"Is it better to have a daughter or a son"?
"Of course, it is good to have a daughter, what is the use of raising a son",
These words have also become the words of many elderly people in society now.
Whenever I hear this, I can't help but think of the TV series "My Ugly Lady" many years ago, when the "Ugly Lady" played by Zhang Shaohua went to the city to send money to her son, she was seen by the newly married daughter-in-law and asked "Who is she?"?
The son directly said "ask for directions", "Ugly Lady Zhang Shaohua" heard his son who had loved all his life say this, and tears swirled in his eyes in an instant.
He interpreted the complex feelings of "ugly lady" that were sad and desperate and endured to the fullest, and each scene could resonate with the audience and earn enough tears from the audience.
Zhang Shaohua has thus become the "ugly lady" in the minds of the national audience, and she has also gained the title of a powerful actor and an old drama bone, and has received an olive branch from many directors.
In fact, why can Zhang Shaohua play the role of "ugly lady" into three points? On the one hand, it is her growth experience since childhood, and on the other hand, it comes from the real life portrayal of her real life and son.
What is the story of such a mother with great maternal brilliance, who lived an incomparably bleak life in her old age? What kind of reflection can the story of Zhang Shaohua cause us to reflect?
In 1936, Zhang Shaohua was born in Beijing to a poor family with many brothers and sisters, all supported by his father alone, and his life was very poor.
But the roof leaked in the overnight rain, and when Zhang Shaohua was three years old, the father of the only pillar in the family also died, which made the already poor family worse.
Her mother alone is really unable to take care of many sisters, so Zhang Shaohua has lived with her grandparents since she was three years old, and has since lost her father's love and mother's love, perhaps this is the beginning of her tragic life.
At the age of 13, in order to shoulder the burden of the family, Zhang Shaohua entered the Beijing Commentary Theater, and after studying here for a while, Zhang Shaohua found herself very interested in Qingyi, and once fantasized about being able to shine on the stage of Peking Opera, and did not think that because of her appearance, she could only sing the clown of the old voice.
But even so, after decades of singing, Zhang Shaohua was still unknown, until 1982, she finally attracted a chance to show her face, in the movie "Flowers for Media", she and Zhao Lirong partnered to play the matchmaker.
This time the partnership also made Zhang Shaohua and Zhao Lirong become good friends, and under the advice of Zhao Lirong, Zhang Shaohua began to get involved in the show business circle.
At this time, she was more than half a hundred years old, and she felt that she should have no chance to catch fire, but fate was always full of variables, and her career began to usher in a turning point in her later years.
In 1993, the director of "Wuyi Xianfanjie" threw an olive branch to Zhang Shaohua, she played the role of "witch" in the play, although the role was not much, but Zhang Shaohua acted very hard, so that many audiences remembered this "old lady" who did not look proud.
Since the beginning of this drama, Zhang Shaohua has become a candidate for "mother" in the minds of many directors, and she has been featured in TV series such as "Dragon Hall", "Huan Zhu Gege", "Dazhaimen", "Kangxi Micro Service Private Interview" and so on.
There are also many actors who have cooperated, including Zhang Fengyi, Zhang Guoguo, Li Bingbing, He Saifei, Chen Xiaoyi, Sun Honglei and so on.
Although most of them are small roles, Zhang Shaohua is serious and never picky, and her professionalism has also been praised by many directors.
In 2005, she won the highest award in the television industry, the Magnolia Award for Best Actress, for the TV series "Secret".
And let Zhang Shaohua be well known by the national audience, but also belongs to the 2008 TV series "My Ugly Lady", in the play Zhang Shaohua is a kind, kind and extremely tolerant person, for her son at all costs to dedicate everything to the "ugly lady".
When filming this TV series, Zhang Shaohua was already 62 years old, and perhaps it was her ordeal in her life since she was a child that allowed her to portray the image of the "ugly lady" into three points.
She played the "ugly lady" who was willing to pay everything for her son and secretly endured not to get close to her son, so that many viewers followed her every appearance, leaving bitter tears.
After the broadcast of this drama, Zhang Shaohua's career reached its peak, but at this time, her own later life was in the same depths as the "ugly lady" in the play.
At this time, Zhang Shaohua, who has already achieved success in his career, still lives in the 40-square-meter old house that was divided into theaters decades ago, and there are no traces of decoration in the small space, and everyone can't believe that this is a house where powerful old actors live.
When everyone saw Zhang Shaohua's daily life, she was even more shocked, she was very frugal, the family's leftovers were not willing to pour, the next meal was eaten, even the clothes she usually wore were thrown away by her son.
This makes many people wonder why an old actor who has been acting for many years will have such a shabby life?
In fact, Over the years, Zhang Shaohua has also made a lot of money filming, but this money is used to buy a big house for her son and marry a daughter-in-law, she is over 70 years old and does not dare to retire, even if she is sick, she is not willing to break the contract, and insists on filming with illness, just because she still has to help her son pay off the mortgage.
Why did Zhang Shaohua dote on his son so much, everyone said that the habit was like killing the son, why did Zhang Shaohua personally turn his son into a "nibbling old family"?
This stems from the guilt in Zhang Shaohua's heart, after Zhang Shaohua married Zhang Huibao, who was also in the commentary theater many years ago, in order to do a good job, the two could only leave their young son to the care of their grandparents, and Zhang Shaohua's own childhood experience also made his son experience as it was.
The son's entire childhood Zhang Shaohua and his wife were absent, and the number of times they met with their son was countless, until she took her son home after the son was 14 years old, at this time the son had grown into a big guy, and the long-term lack of maternal love made it impossible for them to communicate with each other.
The weak mother-son relationship makes the son like a stranger to Zhang Shaohua, and Zhang Shaohua also relies on his son for everything in order to make up for the guilt in his heart, and the son tries his best to satisfy everything, blindly obeying the son's uncontrollable "nibbling old".
Despite this, when Zhang Shaohua fell ill and was admitted to the hospital, her son never came to visit, and everyone shouted directly, "This son is not as good as his son Yang Zhigang and his daughter Su Yan."
Zhang Shaohua and Gan's son Yang Zhigang
But when Zhang Shaohua saw that some netizens angrily criticized his son, Zhang Shaohua rose up with a strong heart of calf protection and rushed to help his son explain.
Zhang Shaohua's actions made many people sad, and her life portrayal was also very similar to the life of the "ugly lady", but when the "ugly lady" in the TV series lay on the hospital bed, she finally waited for her son's "mother".
In reality, Zhang Shaohua has been ill since 2019, until her death in 2021, she has not waited to visit her son, life is like a white colt, Zhang Shaohua's life is sad and desolate, we can't judge whether what she did is right or wrong, but the story on her body also makes us think a lot.
Zhang Shaohua's whole life has been living for his family, when he was a child, he entered the judging theater in order to bear the burden of the family, but he did not think about it, but he became late because of the appearance problem, and in his later years, he was tired of running for his son's life.
Is a mother's lack of love for her son really so unforgivable for the sake of her career and life? As a son, did he ever think about his mother's helplessness at that time? At that time, Zhang Shaohua may not have seen his son, and he could not know the pain of the cone heart day and night.
Even if there was a lack of love for his son for fourteen years, is it not enough to make up for many years from the age of fourteen? At least when she insisted on her dreams, she did not let her son live on the street, nor did she let his son be hungry and cold.
She is too fond of her son, although it is not advisable, but her son's approach is worthy of anger, "nibbling on the old" is a parasitic existence, despised by the world, calling on every young person to have an independent life, adults should create the life they want through their own hands, rather than blindly "nibbling on the old".
And the problem of old-age care in society has also become a common problem, many elderly people are busy with their children's lives, and in their later years they have to worry about their sons' small families, we should reflect on how should the parenting grace of parents be returned?
Filial piety comes first, crows have the feeling of feeding back, lambs have the grace of kneeling milk, filial piety and kindness to parents is the best feng shui of a family, and it is also the obligation of everyone as a child.
Filial piety to parents does not have to buy your parents a big house, buy how expensive clothes and jewelry, just need to start from small things, do not blame parents for doing small things wrong, do not forget to filial piety to parents because of work, do not wait until "children want to raise and do not wait" to regret.
Lin Zexu once said that "having a bad heart, feng shui is useless, parents are disrespectful, and worshiping god is useless", a person is not filial to his parents, praying to God and worshiping Buddha will not bring good luck to himself, and life is even more unlikely to prosper.
May parents all over the world share the joy of the world with their children, and may the children of the whole world fulfill their filial piety in time.
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