As a parent, I definitely hope that my children can perform well, especially some of the more lively and cheerful children, parents will default to the fact that these children belong to the category with higher IQs. Parents, on the other hand, often don't tell the difference between being really smart and being fake smart. It is likely that there is a difference in judging the child's IQ, and if the problem is not found and stopped in time, the child will not become a big instrument in the future.
What are the characteristics of "fake smart" children? Parents should pay attention to it, most of them are the first type of 3 types of children who are unreliable. Yu Yu's mother was preparing her child's meal at home, but the knock on the door downstairs prevented the continuation of the steps. It turned out that the neighbor's aunt asked her mother for compensation, and after understanding, the neighbor believed that her child accidentally broke the glass in the process of playing, so she needed her mother to compensate. But when his mother confronted Yu Yu, Yu Yu denied it and did not admit that it was what he did. The two adults argued endlessly, and in order to be able to restore the truth of the matter, they sought surveillance from the community, and the result was really what Yu Yu did.
Originally, this matter was not particularly serious, just need to be able to apologize to the neighbor, this matter may be able to pass smoothly, after all, as a neighbor, but also to get along day and night, I definitely do not want this matter to freeze the relationship. However, because Yu Yu did not admit that this matter was done by himself, and therefore misunderstood other children, in order to explore the truth, he also delayed everyone's time, which made the neighbors very angry. In our side, there will always be such children who look very smart and can use their own little wisdom to complete their goals, but in fact, this kind of child is often not liked by everyone, it is precisely because they are good at lying for a long time, which leads to no credibility in the eyes of adults, after losing trust, in the future growth process will also lose the affirmation of others, such children will not have a career in the future.
If the child has lied once and the parents have not stopped it. Then the child will become accustomed to it in the future, so parents must solve the child's wrong behavior as soon as possible. First analyze the reasons why the child lies, and think about the problem from the child's point of view. Second, parents should also take a different approach to different reasons for making mistakes. If the child does not understand the seriousness of his own behavior, parents should be able to give the child these common sense as soon as possible, so that the child can clearly judge whether his behavior is correct.
As a parent, you must tell your child that when you do something wrong, you must take the initiative to admit it. If you want to get something, you must rely on your own efforts, just by deception, there is no way to get it. Of course, parents, while telling their children these big truths, should also pay attention to the psychological changes of their children, so that children can recognize the education of parents from the bottom of their hearts and understand that this matter is not done correctly. At the same time, parents should also set an example and lead by example.
The second kind of child likes to challenge the order. Antoine took the children to the playground to play, but seeing that the queue was relatively long, he took advantage of the small age of his children to help occupy the position, that is, to cut in line. Passers-by will definitely accuse parents of improper education methods when they see such behavior, and this parent does not realize his mistake, but instead recognizes the child's behavior of taking sides. This kind of child actually belongs to the category of fake intelligence, and it is true that letting children help queue up can effectively reduce time, but in fact, parents ask their children to do this, which directly ruins their children's future. To survive in today's society, we must know the importance of observing order, and only by understanding these orders and implementing them according to order can we be recognized by society.
Children with a strong sense of order can play with other children better. If you blindly destroy the existing regulations, then the child will also be rejected by other children, and it will be difficult to integrate into the large group. As a parent, we must correctly guide our children's incorrect behavior, especially this kind of behavior that undermines order, so that children are deeply aware that if they want to develop in society in the future, they must abide by order. The third is to only take care of your own children. It turned out that Haidilao would give beef grains to guests at each table, because one thing happened and directly canceled this welfare treatment, it turned out that a mother also led her children to haidilao to eat on this day, and took these free meals as side dishes.
This behavior of the mother may just want to save her own costs, but this kind of taking advantage of the small is not recommended for everyone to follow. If these free foods are used directly as side dishes, they directly violate the essence of free food. Therefore, Haidilao finally decided to cancel this treatment. If the child blindly pursues the immediate interests without making plans for his own long-term development, the child will no longer have a big picture view in the future work process. Such children will not have a career in society in the future, so parents must pay attention to their children's vision in the process of cultivating their children.
The author's message: Parents must learn to distinguish these false intelligences, and at the same time, they should use the correct three views to find the wrong behavior and stop it in time.