The neighbor and his son had a cold war, because during the quarantine, his son was addicted to games, and he was left to play games except for eating, drinking and sleeping. The old mother looked upset, and turned off her son's computer, who knew that the son directly exploded in situ, yelling at her: Tube! Tube! Tube! I have to take care of everything! When I was a child, I didn't let you play games, and now that I'm in college, I still don't want to play, is it only when I die that you know how to let go?
The old mother was yelled at by her son, and felt that her son was a white-eyed wolf, and the mother and son had a cold war under one breath. But to be honest, I don't find it strange at all that the mother and son have this confrontation.
The neighbor is a master of the "chicken baby world", and his son has been the multi-talented person of the chicken since he was a child, and has always been "someone else's child". Only in the matter of playing games, the mother and son have constant differences, the mother insists on the game to waste her life, prohibits her son from playing games, and the son argues on the grounds that he will not delay learning. In the worst case, the mother smashed her son's newly purchased game console in anger, and finally caused the neighbors to run to persuade the fight before pulling the mother and son apart.
In the past 20 years, the speed of video games has been staggering. With the popularity of mobile phones, more and more children are beginning to contact and even indulge in video games. This has led most parents to see video games as a flood beast and staunchly resist, just like my neighbors.
What is the difference between a baby who is forbidden to play games since childhood and a baby who is not restricted
Unlike the neighbor's son, the cousin's son almost followed his father to play a game. When the child was a child, the second aunt always said that my brother was unreliable, and people in their 30s played games by themselves, and often pulled their nephews to play together. Father and son often get together to play, and in the end, some levels cousins can't beat, and they have to ask for help from their little nephews...
After the child goes to college, the cousin directly gives his account to his nephew and asks him to help him upgrade when he is fine! In the end, it was the nephew who refused on the grounds that he wanted to go to graduate school, which was very outrageous...
Compared with the two children, although the nephew is not as versatile as the neighbor's son, he also has a specialty in the art industry, and his grades have been good, and he has received scholarships every year when he goes to college. On the other hand, the neighbor's son, as soon as he went to college, seemed to open the door to the new century and was completely addicted to the game.
So I began to think about the difference between the children who were forbidden to play games and the babies who did not exceed the restrictions, and when they grew up, they really had:
(1) Retaliatory compensation brought about by the "forbidden fruit effect"
There is a "forbidden effect" in psychology, which means that the more something is banned, the greater its attraction to people. The same applies to children who have been banned from playing games since childhood!
The more children are forbidden to play games, the more curious they are about what is in the game. When you are young, you may also be forced by the authority of your parents to suppress your curiosity. Once you are far away from your parents and have your own control, this suppressed desire will completely explode and begin to retaliate. It is often seen that some well-behaved students, after going to college, indulge in games or even drop out of school, which is actually the truth.
(2) There are differences in interpersonal skills
Games have a "social" nature in a certain sense, people are social animals, and no one likes to be isolated.
Many of his classmates at school are playing games, and if he wants to fit in as a group, he must play, even if he is not very interested in it. You will find that children who play games are generally better in their social skills.
After graduating from college and looking for a job, a boy in the class went to the interview, and he was admitted because he talked to the interviewer for half an hour about "Warcraft". This magical experience was once talked about by the mathematical brothers.
Our male colleagues in the company organize a battle game once a week. Those new employees, playing the game twice, mingled with the old seniors in minutes.
In the movie "Miracle Boy", the protagonist's classmates apologize to him, which is also carried out through games.
So you see, in the future, especially for boys, games are not only entertainment, but also an effective means of rapidly pulling into interpersonal communication.
(3) There are differences in parent-child relationship
Most of the parents who talk about the game color change are not close to their children's parent-child relationship, and even the parent-child relationship is tense, just like the neighbor and her son. Parents who are less restrictive to their children's play have few worries about this, for example, cousins and nephews.
At my cousin's house, there's nothing a game you can't solve, and if you have one, play two. Even if there is a contradiction between father and son, they will make a date. In the game, the two have revenge and resentment, and they quickly reconcile during the fight.
The relationship between the cousin and the nephew is also a teacher and a friend, and if he loses the game with his colleagues, the cousin will shout: Wait at night, let my son avenge me! When my nephew's studies are lax, my cousin will say harshly: The next exam is still like this, don't think I'll buy you skins.
Other children sneaked up on games, and as soon as my nephew came home, my cousin began to urge me to finish my homework quickly and play two games with me. The seemingly unreliable cousin has become a buddy with his son through playing games, which is really enviable.
No restriction does not mean indulgence
In this day and age, it is not realistic to completely ban children from playing games. Even if it is forbidden at home and school, but the child still has friends and classmates, we cannot guarantee that the child will not touch the game at all when he is with his friends, and it is really better to block the game.
Of course, what we are talking about here is not to restrict children from playing games, nor does it mean that you completely let go of letting children play, but hope that parents will take the initiative to guide children to cultivate a sense of order and proportion in playing games from an early age. Like what:
Guide your child to control the playtime. I love my nephew's view of the game, and I was indoctrinated from an early age that I could only play the game after things were done. Father and son basically only make a round after finishing their work. Weekdays will not exceed 40 minutes, and rest days will not exceed 2 hours. Stimulated by the motivation to play games, the nephew's learning efficiency is very high, and the family rarely worries about his studies.
Identify the game, parents check. Now the online game, mobile game is uneven, the specific can not let the child play also needs to be identified by parents, parents must not throw the game to the child to do the hand-throwing treasurer, it is best to understand the game first.
Behind education is learning, behind games is entertainment, "learning" and "entertainment" are two indispensable parts of life. Just because entertainment may be in crisis, violence cannot be applied to one size fits all, and children are forbidden to play games. Appropriate decentralization and guiding children to plan their own time reasonably is the right approach that smart parents should take in the information age.
So, do you ban the game pie, or do you appropriately let go of the pie? Welcome to leave a message in the comment area to discuss~