Ordinary Force: Find your own philosophy of life

According to reports, on February 17 this year, Wang Yuan's official fan group reprinted a fan Weibo called "Wang Yuan's Little Tail", informing a matter of illegal infringement of Wang Yuan's privacy rights and being dealt with by the police, from the narrative, it can be learned that a female bastard squatted in the garage of the hotel where Wang Yuan was staying at midnight on the 16th, and then followed Wang Yuan himself to the floor where he was located, and then was found by the staff.

Private behavior will not only cause great trouble to the idol himself, but also cause harm to the idol's reputation, and at the same time bring hidden dangers to public safety, causing serious disorder of order, and also infringing on the privacy of the idol.

Bastard rice is a kind of person who acts extremely and has a crazy style among the fans of the artist star. In order to satisfy their selfish desires, they like to track, voyeurize, and secretly photograph the daily life of celebrities, harass their favorite stars, and affect the private lives of artists and their families. The act of illegitimate meals is highly undesirable.

Teacher He Jiong, an evergreen tree in the entertainment industry, once said, "You love beans no matter how amazing, the loveliest thing in the world is yourself", "He is a star, but you are your own sun" These two sentences are worth pondering. You can only be worthy of yourself if you love yourself more, and between the stars and yourself, you should be better for yourself. You can use your love beans as a role model to motivate you to strive to become better and make your star chasing more valuable.

So how should we learn to love ourselves more, and how can we do it to be worthy of ourselves?

All the answers are shared in Yataro Matsuura's Ordinary Force. Japanese life aesthetician Yataro Matsuura has his own unique views on these issues. Yataro Matsuura went to the United States alone at the age of 18, and in the wandering loneliness, he began to pay attention to the lifestyle that enriched his soul, constantly seeking answers from his heart, and finally discovered his basic style of clothing, food, housing and work.

The purpose of this book is to take the author's personal example, let more people think about what their true colors are, accept the true self, and learn to find interesting and happy ordinary moments from ordinary life day after day, and find the philosophy of ordinary people's lives. Accept the identity of ordinary people, identify with the value of ordinary people, throw away meaningless comparisons, focus on personal life, and truly become yourself.

01 Value with Fast Fashion

Yataro Matsuura has his own unique set of feelings and views on simple, simple but expensive products.

For example, a handkerchief made of pure linen cloth in Ireland is a square white handkerchief that sells for 5,000 yen (253.7 yuan). Yataro Matsuura bought the handkerchief, tried it out, and made a new discovery. This handkerchief has a completely different skin touch than a cheap one.

After using it for a period of time, it was further found that this handkerchief will not be deformed no matter how to clean, and has excellent water absorption and rapid drying characteristics, and will not wrinkle for long-term use, and can always maintain the firmness of the four corners and the beautiful quality.

For example, high-end handmade shoes. I can't wait to try it on and am immediately struck by its good wearing experience. The longer you wear it, the more you can feel the impact of a good pair of shoes on your entire body. It is completely different from the fatigue brought by ordinary shoes. Even damage caused by overuse can be repaired to completely restore reliable quality.

Therefore, when Matsuura Yataro chooses his belongings, he has two benchmarks: one is the benchmark for pricing by quality without design, and the other is a high-end product that has been polished for many years. Fast fashion is all the rage, cleverly exploiting the constant trend of cheap goods, which in Matsuura's view is a waste.

Throwing from one cheap item to another, not even knowing what good things are, is just a waste of time, and there will be no "growth and learning from the selection of items". What's more, choosing a small number of high-quality products can help us free from a life full of items.

02 Family

Yataro Matsuura also has his own unique set of feelings and views on the bondage between his family.

"Family, of course we have to be together."

"If you are a family member, you will definitely understand this kind of thing."

"Of course the family has to help."

A lot of people unconsciously think that. It can be seen that the bond between family members is very strong. The existence of the family is a huge dependence, but because of this, we often unconsciously fall into excessive dependence, unconsciously forget the respect for the family, dilute the boundaries between ourselves and the family, and impose many "natural requirements" on the family, making each other tired.

Yataro Matsuura believes that between people, not only love, but also respect is also very important. Respecting each other as a person and helping each other for more self-reliance is sometimes more important than love.

For example, because he is a child, he wants to do everything for him, and the result is that he becomes a person who "can't do anything without you", which is not love, but an act that hinders the growth of the child.

Whether it is a person who is related by blood or a couple who have been married for many years, it is necessary to recognize that everyone has everyone's world. No matter how much you love, how close you are, you must understand each other. The relationship of trust established by this premise is the pillar of the family.

Therefore, in Matsuura Yataro's family, in order to love and respect each other, and establish a relationship of trust together, there are two principles: one is greetings, no matter how tired and uncomfortable, greetings to the family must not be less; the other is that the things they hate absolutely do not let each other do, and do their own things.

03 Living room principle

Yataro Matsuura also has his own set of unique feelings and views on the placement of the living room.

There are always too many new things emerging in this world. If you are not careful, things that disturb harmony will come in. Therefore, Yataro Matsuura recommends subtraction.

The living room of Yataro Matsuura's home wanted to decorate it because it was a white wall, but in the end he only made a clock and a small painting. The floor is a laminate wood floor, and I originally wanted to lay a small carpet on the sofa and dining table, but finally gave up.

Small things, often bought easily because they are "so cute, I like it", are the culprits who break the sense of harmony. Therefore, you can only put down the storage box of the key and seal, and you must buy it carefully.

Yataro Matsuura believes that "the more garbage baskets there are, the more garbage there is", so he does not put garbage baskets in his room. Only in the living room, washstand and daughter's room. There are only a few garbage baskets in the house. Food waste and plastic bottles are placed in a trash bin built into the cooking station. A little thought can reduce a lot of things.

In Matsuura Yataro's view, the living room should try not to add things or destroy the sense of harmony. It's just fine to do subtraction overall. Rather than decorating with special items, cleaning carefully every day is the best decoration.

04 Conclusion

In Yataro Matsuura's book "Ordinary Force", the author also shares his choices and personal feelings about shirts, watches, pajamas, sweaters, glasses, organic products, wallets, suitcases and other items. From their ordinary lives, discover every interesting and happy ordinary moment, and find their own philosophy of life.

Such an attitude to life is very worth learning from those who are crazy to chase stars, or even to have a private meal. Rather than spending time, effort and money chasing a star who doesn't know himself, it's more important to love yourself and understand yourself.

We can learn from Yataro Matsuura, start with every ordinary thing around us, learn to pay attention to ourselves, and live our lives well, even ordinary life is very worth living.

Author: Xiao Yanqing, a member of the Intensive Reading Friends Association. Habitual reading, habitual running, and love music.