In recent years, the topic of "full-time mothers" has continued to be popular, and everyone's views on full-time mothers have also been mixed.
Some argue that the courage to support freedom of choice and women's return to their families deserves encouragement; Some people also believe that this is a social regression and a waste of educational resources.
If it were you, would you give up your career for the sake of your family and become a stay-at-home mom?
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Come over people really think
According to the "2019 White Paper on China's Family Conception Methods", the proportion of young Chinese parents staying at home full-time is about 58.6%, of which more than 80% are young mothers after 95.
Why? Let's hear what they think —
@White Cloud and Black Earth: If I don't bring it, the child will have no one to take. The husband wants to earn money to support the family, the in-laws are old, they can't bear the old man to follow the labor, and the generation of childcare is easy to cause family conflicts. Under the balance of the two phases, only resigning yourself is more cost-effective.
@ Zhizhi: Resignation is my initiative, or think about accompanying the child for a few more years, when I was a child, my parents were often not around, how uncomfortable it was for left-behind children, I knew it all too well, so I did not want the child to repeat my path, and do my best to accompany the child, which is my greatest wish.
@ White Balloon: The husband with the baby is not expected, the child's father is not reliable, and I can't always follow it. But work and family are really too difficult to balance, I don't leave work until half past five, no one picks up the children after school at 3:30, how can the leader let you stay late and leave early! I had no choice but to go home and become a full-time mother first
@ 10:30: Before becoming a mother, I also made a bold ambition, modern independent women will never return to the family as full-time housewives, the result is too bone-deep. Children are too young to go away, it is difficult to return to the workplace, you may face the real problems of being topned, changing posts, invisible salary cuts, etc. Ordinary people want to find another job is even more difficult to go to Qingtian, not to mention that today's workplace environment is poor.
The speeches of the above people who came over are really realistic and helpless:
The elderly are difficult to be competent in today's child-rearing work (various educational tasks, parents are inconvenient to come to big cities, the gap in educational concepts between generations, etc.), the difficulty of balancing work and family, widowed parenting, discrimination against married and childbearing women in the workplace, etc., have become "stumbling blocks" for women with children to return to the workplace, so that they have to return to the family.
Stay-at-home mothers in China are mostly struggling with anxiety
What does it mean to be a stay-at-home mother in China?
"It means that in addition to being a mother, you are also a free nanny, a childcare sister-in-law, a tutor, a cook, a cleaner... You go up to the hall, you go down to the kitchen, you are proficient in thirty-six things, but you are still ignored. ”
In the eyes of your husband, you are a "yellow-faced woman" who will only reach out for money; In the eyes of the child, the mother is a person who "will not do anything"; In the eyes of outsiders, you are a woman with no social value.
Accompanying a mother, in addition to the continuous housework and child-rearing work, there are countless contradictions and struggles, and these pains can only be chewed and digested by the women themselves, because everyone thinks that this is what the mother should bear and must bear.
But even if everyone is already gritting their teeth and struggling to survive, they still have to encounter outsiders' beaks.
China's stay-at-home mothers, whose family attributes and social attributes have been marginalized, eventually ushered in an emotional collapse and ended with "depression".
Is the same true for stay-at-home moms around the world, except in China? What is their life like?
What is it like for a foreign stay-at-home mom?
1) American housewife is a profession
In the United States, housewives belong to the formal occupation category, with complete policy maintenance and stable welfare protection.
For example, a housewife in the United States may not pay social security or pensions, but at retirement age, the state subsidizes half of her spouse's pension. And as long as there is one person in the family who works, the wife and minor children can enjoy medical insurance.
2, Canada: stay-at-home mothers are "civil servants"
Canadian society generally believes that stay-at-home mothers are great jobs, so to give them dignity and social status, you can even fill it in your resume, and the unit will not discriminate because of it.
And the government will also give subsidies to support stay-at-home mothers, such as tax exemptions, daily allowances, milk money, etc. Before seeing statistics on the Internet, each child in Canada can get an average of about 800 Canadian dollars per month, which is equivalent to about 4200 yuan, which is about the monthly income of ordinary civilian posts in some parts of the country.
It is because of these subsidies that Canadian mothers are more inclined to quit their jobs and focus on caring for their children at home for a few years, and then return to work after primary school.
3, Japan: Mom is at home full-time, Dad tax reduction
The proportion of stay-at-home mothers in Japan is still relatively high because there are more benefits in this regard.
For example, if one of the spouses earns less than a certain amount, the other spouse receives a fair amount of tax deduction. Women's wages in Japan are often lower than those of men, so women will choose to return to their families after pregnancy and childbirth. After the age of 65, you can also receive a national pension.
4, Germany: full-time wives have a stable salary
The German government will give full-time wives a stable salary of 300 euros per month, and the husband can also enjoy preferential taxes.
【Final Conclusion】
At this year's conference, Wei Zhenling, a law degree from Sun Yat-sen University, suggested: "Let full-time mothers or full-time fathers become 'legal occupations'. ”
If it is really realized, I believe that the situation of stay-at-home mothers in the future will be better and better. I also sincerely hope that stay-at-home mothers can get more benefits and protection in the future, and get more respect and understanding from more people.