When it comes to social phobia, the impression of Xiaobian is that he is not good at words and does not want to deal with people too much, which is a low-key way of life. But recently read a report of a patient with severe social phobia, I understood that this is really a disease, and it will affect normal life if it is serious.
23-year-old Starling Ogawa was born in Aichi Prefecture, Japan. 5 years ago, when he was working, he was in a worse and worse state, initially he did not dare to look at people, and later he did not dare to see anyone. He went to the hospital for a check-up and found that he had "gaze phobia".
"Gaze phobia" is a type of mental illness, which is highlighted by the fear of other people's eyes. Patients are afraid of being watched, nor are they afraid to look directly at others, feeling that their eyes or sight will make the other person feel suspicious.
If you look at people in life, patients will unconsciously fear, nervousness, uneasiness, common symptoms include sweating, stuttering, especially severe even tremors, shortness of breath, cold hands and feet and other situations.
After determining the illness, Ogawa starling was also very uncomfortable and did not know what to do. He could not bear his own state, and gradually did not dare to go out of the house, and once became a "family squat".
Ogawa also grew up in a single-parent family. His mother divorced at an early age and worked hard while taking care of him and his brother. When Ogawa starling was also in elementary school and junior high school, he had a very cheerful personality and had a few good friends around him.
However, after attending high school, he suddenly did not adapt to the environment and became more and more silent. He didn't want to continue his studies, so he dropped out of high school in his sophomore year of high school.
After dropping out of school, in order to help the family reduce the burden, Ogawa starling also chose to work odd jobs everywhere. After all, this is not the planned road, he is very depressed: obviously his peers are in high school, but he has to start working to earn money, why only himself will do this?
Thinking more and more, people are gradually inferior. He began to be timid, did not dare to communicate with people, looked at each other, and gradually developed into a serious "gaze phobia".
Life at home is very monotonous, and the mother is very worried: the son is still young, if he can't go out for decades to come, what can he do? As a mother, she certainly does not want her children to live later in life, that is, to squat at home and not see anyone.
Looking at his mother's anxiety, Ogawa starling also wanted to find a breakthrough point. He loved watching boxing, and for a few years at home, he started exercising on his own. Slowly, he found himself punching as if the illness did not flare up.
In order to verify this, Ogawa also plucked up enough courage to come to the boxing arena, only to confirm that he would not look at the other party in fear when he punched.
He went to the doctor to explain the situation, and the doctor thought that boxing might be his cognitive behavioral therapy. One-on-one boxing is quite dangerous, and when life is hanging on the line, people will subconsciously avoid danger and will not pay too much attention to their physical condition. Therefore, boxing, which looks directly at others, is a strong action therapy for Ogawa Starling.
Ogawa starling also found the motivation to live. At the beginning of last year, he took the boxing professional exam, successfully passed, and is currently a professional boxer.
Three months after passing the exam, Ogawa starling also officially played for the first time, ending with a KO victory.
Strange to say, as long as he walks to the boxing ring, Ogawa starling does not care about the outside world. When he was boxing, he never got sick. He also found this situation incredible.
At present, Ogawa Starling is also preparing for the second professional battle in September. He's in a much better shape and can joke with his coach on a daily basis. You can also talk to other boxers without eye contact.
In addition to working as a professional boxer, Ogawa starling also worked 2 part-time jobs. He insisted on delivering newspapers every day, usually in the early hours of the morning, without anyone on the street, and he rode to put the newspapers in the designated place.
The job didn't have to meet with anyone, he felt safe.
In addition, he is also an apartment cleaner and attends twice a week. The job also does not require dealing with people, and occasionally meeting with residents will be very nervous and can't help but want to hide. But overall, he is still competent for this job.
He can also go shopping at the supermarket by himself. To avoid being watched, he would wear sunglasses, which made him feel mentally settled. When shopping, he adheres to the principle of quick decisions. As soon as he found someone in front of him, he immediately changed directions, and sometimes he could make several detours in order to buy bean sprouts.
Although he still can't integrate into life normally, but he can get out of the squatting state at home, Ogawa starling is already very happy, he will try to try more things he can do.
Ogawa Starling's dream now is to become a boxing champion. His mother suffered a lot for him, and he hoped to make her proud of it. The happiest thing about the mother is that the son has achieved a breakthrough in himself and found the goal of life.
Life really has all kinds of tribulations. Many people use all their strength to live the life of ordinary people. I hope that Ogawa Starling is getting better and better and realize the dream in his heart as soon as possible.
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