In recent years, more and more young people have been lying flat.
Two days ago I watched a local forum in Shanghai, and a landlord said that there was a boy in a relative's family, who graduated for two years, graduated from 211, and now has been staying at home and not looking for a job.
His parents are both 211 college graduates, his father is engaged in technology, and his mother is a full-time chicken baby at home, and finally put his chicken into 211. When my son was in college, the school arranged a unit internship. The internship unit is not bad, this boy is not good intern, three days of fishing, two days of drying nets, two days of work, sleeping at home for a lazy night, just take a day off. When I graduated, I naturally did not stay in the internship unit.
The school recruitment is also fruitless, and I can only submit my resume. Now the job is difficult to find, cast for a while, high is not low, simply give up, play at home every day.
Of course, his mother was very angry, the chicken baby chicken for half a day, the chicken an old hen, squatting at home every day to incubate the egg! Home daily chicken flying dog jump. The son said: Why can you lie flat, I can't. Anyway, my grandparents also have a house, give me a set later, it's a big deal that I sold the house to live in a third-tier city for a lifetime. I'm not going to get married anyway.
He also yelled at his mother: Do you know that my classmates have not yet graduated, and my parents have arranged jobs. People have a good future when they graduate. What do I have? You still dream every day that I will marry a daughter-in-law with good conditions. As far as I am, no one can look up to me, and I am not as good as a foreigner.
This set of combination punches came down, and the mother was beaten by the son to the skin. After half a day, Eva chose to lie flat, complaining that she was at home full-time and did not play a good leading role; The second complained that his parents did not give him a good job and could not find him a good job. In a word, he can't do it because his parents can't.
Of course, this kind of son is born to be angry with his parents, does not talk about martial arts, has no conscience, and does not want to think about who his mother is full-time for. It's better to raise him than to raise a piece of char siu. But after 00, after 95, there are indeed more and more young people like this who have low eyes, do not want to make progress, and only want to lie flat.
For example, someone went back under this post, there was a girl next to her, a graduate of the East China University of Political Science and Law, her father was an employee of a state-owned enterprise, and her mother was in the grass-roots system, almost retired, and she could go home to the unit every day. The little girl didn't do anything for a long time, and she resigned after making fun of it. Later, he chose to squat at home to take the full-time civil service examination. The first year of the written exam passed, the interview did not pass. Since then, I have been using the excuse of preparing for the exam and staying at home. I didn't see how she reviewed, the first priority every day is to play mobile phones, play games, and brush videos.
The parents also said no.
Not to mention, although these children don't work their own, they only know how to complain about their parents, but they lie flat and their parents really have a lost relationship.
When our generation was young, we saw that our parents went to work every day, and subconsciously took work for granted: people had to go to work.
When we reach adulthood, we naturally take work for granted. Conversely, if one of the parents is full-time, or the job seems easy, the child's enthusiasm for finding a job is not high.
Children are all like learning, which is based on data.
Professor Kathleen McGinn of Harvard Business School did a study in which she pooled data on the employment and family status of 13,326 women and 18,152 men in 24 developed countries and found that the employment status of mothers between the ages of 0 and 14 was associated with their children's performance as adults, especially girls. If the mother works hard, the child will also have a higher employment rate and a higher income in the future.
Let's just say that when I worked at home, I also thought I was so relaxed, and I could stare at the computer every day. She could clearly see what I was doing, felt that making money was just that, and expressed her envy to me. (If she had seen some people go to work and fish, she would probably be even more envious.) ）
I explained to her, you see I have to write at least a few thousand words a day, you write 400 words feel hard, do you think I can do the work? And I don't just have to write, I still have to find information, I have to find materials, I have to read books, you see I stare at the computer, in fact, my brain has been turning. At the same time, I have to cook, clean up the house, take care of you, I am not at all relaxed.
Although the words were said, I was not sure that she would not listen to them. Because when I was young, I used to write my homework and be jealous that my parents could watch TV after dinner, and I still had to study.
The structure of the modern family has changed, with parents who are dual-career and work both sides of the family much less than my parents' generation. Many families are full-time or have easy work on the one hand to take care of their children, and many are unemployed in middle age.
This may also give the child a signal: people, do not have to work; Work does not have to be worked on.
On the other hand, the entire social environment, including the value orientation, is also changing: celebrities sing a song casually, and the income is ridiculously high; The anchor sits in front of the mobile phone to talk, and the money comes; Demolition of the second generation to tear down a house, standing on the ground into a multi-millionaire...
In addition, various online social platforms are also "trying to mislead" everyone: micro-businessmen in the circle of friends, travel abroad at every turn, buy a house and buy a car, as simple as buying Cabbage; A certain person per capita 985, annual salary of one million, people in the United States, just got off the plane; A forum per capita Shanghai three suites, a set of self-occupied a set of rent a set for the next generation, of which from the housing per capita of tens of millions, less than ten million are considered old and broken, the rental of the set no matter how big or small, each month the rent has a large thousand ...
Just go online and see all these things. How do you say young people can do a few thousand yuan a month of work in a down-to-earth and willing manner? In fact, even in Shanghai, there are still many jobs before tax, the bosses are very picky, like CICC's kind of money and rough fear of giving less bosses after all, most bosses can spend a penny to recruit people, never willing to spend two cents.
Look at the house price again, it is as high as the sky. After taxing 100,000 a year, you can't afford to buy a house without eating or drinking for 10 years. This generation of young people also generally has the old to chew. Even if he doesn't earn a penny, he can't starve to death, so he can still eat and drink spicy, not work, and play mobile phones and blow air conditioning.
Coupled with the fact that these children patronize learning in the process of growing up, they have no idea what they really like, the only purpose of finding a job is to make money, and their material desire is not high, and they are not so eager to make money.
No wonder young people don't want to try anymore.
But in the end, the most critical problem is that it is really difficult to find a job now. It's normal to vote for dozens of resumes to get an interview. Today's young people, frustrated ability simply can not adapt to such a recruitment environment. A 211 university undergraduate graduate, most of them from elementary school, junior high school, high school all the way up. Probably the biggest setback in this life is failing the exam. Boys don't say looking for a job, that is, chasing girls is rejected once or twice, and they will not hit the wall again.
If in the process of job hunting, like a bear breaking corn, at first look at some jobs, refuse some offers, can not think of noodles to later find that the choice of noodles is less and less, get the offer is not as good as the initial rejection of those, choose to squat at home is very normal.
It is foreseeable that in the future, more and more young people will choose to lie flat. Especially those young people who grew up in the city and had a good family, they are more likely not to work.
This is a cup of bitter wine brewed by the family environment and social environment, and after more than ten years, parents will find that the level of children's education is not a matter at all, only if the child is willing to work hard after graduation, it is the only important thing.