As the saying goes, husband and wife "bedside quarrels and bedside and", no matter how big the problem, good consultation between the two can always be solved.
However, actor Zhou Yemang resolutely proposed a divorce request with Xi Meijuan when his wife Xi Meijuan gave birth to him at the age of 39, before the child was full moon.
Many people did not understand Zhou Yemang's decision at first, but judging from the development and life of the two of them now, perhaps for them, divorce is the best arrangement for them...
Born in 1955, Xi Meijuan is a native of Shanghai, she grew up in an ordinary worker family, after graduating from high school was arranged to participate in the countryside to participate in labor, it did not take long to meet the Shanghai Theater Academy enrollment, she with her innate artistic talent successfully admitted to the theater.
After graduating from university, she was assigned to work at the Shanghai People's Art Theater, where she worked for more than a decade, until 1990, when she finally entered the development of the show business circle, pushing open the door of the show business circle with a "Jiang Zhuying".
Zhou Yemang, who is a year younger than her, is also a Shanghainese, he also grew up in a working-class family, and when he was a child, he always hoped to become an actor when he grew up, but he was strongly opposed by his father.
In order to cut off his dream of becoming an actor, after graduating from high school, his father arranged for him to enter the factory to work, and Zhou Yemang, who was forced to stay in the factory to work, was forced to work in the factory.
As a result, the daily step-by-step work not only did not let his actor's dream be worn away, but as this day-to-day work became more and more tired of this life.
Zhou Yemang, who wanted to escape from this life, took advantage of the recovery of the college entrance examination in 1977, he immediately signed up for the exam of drama, and successfully passed, so he became Xi Meijuan's apprentice.
It's just that before he came to the theater, Xi Meijuan had already graduated and went to work in the theater.
In 1982, by the time Zhou Yemang graduated from shanghai opera and was assigned to work at the Shanghai People's Art Theatre, Xi Meijuan had been working here for four years.
In these four years, she has successfully gained a foothold on the stage by creating one role after another on the drama stage, and has also gained a large number of fans, which can be called the red of the theater.
After Zhou Yemang entered the theater, he had always been eager to have the opportunity to cooperate with her, but the development gap between the two was too big at that time, and at first the two had no contact opportunities.
It was not until the second year of his entry into the theater that he honed his acting skills very well through a long period of precipitation on the stage that he finally had the opportunity to cooperate with Xi Meijuan.
Although the development gap between the two at that time was relatively large, after some cooperation, Xi Meijuan, who developed better, developed a strong interest in Zhou Yemang, and she felt that Zhou Yemang was a very serious person.
After that, the two often cooperated, and when Zhou Yemang encountered problems, Xi Meijuan, as a sister and senior, would also teach him carefully.
In addition to work contacts, the two often meet together to eat and go shopping together in private, and slowly, they come together at similar ages.
Although the two once became the object of discussion among theater colleagues because of the "sister-brother love", after seeing that the two of them were indeed truly in love, colleagues also sent blessings.
Less than a year after falling in love, the two of them entered the palace of marriage, and soon after marriage, Xi Meijuan became pregnant with Zhou Yemang's child.
But unfortunately, due to working on the stage for a long time, coupled with her own physical reasons, Xi Meijuan did not keep the child, and the child was miscarried.
Xi Meijuan once fell into a deep self-blame, and Zhou Yemang, who was bent on having a child, was also particularly disappointed, but the two of them did not end their relationship because of this, in order to make Xi Meijuan not blame herself too much, Zhou Yemang also said to her painfully: "It's okay, we are still young, there will be children belonging to us in the future." ”
After that, while running their two-person family, they developed their own careers, unlike Xi Meijuan's insistence on staying on the drama stage, in 1985, Zhou Yemang took the lead in entering the development of show business.
When he first entered the show business circle, he served as a voice actor, and among the roles he dubbed, everyone is most familiar with the role of "Yang Qilang" in TVB's "Yang Family General".
After more than a year of development in the show business circle, he finally ushered in the opportunity to participate in the work of "Xin Fourteen Niang" directed by the famous director Xie Jin, with which he officially began his acting career in the show business circle.
After that, he successively participated in works such as "Ephemeral Dream", "Boudoir Grudge", "Water Margin", "Wind Moon" and so on, and with these works, he has a place in the show business circle.
While he strives to develop his acting career, Xi Meijuan, who stays on the drama stage to develop, also develops very well.
In 1988, she also won the "Plum Blossom Award", the highest award in the Chinese theater industry, with the play "Chinese Dream"!
After laying her own position in the drama industry, seeing that her husband Zhou Yemang was developing well in the show business circle, she also began to get involved in the show business circle, and as a result, compared with her husband, who had not been tepid for many years, she quickly became popular in the show business circle not long after.
In 1990, she opened her screen with her debut film "Fake Girl True Feelings", portraying the role of middle-aged female teacher "Wang Yujuan" into three points, not only got the attention of a large number of audiences, but also won the Golden Rooster Award for Best Actress that year with this role!
The first time she was electrocuted on the screen, she got such a good result, Xi Meijuan also tasted the sweetness of the screen actor, she gradually began to focus on the show business circle, and successively participated in "Jiang Zhuying", "A Tree", "Red Prescription" and so on.
The speed of development is particularly fast, and soon her husband, who entered the show business circle a few years earlier than her, is far behind, and their marriage is also lit up with red lights as the situation of strong women and weak men appears.
Because Xi Meijuan's career development is particularly good, Zhou Yemang has not dared to relax his steps, in order to catch up with his wife, he desperately developed his career, only there is a drama, no matter what role he will take.
It is also because he is too obsessed with filming, going out early and returning late every day, plus many times when he goes out for several months, his love for Xi Meijuan gradually fades, but for all this, Xi Meijuan herself does not know.
In 1994, when Zhou Yemang was gradually disappointed in this marriage, one day Xi Meijuan suddenly ran over to him happily and said, "I am pregnant!" ”
She originally thought that Zhou Yemang would be as happy as she was, but Zhou Yemang did not show excitement, but said to her lightly: "Oh, very good, you have to take care of yourself." ”
Due to the experience of miscarriage, after becoming pregnant again, in order to avoid repeating the same mistakes, Xi Meijuan almost stopped all her work and prepared for delivery at home.
In October of the same year, at the age of 39, she risked becoming an elderly mother and gave birth to a son for Zhou Yemang.
However, compared to the joy she saw on her child's face, Zhou Yemang still did not show too much joy.
It was only at this time that Xi Meijuan finally realized that since she beat herself pregnant, her husband had been lukewarm and lukewarm, and she did not have the care and excitement she had when she first became pregnant, and she guessed that the relationship between the two was estimated to have come to an end.
As she expected, less than a month after she gave birth to the child, before the child was full moon, Zhou Ye mang proposed a divorce to her, he said: "We continue to be together, it is torture to each other, both of them will be painful, let's divorce." ”
Xi Meijuan, who had already made psychological preparations, although she was a little disappointed, she still ended her marriage relationship with Zhou Yemang in line with the principle of good gathering and good dispersion.
After the divorce, Xi Meijuan lived alone with her children, in order to forget this relationship, she did not let the children have the surname of Zhou Yemang, but with her surname, the name is Xi Nan.
It may be that she is afraid that her children will be wronged in the new family after remarriage, or it may be that her marriage with Zhou Yemang has brought her too much disappointment, and after divorcing Zhou Yemang, she has never been married again, and even the emotional scandals are particularly rare.
Over the years, she has been working hard to develop her career and has focused almost all her energy on it.
With superb acting skills, she has successively brought us works such as "Wang Gui and Anna", "The Love of hawthorn trees", "The Love of the Earth", "Untouchable", "That Year the Flowers Bloomed and the Moon Was Full" and so on.
In the past two years, the popular "An Jia", "Wangdao", "Breakout" and other works also have her wonderful performances.
Xi Meijuan, who has developed her career very well, has now not only become an actor loved and supported by the public, but also a national first-class actor, enjoying special state allowances!
In contrast, Zhou Yemang is completely the opposite of Xi Meijuan, after the divorce, he has not been single like Xi Meijuan, but has successively had a scandal with many actresses, and after experiencing many relationships, he later married an actress wang Zhixia who is 7 years younger than him.
Although Wang Zhixia is not well-known, her acting skills are not bad, and she has also participated in many works over the years, and she has appeared in classic works such as "The Gate of the Mansion" and "Mythology".
Although the two have been married for so many years, Wang Zhixia has never given birth to a son and a half daughter for Zhou Yemang, but their relationship is very stable, and Zhou Yemang has always loved her.
From the perspective of feelings and marriage, he who has a happy and sweet family is obviously much better than Xi Meijuan.
But from the career point of view, Zhou Yemang's acting career is far less than Xi Meijuan, although he has been working hard in the show business circle over the years, but he has not been able to meet good opportunities, even if there are more works in the performance, he still has not been able to become popular.
Therefore, compared with Xi Meijuan, who has risen step by step in her career, he is now completely unheard of in the show business circle.
The two of them, who have been divorced for 28 years, one has been single, but the career has developed vigorously, and one has a full harvest of feelings, but the career is not satisfactory.
Perhaps this is why they divorced in the first place, after all, one pursues art and career, and the other pursues ordinary happiness.
For them, separation may be the best choice, you think?