preface
Because the idea of son preference has not disappeared from ancient times to the present, it has led to a very serious problem before, that is, there are more men and fewer women, and the proportion of men and women is seriously imbalanced.
What impressed me more was the news I saw in 2020, when the census results came out, it was found that there were 30 million to 40 million more men than women in China, which meant that there would be so many men playing single sticks in the future, which saddened those families with boys.
At that time, some experts also deliberately analyzed the current situation, determined to find a solution, in addition to promoting equality between men and women, giving birth to boys and girls are the same method, but also put forward the idea of attracting foreign women to Come to China, which can also be regarded as attracting a lot of people's support. Of course, there are also some absurd remarks, such as the proposal of polygamy, which has caused many netizens to laugh, is this a return to feudal society?
Under the situation that it is becoming more and more difficult for boys to find a partner to marry, many people have set their sights on foreign countries, and several Vietnamese daughters-in-law have come to our village.
The neighbor's Vietnamese daughter-in-law
A long time ago, my neighbor married a Vietnamese daughter-in-law, I heard that when I came, I was brought by the introducer, and when I was satisfied, I left it directly, and if I was not satisfied, I would bring it back to Vietnam.
The introducer is equivalent to the girl's mother's family, because the family is poor and far away, as long as the gift is finalized, the introducer will leave directly with the money, and the girl will live a good life here.
The neighbor's Vietnamese daughter-in-law, Chinese named Xiao Min, has been here for twelve or three years, has a son who is in elementary school, and the family is also harmonious. Because she was far away in a foreign country, since coming to China, she had never thought of going back again, and this place had become her home, and she would never leave again in her life.
Xiao Min has four brothers and sisters in the family, she is the eldest, the family is relatively poor, owes a lot of money, in order to pay off the debt, she came here with the introducer when she was twenty-one years old. Parents talked to her when they went out
When you come to China, you will live there just fine, just when you have never had this home, if you dare to run back by yourself, your legs will be broken.
Yes, you heard it right, in this case, Xiaomin came to China, was introduced to bring here, and lived here for more than ten years, she never mentioned going home to see, because when she left home, she died herself.
When the introducer left with 50,000 yuan, she was not a Vietnamese girl, but a Chinese daughter-in-law, who no longer had anything to do with the past.
The first time I saw Xiao Min, it was already a month after she came here, and I felt very surprised at the time, because it was slightly different from Chinese's appearance, not much different, but there was always a sense of awkwardness, the skin was a little dark, thin and weak, speaking unfamiliar Chinese, word by word jumping out.
Usually the door of the neighbor's house is always locked, at that time I did not understand, why married to the daughter-in-law to lock in the house, other people's homes are everywhere to visit the door, sometimes go out are two people together, never saw Xiao Min alone out.
At that time, marrying a foreign daughter-in-law was a new thing, the children of the neighbors would run over and lie at the door of the neighbor's house, constantly looking inside, Xiao Min saw this, would smile at the door, waved, at this time, the children would run home.
As time slowly passes, she can gradually see Xiao Min's figure, she will go to the ground with her in-laws, she will also go to the street with her husband to buy things, and when she hears her occasional greetings from others, the Chinese language is becoming more and more skilled. Walking in the village, you often hear the village, often hear the discussion of the uncle and the grandmother, who married the daughter-in-law, gave birth to a child, Xiao Min's family was also once a hot topic in the village.
After more than a year, Xiao Min was pregnant, and the number of times she went out was even more, unlike the original ten and a half days to catch a glimpse, occasionally see her walking in the doorway with her stomach up, and when she saw me, she would greet me warmly.
At that time, I was a little nervous about this foreign daughter-in-law who did not meet much, and often whispered a mutter, and then quickly ran away with my head down.
Later, Xiao Min would often sit at the door with her in-laws with a bowl, while watching her in-laws chat with neighbors, while eating, everyone became more and more familiar with the neighbor's daughter-in-law, and quickly caught up with each other, at that time, the folk customs were very simple, and the neighbors and neighbors were very harmonious. While chatting, everyone listened to Xiao Min's relatively smooth Chinese, and their sense of strangeness towards this foreign daughter-in-law became lighter and lighter.
After giving birth to a child, it is often seen that Xiaomin pushes the child to walk at the door, asking the aunts and brides around for advice, such as how to make steamed buns, how to take children and so on. Everyone is also very enthusiastic to teach experience to Xiaomin, although they can only see Xiaomin's head constantly nodding, and occasionally jump out of the strange words, everyone thinks she should understand.
Because I am a neighbor, Xiao Min is also very enthusiastic about my neighbor's little sister, and at the beginning she often tells me about her family, and I also have some sense of identification with this woman who has traveled thousands of miles to come here. She would often come up to me and ask me what something I meant, and I would slowly tell her and teach her to correct her pronunciation.
The neighbor family is a very kind person, never heard of Xiao Min here has been bullied, her husband is very good to her, what to eat, or fresh things will want to bring to her, the in-laws do not have any temper, since giving birth to a child, Xiao Min has gained a lot of weight, when she goes out to see the corners of her mouth will have a smile.
After living like this for a few years, I went out to school, except for the annual vacation, I was basically not at home, and I often stayed at home when I came back, and the number of times I saw Xiaomin was even less. But I also found that she was becoming more and more like an authentic Chinese daughter-in-law, speaking without that strange accent, and her skin was a little whiter, as if she were someone who grew up here.
When I saw her last year, she came back with her children to buy things, chatted for a while, and realized that she was very happy now, running a noodle restaurant with her husband, she was responsible for cleaning the front and cashier, her husband was responsible for the back kitchen, and the family also bought a car.
She smiled and told me that now she is in charge of the family' wealth, whether it is the accounting or the expenses of the children at home, she is responsible. She is now no different from other Chinese daughters-in-law, the female protagonist inside, the male protagonist outside, may be what she thinks this means, but not all daughters-in-law are in charge of money, this she may not know.
Years ago, she heard the news that Xiaomin was pregnant, she said that she wanted a girl this time, Chinese pay attention to both children, maybe what she wanted to do was to be a good daughter-in-law as stated in the book.
In fact, many things are unfamiliar to her, but what she does is not worse than others, several families in the village have also married Vietnamese daughters-in-law, and one family has not even been half a year, the new daughter-in-law has gone, it belongs to Xiao Min's family.
Watching the neighbors teasing their grandson's happy smile every day, I think that whether it is a Chinese daughter-in-law or a foreign daughter-in-law, as long as a big son who can be happy is better than anything.