Li finally couldn't help but take everything out of the tray. At this point, even Qian Shenyong was startled.
He was a little relieved after learning the truth, not to mention Lin Li, who was the party.
But after calming down, he began to advise his wife: "Your parents were not easy at the beginning, who would have thought that they would become like that later?" They've definitely wanted to find you over the years, but they can't do anything about it because of the reality. ”
After her husband's enlightenment, Lin Li gradually overcame the helplessness in her heart. Her biological parents did not deliberately abandon her, and the two elderly people had not felt good for decades.
No matter which step you will take in the future, you should first communicate with these close relatives and meet with each other.
Half a year later, Lin Li took the initiative to send a letter to her parents in Taiwan. After Lin Weiliang and Ma Lanying received the letter, they couldn't help but snuggle up together and cry.
They knew that they would be separated from their eldest daughter for so many years, and no matter how difficult it was, they should not leave their children in their hometown.
At the end of 1948, Lin Weiliang, who was a military doctor in the army, temporarily received a notice that he would transfer them to Taiwan.
At that time, the superiors did not say what the reason was, so Lin Weiliang and Ma Lanying did not expect what happened afterwards.
They simply thought it was a simple job transfer, so they decided to leave Lin Li, who was just three months old, to her grandparents to take care of.
If it's a short time, it will be back in a few months. If it takes a long time, then I will pick up my daughter when the time comes.
But I didn't expect that I would never come back, not only could no one come back, but even letters could not be sent.
Forced to separate from their daughter, the couple is in a hurry, as if they are stranded on an isolated island and do not know when they will be able to contact their daughter.
Later, Lin Weiliang retired from the army, first returned to his old business to open a small clinic, and then he ventured into business, starting to try business in hotels, hotels and clothing.
The couple worked together, relying on long-term investment vision and a steady entrepreneurial attitude, step by step to gain a firm foothold in the business world.
At the same time, they gave birth to a son and two daughters in succession: Lin Chengsen, Lin Qingxia and Lin Lixia.
The three brothers and sisters grew up in a good family environment and enjoyed the best educational resources at that time.
Lin Chengsen grew up to follow in the footsteps of his parents, slowly started a transnational business, and later settled in the United States. Lin Lixia also had a successful career and eventually chose to settle in the United States.
Lin Qingxia is considered to be an "outlier" among the brothers and sisters, and after the age of 18, she concentrated on working hard in the film and television industry, and achieved remarkable results along the way.
However, compared with her siblings, Lin Li's growth experience is quite tortuous.
Suffering from childhood, bravely pursuing true love
When Lin Weiliang and Ma Lanying boarded the ship to Taiwan, Lin Li, who was not yet sensible, had no impression of her biological parents at all.
The first people to take care of her were her grandparents, and the two elderly people made a living from farming, saving money and bringing their granddaughters to the age of teeth and teeth.
But then they died one after another, and the burden of taking care of Lin Li fell on her uncle and aunt. Although their family was not rich, Lin Weiyun and his wife never treated their niece badly.
And in order to protect Lin Li's young heart, they lied that they were her biological parents, and the family was happy although it was difficult.
In the family of her uncle and aunt, Lin Li is also the oldest child, and she is very sensible when she is used to living a hard life since she was a child, and she is very handy in taking care of her younger siblings.
Later, it coincided with three years of natural disasters, let alone grain, and even the bark of wild vegetable trees outside was stripped clean.
Lack of clothing and food caused Lin Li to be malnourished, and in the long run, her body was weaker than ordinary people. In order to earn a way for his family, Lin Weiyun decided to move his family to Heilongjiang.
It is also for this reason that Lin Weiliang, who did not know it, later searched for relatives so hard.
But no matter how difficult the livelihood was, Lin Weiyun gritted his teeth to provide Lin Li with school. And Lin Li did not live up to this painstaking effort, and the door homework was among the best.
Later, in response to the call of the state, this group of teenagers joined the team of "going to the mountains and going to the countryside".
In 1971, at the age of 23, Lin Li returned to the city and took a job as a substitute teacher at an elementary school.
My uncle and aunt saw that she was not young and her job had stabilized, so she showed her people's homes.
After being introduced, a young man named Qian Shenyong began to enter Lin Li's world. He is a native of Jidong, Heilongjiang and graduated from the Central Academy of Drama.
Although the two knew each other through blind dates, after getting acquainted, they found that they had a lot of common language between each other, and their feelings were getting deeper and deeper.
The parents of both sides were also very satisfied with the relationship, and it did not take long to discuss marriage and marriage. But at this time, Qian Shenyong suffered a major setback in his work.
Frustrated in the workplace, he was transferred from a opera troupe in Xuchang to work in the countryside, and the return date was undecided, and he may stay in the countryside for a lifetime.
Seeing that the son-in-law had such a big problem, Lin Weiyun and his wife immediately disagreed with this family affair.
It wasn't that they climbed the dragon and phoenix and fell into the well, but they didn't want Lin Li to suffer with her, after all, she had a hard time returning to the city.
But Lin Li, who has always been well-behaved and sensible, is like eating the scales and iron heart, saying that she is unwilling to cancel the affair.
She had originally planned to follow Qian Shenyong to Xuchang to settle down after marriage, and the two of them would live a good life.
Now that her lover has an accident, she should be with him to encourage him and take care of him, rather than walk away for her own future.
Besides, there is not much difference between the city and the countryside, as long as you are willing to live a good life, you will not be able to live.
Seeing that she could not get her niece, her uncle and aunt had to agree.
Lin Li followed her lover to the countryside without hesitation, the wedding place was a thatched shed, and there were no relatives, friends and guests at the wedding site.
After marriage, the two people supported each other and fought with each other, but they ran the small family in an orderly manner.
A few months later, the good news came, and a paper transfer order transferred Qian Shenyong back to the city, although he did not return to the original unit, but he was also in a factory with good treatment.
Lin Li also entered the factory as an ordinary worker, but Qian Shenyong felt that his wife was a cultured person and had experience as a teacher, so it was better to return to her old profession.
With the support of her husband, Lin Li successfully applied for the position of kindergarten teacher, and has been working in the kindergarten for decades since then.
They gave birth to three sons in succession and lived the simplest but happiest life. The sons inherited the strengths of their parents and were quite talented in learning.
So before the letter arrived, Lin Li never imagined that she would encounter such a "bizarre" thing.
But the truth of the matter not only had an impact on her, but also for Lin Qingxia's three brothers and sisters.
Before entering puberty, the three never knew that their parents had given birth to a big sister. After learning about this, they also understood why their parents' sorrow came.
After so many years, I don't know if the lost big sister is doing well? Or is there a worst guess, is she still alive?
Whenever she thought about this, Ma Lanying always couldn't help but cry bitterly, and countless times she thought about going back to the mainland to find this daughter.
So when the three brothers and sisters grew up, everyone did their best to find the eldest sister.
In particular, Lin Qingxia is already a public figure, and the contacts and resources she can use are relatively extensive, and she always inquires around when she comes to the mainland to shoot.
But the two sides disappeared for decades, and it was not until 1984 that Lin Weiliang learned the whereabouts of his brother's family.
For this younger brother, he also owes a lot in his heart, after all, his parents were sent to the end by his brother, and his daughter was also raised by his brother.
Therefore, after writing to Lin Litong, Lin Weiliang and Ma Lanying lived like a year looking forward to returning to the mainland.
After another 3 years, they finally set out on their way home in 1987. For various reasons, they and Lin Li agreed to meet in Shanghai.
Flesh and blood relatives finally have to meet, and sisters are deep and gentle and refuse kindness
Before they met, the three people were uneasy in their hearts, each thinking about what kind of opening statement they should say.
But after the meeting, the tears flowed first, and all three of them choked up and couldn't say anything. Lin Li shouted "Mommy and Daddy" in a trembling voice, and then fell into the arms of the second elder and cried.
Holding the eldest daughter who was lost and regained, Lin Weiliang and Ma Lanying could not calm their inner excitement and guilt, and after more than an hour, the three of them barely stopped their tears.
The little baby girl who was still swaddling had formed her own family in the blink of an eye, and she was burdened with the responsibility of her mother.
To make up for it, Lin Weiliang and Ma Lanying really didn't know what to do to make their daughter happy, so they tried to repay it materially.
The dowry that has been late for many years has been completed at one time, in addition to cash and some small items, it also includes large color TVs, refrigerators, microwave ovens, etc.
And Lin Li didn't want to accept it before, because she felt that it was too costly. But she also knew that if she didn't accept it, her parents would definitely continue to feel guilty.
They've been late for so many years, hoping to do their best a little.
Later, the second elder decided to choose the right time to move back to the mainland and retire with his eldest daughter, which can also be regarded as "falling leaves and returning to the roots".
But Lin Qingxia's three brothers and sisters did not approve of this matter after learning about this matter, and their parents were accustomed to life in Taiwan; Second, the eldest sister also has a big son to raise, and she can no longer add a burden.
Therefore, the two old people finally failed to achieve their wishes, and they were separated from their eldest daughter again, which also became a heart disease in Ma Lanying's heart.
In her later years, she suffered from depression, opened her mouth and shouted Lin Li's name, and finally jumped to her death in 2002.
In 2006, at the age of 86, Lin Weiliang died in Taipei. After more than 20 years of recognizing her parents, Lin Li waved goodbye to them again, and this time it was a farewell.
However, even if her parents are gone, her relationship with her three younger siblings is still very good, especially with her second sister Lin Qingxia.
As early as the first time she recognized her relatives in 1987, Lin Qingxia wanted to come with her. But considering that her identity is easy to cause a big sensation, this will disturb Lin Li's normal life.
Therefore, under the persuasion of the staff, Lin Qingxia only bought a high-end camera to send to her parents to her sister, and the sisters have been in contact through letters since then.
Each letter begins with "Dear Sister or Sister" and ends with "Paper Short and Long", and the letter is accompanied by a picture of the two of them.
Lin Li often rubbed those photos, and every time she looked at them, she was extremely amazed: "How beautiful it is, this is really my sister." ”
In 1990, Lin Qingxia took advantage of the opportunity to shoot in Changchun to issue an invitation to her sister. Lin Li and Qian Shenyong immediately put down their work and went to Changchun for a week.
As soon as they met, Lin Qingxia burst into tears and shouted at her sister, which was also the first time she had met her sister in 36 years.
The magic of blood is that it can make two people who have never met each other quickly warm up. The 7 days together are not long or short, but it is enough for the sisters to further deepen their relationship.
They ate, chatted, went shopping, took pictures, and Lin Li personally went to the set to watch her sister shoot.
When the time of separation came, the two also agreed to contact each other from time to time. Lin Qingxia also specially told her sister that if there is any need for help, she must tell her that she must not feel polite.
Because she, like her parents, wants to make up for her sister as much as she can. But Lin Li was used to a life of self-sufficiency, and she never thought of asking her relatives for anything.
After returning home, the media who heard the wind came to the door for interviews, and Lin Li generously accepted it, but only this time, and then returned to the plain again.
Lin Weiliang and Ma Lanying, who returned to Taiwan, and Lin Qingxia, who returned to Hong Kong, repeatedly offered to change her living environment or give her a large amount of money.
But Lin Li all politely declined, even after being laid off in the 90s, she only had a pension of 450 yuan per month, she still lived a simple life with her husband.
The dowries that their parents once brought were also intact in a small house of more than 50 square meters.
In fact, Lin Li has always been very clear about what she wants, her parents have money, her younger siblings have money, but that is not hers.
A family that has been dispersed for historical reasons has already had its own life on different parallel lines.
There is no need to forcibly integrate into anyone's world, as long as there is stable contact between relatives.
Later, Lin Li's three sons all had successful careers and set up their own families, and Lin Li and Qian Shenyong also began to tease their grandchildren in their spare time.
This calm happiness is what they want.
postscript
If Lin Li had followed her parents to Taiwan that year, she might not have had any intersection with her uncles and aunts in her lifetime, let alone married Qian Shenyong.
But the world is uncertain, no one can say the fate, in the end it is the uncle and aunt who raised her, and it is Qian Shenyong who gave her a home.
And all the people she came into contact with since she was a child have taught her to be bland and self-sufficient. Therefore, Lin Li bears the identity of "Lin Qingxia's sister" and is still willing to be mortal.
She understands even more that family affection is not sustained by money, and as an adult, she is not qualified to reach out to her parents and siblings for anything.
There is nothing unsatisfactory about being able to be reunited with your family and enjoying your old age in peace.