Cao Cao's two wives | Zhang Jie

Mrs. Bian in the TV series Secrets of the Three Kingdoms (2018).

Cao Cao's original wife was surnamed Ding, because Cao Cao's mother was also surnamed Ding, and some people speculated that Lady Ding might be his cousin. Young couples, cousins and cousins, the emotional foundation should not be bad. Lady Ding had nothing to do, and Cao Ang, who died early, was raised by her. Ding is a concubine, Ang is the eldest son, and very prominent, twenty years old filial piety, and accompanied his father to saddle before the horse, in the military prestige is not low, the card face, no mistakes.

But things went well to a certain stage, and there would always be a sharp turn, and the heir with a great future was shot by a random arrow in Wancheng.

Cao led Zi Ang, nephew An Min, and the general Dianwei to attack Wancheng, AndiHou Zhang Xiu, the Marquis of Wancheng, knew that he was invincible, put down his blade and led the people to welcome the peaceful liberation of Wancheng, Cao Cao entered Wancheng and mainly did two things, sleeping Zhang Xiu's aunt and spending money to bribe Zhang Xiu's right-hand man Hu Che'er.

One sentence evaluation: not people.

Zhang Xiu's uncle, Zhang Ji, had been dead for less than a year, and his bones were not cold. Not to mention that the big boss did not die to bribe the second boss, Zhang Xiu even if it is a pig's head also knows what he is plotting, immediately reversed, raided Cao Jun, Cao Cao's son and nephew a big general, all buried in this "Wancheng love story".

The child was killed, and Lady Ding stopped drying, scolding Cao Cao every day and crying endlessly.

Curse what: "Kill my son, and don't think about it again!" ”

It turned out that she really loved the child.

It was not her own child, of course, they had the common interests tied together, the heir was killed, Lady Ding lost her dependence, it was a big disadvantage, but assuming that she was a qualified politician, Cao Cao's son was not a lot, and it was not difficult to inherit one. Cao Cao is ashamed of her, if she is gentle and small at this time, accompanyIng Cao through the pain of losing his son, the feelings between the two sides will inevitably change from very strong to huge, even unbreakable, the card game has not yet passed eight circles, and the future is still promising.

Cao Cao was a qualified (clever) politician, and seeing what he did, he first paid tribute to Dianwei and said to everyone: "I fold the eldest son, love my nephew, there is no deep pain, and I cry dianwei alone!" This paragraph is from the "Romance of the Three Kingdoms", there is no historical record, but from Madame Ding's sentence "Kill my son, I will not repeat it" to speculate, fabricated quite reliable. Then Zhang Xiu, who surrendered again two years later, did not care about his previous suspicions, and warmly took the hand of Zhang Xiu's counselor Jia Xu: "Those who make me believe in the world, Zi Ye (thank you for giving me a chance to show my temperament). ”

A qualified politician, even with the death of his son, can be used as political capital to turn grief into strength.

Mrs. Ding is not a politician, she is just a mother.

It's not "My son is dead, what do you pay me?" Nor is it "My son is dead, how miserable I will be!" "Even more is not" The son is dead, husband, although you don't say it on your lips, you must be very sad in your heart, right? ”

It's "You killed my son, why are you still living as usual?" ”

That's a good boy, such a good kid, don't you miss him at all? Biluo Huangquan is thinking about him, is it only me, the mother? Is this kid like a piece of char siu to you?

Where cao Cao could bear this kind of anger, let the family go back to his mother's house to think clearly. Madame went and never returned. Lao Cao later went to pick it up, and even "stroked his back: Gu I carried it together?" The lady's eyelids were not raised, and she took care of herself to weave cloth, and the two said goodbye, and they would never see each other again in this life.

Lady Ding's deeds are only four or five short lines in the Romance of the Three Kingdoms, and there is no canonical history of her own, only as evidence of the description of Empress Bian's virtuousness, leaving a shallow silhouette. But this silhouette penetrated the back of the paper, betraying the original intention of the historian to record her words and deeds, carrying a very distinct image and an unusually strong love and hate to me for more than a thousand years. Time has passed, the traces of the wise and brilliant king in my heart have gradually blurred, and this weeping, stubborn and proud woman who does not know the times is still unforgettable to me. Probably because values will change with the times or the situation, but human emotions are consistent, so people who have lived sincerely can still get some favoritism.

After Lady Ding fled, Lady Bian (later Empress Bian) ascended the throne. This one is also a wonderful person, three days and two ends to send things to the Ding clan do not say, but when Cao Cao rolled out to fight, she sent someone to take the Ding clan, eat some good, drink some good, but also Ding sat on the top, she was in the lower position, and expressed her support for the status of the Ding clan as the head of the family.

- She actually really thinks about her.

People can not be separated from the times and environment, even if the Ding family is proud, is also a cousin, even if she can weave cloth, economically independent, women in ancient times is still the property of her father and brother, she can spend the rest of her life calmly, Mrs. Bian's attitude is very critical: this person is still our person, she can do whatever she wants, not bullying and insulting. The Romance of the Three Kingdoms also refers to this as Lady Bian's virtuous virtue (or the expression of virtuous virtue?). The evidence, whether she was virtuous or not, will be said later, but I can say with certainty that she did these things absolutely sincerely and without mannerism. There is only one criterion for judging: what she sends, Ding Shi is willing to receive, she goes to pick it up, And Ding Shi is willing to come.

Talking about whether she is virtuous or not, the conclusion: she is not (the kind of man imagines) virtuous.

This person is full of the extreme coldness and impatience of a high-level migrant worker: there is no choice but to do this job.

Cao Cao said that it was her husband, more like her boss, who later became Cao Pi. Of course, she is smart and thoughtful and capable, but the impeccable details of those big sections are actually conveying this sentence: stupid boss, less to annoy me.

When Cao Cao refused Dong Zhuo's appointment to flee, Yuan Shu sent false news that Cao Cao was dead, and the people's hearts of the subordinates who had come to surrender were scattered, and she wanted the birds and beasts to disperse, so she stepped forward: "Cao Junji is unknown, he is still home today, if he is here tomorrow, how can he see each other again?" It is causing misfortune, and what a pain to die together! ”

What does such a person who has the courage and the strategy to have a big picture view and can do things peacefully get? Never-ending temptations.

Cao Cao gave her earrings, one of the upper and middle and the lower, to see how she chose, she picked the middle, saying that it was greed that picked the upper class, and that it was hypocrisy to pick the inferior.

Everyone calls it wise, but I have compassion for him: Do you really want to send it? Do you really want to send the best and most expensive? What normal husband gives gifts like this? Is she your wife or a big horse monkey in the circus?

When Cao Pi was crowned crown prince, Chang Yu congratulated her, saying that she was going to vacate the warehouse to pretend to be a reward, and she had no expression on her face: "The king thinks that Pi is old, so he uses it as an heir, but I should be fortunate to avoid the sin of not being taught, and what is the heavy gift!" The gods immediately reported to Cao Cao, who said: "Anger does not change, joy does not lose discipline, so it is the most difficult." ”

I am really convinced, your own ghostly appearance, but your wife wants to "be angry and not to be disfigured."

Cao Pi succeeded to the throne, and had a fight with his younger brother Cao Zhi, asking his attendants to show her the evidence of his brother's crime, and she said: "I don't care what this child did, Emperor Ru huanyu, I can't break the law of the land." Translation: "You go back and tell the emperor what you love to do, and don't bother me." ”

I could neither see her virtuousness nor her virtue, only her deep white eyes at the Cao family's "man who wants to be king", hidden in the impeccable words and deeds of the living.

The only two times in her life was true love, one was the perfect care for Mrs. Ding, and the other was to see the long-lived old man on the road, always ask about her age, send something, and shed tears and say: If my parents could live to your age, how good it would be.

She was from an advocate family, and her early life is not recorded, and it is difficult to say how well her parents would have treated her and loved her if they were there, but her husband and son really disappointed her. Therefore, she attributed all her imagination of the beautiful feelings of human beings to her parents, and her understanding, respect and love for Mrs. Ding became a matter of course: this person is my ideal mother, if one day, I am also trapped in the underworld, and there is a mother in the world who remembers me, and calls my name loudly, and my soul will probably not be afraid to be lost.

These two women, from the world view to the methodology, are all very different, one is frank and straightforward, and the other hides the true self more tightly; One is as fierce as fire, one has no emotional ups and downs; One advantage and disadvantage are obvious, one is perfectly in line with social norms; But they were all proud, principled, and had backbones, and I saw that the women of that era could be so decisive, resolute, and reasonable. They do not blindly keep promises, do not dare to put personal and personal feelings and feelings first, and do not know how to respect themselves.

Author:Zhang Jie

Editor: Qian Yutong