Deng Xiaoping was both a great man and a mortal.
Deng Xiaoping was concerned about the world and China, and he also had his own marriage and family life.
What is love? Different views of love may have different answers to this. Some people compare it to flowers, from which infinite happiness can be obtained. Some compare it to bitter wine, from which they feel the sorrow of pain; others see it as mysterious.
Of course, these views are biased. Engels once clearly pointed out that love should be "premised on mutual love." Love is a complex, holy, and sublime exchange of human feelings, that is, a chord plucked by the two hearts of both sides, rather than a solo piece issued by a single side.
The basis of true love lies in the ideal of both men and women, the convergence of ambitions, the consistency of personality, and the surrender of interests.
Like Deng Xiaoping's political career, he also experienced a tortuous and bumpy road on the issue of love and marriage.
Deng Xiaoping lost his wife twice. If the first time was caused by natural disasters, the second time was caused by "man-made disasters". But the combination of Deng Xiaoping and Zhuo Lin can be called a lifelong companion who is unswerving in life and death.
In the years of revolution and construction for more than half a century, they have experienced "difficulties and obstacles" and "terrifying waves" that are unimaginable to ordinary people, leaving a good story that is always worth reciting to future generations.
It can be said that Deng Xiaoping was not only the core of the party's second-generation leadership collective, but also the core of the family. Under his core role, a very harmonious, happy and happy family was formed.
Deng Xiaoping's first wife was named Zhang Xiyi, and they were both classmates and comrades-in-arms, and they were also a young couple with deep feelings.
Zhang Xiyi was born in 1907 in Liangxiang, Fangshan County, Hebei Province. Zhang Xiyi studied at the Second Girls' Normal School of Zhili Province, and in 1924 was a backbone member of the school's student wave and joined the Communist Youth League.
In 1925, he went to Beijing, joined the Communist Party of China in the same year, and in about the second half of 1925, he was sent by the party organization to study at Sun Yat-sen University in Moscow and became acquainted with Deng Xiaoping.
Mao Mao wrote in the book "My Father Deng Xiaoping": "When my father and Zhang Xi were only classmates at Sun Yat-sen University in Moscow, they were just comrades-in-arms, and they had not yet developed to the point of falling in love. However, the relationship between the two of them, after all, began in SiDi and began in SiDi. ”
At the end of 1926, Deng Xiaoping was ordered to return to China and participate in the great revolutionary activities in China. At that time, Deng Xiaoping was serving as the secretary of the Party Central Committee in Wuhan. At this time, he was pleasantly surprised to meet Zhang Xiyi, who had just returned from Moscow.
In the autumn of 1927, after Zhang Xiyi returned to China through Mongolia, she led a strike movement of railway workers in Baoding. After the strike, he also went to Wuhan and worked in the Secretariat of the Party Central Committee.
Soon, the Party Central Committee moved to Shanghai, and the two of them went to Shanghai together, and Zhang Xiyi worked in the secretariat under Deng Xiaoping.
In early 1928, Deng Xiaoping and Zhang Xiyi married. Deng Xiaoping was less than 24 years old at the time, and Zhang Xiyi was less than 22 years old.
In order to celebrate the marriage of the young revolutionaries, the comrades specially held a banquet at a Sichuan restaurant called Jufengyuan on Guangxi Middle Road in Shanghai. Zhou Enlai, Deng Yingchao, Li Weihan, Wang Ruofei and more than 30 other people working in the central organs attended the wedding.
According to the elderly Zheng Chaolin, who attended the wedding of Deng Xiaoping and Zhang Xiyi, as well as Zhu Yueqian, Zhu Duanshou, and other elderly people who worked with Zhang Xiyi, Zhang Xiyi was very beautiful, with a white and pure face, very delicate, very gentle, cheerful, lively, and gentle, speaking softly and lightly, treating people warmly, sincerely, and friendlyly, and was 160 centimeters tall.
Because at that time, he was doing underground work and dressing up as a rich man, Zhang Xiyi also wore a cheongsam, short hair, and high heels. Deng Xiaoping also wore a robe and a doctor's hat. The two are a perfect match.
The two of them are not only classmates, but also comrades-in-arms, but also a young couple with holy feelings and innocence, the two of them are like-minded, have similar interests, respect and love each other, and often talk and laugh.
After marriage, for more than half a year, they lived in a house in the public concession with Zhou Enlai and Deng Yingchao. Zhou Enlai and Deng Yingchao lived upstairs, and Deng Xiaoping and Zhang Xiyi lived downstairs.
Young Zhou Enlai
Deng Yingchao once said: They often heard Deng Xiaoping and Zhang Xiyi talking and laughing downstairs.
Between July and August 1929, Deng Xiaoping was dispatched by the Party Central Committee and the Central Military Commission to bid farewell to his wife and take a boat through Hong Kong to Guangxi.
At this time, Deng Xiaoping had already assumed the post of secretary general of the Central Committee. On September 10, he presided over the first congress of the Communist Party of China in Guangxi in the name of the central representative. The meeting made important decisions such as launching an agrarian revolution, building up the armed forces of workers and peasants, and preparing for armed insurrection. Since then, Guangxi has launched a vigorous revolutionary movement.
In January 1930, Deng Xiaoping was ordered to return to Shanghai to report to the Party Central Committee and the Central Military Commission on the work of Guangxi. After debriefing, he hurried to see his wife.
At this time, Zhang Xiyi was waiting for delivery at Shanghai Baolong Hospital. Unexpectedly, the child was difficult to give birth, and it was difficult to give birth to the child, but Zhang Xiyi had puerperal fever.
Deng Xiaoping accompanied his wife day and night in the hospital with great anxiety. However, due to poor medical conditions, Zhang Xiyi unfortunately passed away.
After the child was born, it was placed in the home of Xu Bing and Zhang Xiaomei (Zhang Xiyi's sister), probably because of the difficult birth relationship, and died within a few days. This is a girl.
At this time, the situation in Guangxi was pressing, and the military situation was like a fire. Deng Xiaoping even had time to bury his wife, so he hurried to Guangxi again. Later, Li Qiang was entrusted to bury Zhang Xiyi.
Li Qiang was a staff member of Teko, and when some comrades in the party died, he was buried by him. Li Qiang buried Zhang Xiyi in Jiangwan Cemetery in Shanghai. The name written on the tombstone is Zhang Zhoushi, but the original name Zhang Xiyi was used when registering in the cemetery.
At that time, Zhang Xiyi was also buried by Deng Yingchao and Zhang Xiyi's mother, as well as her sister Zhang Xiaomei.
Deng Ken recalled that he went to Shanghai to study in 1931 and found his brother who was in Shanghai at the time in May. Deng Xiaoping also took him to Jiangwan Cemetery to see Zhang Xiyi's tomb.
After the liberation of Shanghai in 1949, as soon as Deng Xiaoping entered the city, he and Zhuo Lin went to find Zhang Xiyi's grave. Because of the war, the Japanese built an airport in the cemetery, and many martyrs' cemeteries could not be found.
Fortunately, Li Qiang's memory is good, and with his help, he finally found Zhang Xiyi's grave.
Deng Xiaoping and Zhuo Lin found that it had been flooded, so Deng Xiaoping asked someone to take out Zhang Xiyi's remains and put them in a small coffin, along with the bones of the martyr Su Zhaozheng found at that time, two small coffins, both placed under the house where Deng Xiaoping lived in Shanghai, that is, the house of the Kuomintang Inspirational Society.
Soon, Deng Xiaoping left Shanghai and led his army south and west to march into the great southwest. The coffins of Zhang Xiyi and Su Zhaozheng have been placed in the former site of the Shanghai Inspirational Society, and finally in 1969, the remains of Zhang Xiyi and Su Zhaozheng were buried in the Shanghai Martyrs' Cemetery.
Later, the Shanghai Martyrs' Cemetery was renamed Longhua Revolutionary Cemetery. Zhang Xiyi's simple tombstone is engraved with "Tomb of Zhang Xiyi Martyr", and a beautiful photo is embedded in the stone stele.
This is the only remaining photograph of her life in just 24 years. It was 1926, and Zhang Xiyi, along with 20 female classmates from Sun Yat-sen University, took a group portrait at a nursing home on the outskirts of Moscow.
Like her in the film, her beautiful and quiet face, very mental short hair, and the intimate gesture of standing with her classmates are very real.
Who can see from the photograph that this girlish young Party member has been tempered by revolutionary struggle?
Ms. Zhang sent the photograph to her family in China, and it wasn't until 1978 that staff at the Shanghai Longhua Revolutionary Cemetery found the photo from her relatives.
Zhang Xiyi
Now, together with Su Zhaozheng, Yang Xianjiang, Gu Zhenghong and other revolutionary martyrs, Zhang Xiyi is lying peacefully among the green pines and cypresses of the Longhua Revolutionary Cemetery in Shanghai.
Communists are not without emotion, not without tears.
How many Communists, like Deng Xiaoping, buried their feelings deeply in their hearts after they lost their loved ones and comrades-in-arms, and forcibly swallowed tears into their stomachs.
For, in their minds, revolutionary interests are above all else.
Zhang Xiyi's unfortunate death caused Deng Xiaoping to lose a good wife, a good classmate, a good comrade, and a good comrade-in-arms. For many years, Deng Xiaoping buried Zhang Xiyi deep in his heart.
In 1990, Deng Xiaoping inspected Shanghai, and accompanied by his daughter Deng Rong, he personally paid homage to the original mausoleum.
In front of Zhang Xiyi's tomb, Deng Xiaoping had tears in his eyes and a thousand words in his heart turned into one sentence: "Xiyi, after a thousand turns, we finally met again." ”
He said to his daughter Deng Rong, who was beside him: "This is your mother Zhang, call your mother!" ”
Although Zhang Xiyi and Deng Rong were not related by blood, at this moment, their blood was already thicker than water!
Deng Rong's mother, Zhuo Lin, was Deng Xiaoping's third wife and his lifelong companion.
Zhuo Lin and Deng Xiaoping's acquaintance was dramatic.
In July 1939, Deng Xiaoping returned to Yan'an. In Yan'an in the summer, the heat is unbearable.
According to Zhang Wentian's wife, Liu Ying, Deng Xiaoping returned to Yan'an from the Taihang Mountains in preparation for attending the Seventh National Congress, but unexpectedly the Seventh National Congress was postponed, and due to the needs of the front, he could not stay in Yan'an for long time.
At that time, Deng Xiaoping did not have a wife, and everyone was very concerned about this matter, so Deng Fa and other comrades wanted to help him find one.
At that time, there were many female comrades in Yan'an. During the War of Resistance Against Japanese Aggression, many female comrades came here to pursue the truth, including Northern Shaanxi Public School and Women's University. Zhuo Lin was very young and very good, and had already graduated from Shaanxi Northern Public School, so she was introduced to Deng Xiaoping.
At that time, Zhuo Lin was not familiar with Deng Xiaoping, only that he was an old Red Army soldier and a leading cadre on the front line, but she did not know what kind of work he was doing and what kind of responsibilities he was carrying.
Revolutionaries have their own emotional world and emotional life of revolutionaries. The common revolutionary ideals and common pursuits of life linked Zhuo Lin and Deng Xiaoping.
Zhuo Lin, formerly known as Pu Qiongying, is a native of Xuanwei, Yunnan. Her father was Pu Zaiting, the famous "ham king" of Yunnan.
Zhuo Lin was born in April 1916, because of the smallest in the family, her parents regarded it as a pearl in the palm of her hand. She has been very intelligent and cheerful since she was a child. At the age of 15, she was selected as a track and field athlete in Yunnan Province to participate in the 60-meter sprint in the junior group of the National Games.
Just as she arrived in Hong Kong with the team, the "September 18" incident broke out. Japanese imperialism soon occupied the three northeastern provinces.
When the national disaster was in the lead, the Games were not opened, and the Yunnan provincial delegation had to turn back halfway. But at this time, Zhuo Lin was determined to go out of Yunnan and go to Beiping to study.
So she wrote a letter to her brother expressing her feelings. Quickly got support from home. After coming to Beiping, after several months of tuition, she was admitted to The First Girls' High School in Beiping in 1932.
Zhuo Lin has a cheerful personality, likes social activities, and has made some local friends, such as film actor Zhang Ruifang, Chen Yun's wife Yu Ruomu, Hu Qiaomu's wife Gu Yu, etc. are her close friends.
After the "North China Incident" in 1935, the anti-Japanese salvation movement in Beiping quickly reached a climax. Together with many patriotic students, Zhuo Lin participated in the famous "12.9" student movement. For her, it was a baptism of the soul, and her ideological consciousness took a qualitative leap.
One-two-nine movement
After graduating from Zhuo Lin High School in 1936, she was admitted to the Department of Physics of Peking University with honors. She actively participated in the organization of the anti-Japanese national liberation vanguard and began to devote herself to the revolution.
After the "July 7" Lugou Bridge Incident in 1937, Zhuo Lin decided to leave Beiping and go to the revolutionary holy land that many progressive young people in China at that time yearned for: Yan'an.
After several turns, after coming to Yan'an, she was admitted to The Northern Shaanxi Public School. After 3 to 4 months of study, after graduation, he was assigned to work in the school library.
At the beginning of 1938, Zhuo Lin gloriously joined the party. Later, she served as the captain of the first phase of the twelve teams at Shaanxi North Public School.
Soon after, she was transferred to a special training course of the Security Department of the Shaanxi-Gansu-Ningxia Special Administrative Region Government, and prepared to go behind enemy lines to engage in anti-Japanese work in the future.
It was also at this time, because of the needs of work, her name was changed from Pu Qiongying to Zhuo Lin.
One evening in early September 1939, Yangjialing, Yan'an. Some tables were set up on the hillside in front of the cave where Chairman Mao lived, and a simple wedding ceremony was organized for the two newlyweds.
Zhuo Lin
Two newlyweds, one is Deng Xiaoping and Zhuo Lin, and the other is Kong Yuan and Xu Ming. At that time, the senior leaders of the central government in Yan'an came.
Unfortunately, Zhou Enlai, who had always been revered by Deng Xiaoping as his elder brother, was unable to attend his wedding because he had fallen from his horse and went to the Soviet Union for medical treatment.
The wedding was very lively. There is no mountain treasure and seafood, the table is placed on the golden yellow rice, big red dates, etc., the most luxurious thing is just a few eggs scrambled.
Although the people attending the wedding were all prominent personnel in Yan'an, they all wore the Uniforms of the Eighth Route Army made of native cloth, with their feet on cloth and patches on their knees, but they looked particularly spirited.
The two couples took a picture of the bride and groom together. Limited to the harsh conditions at that time, the photos were somewhat blurry, but it could be seen that they were both immersed in happiness at that time, and deng xiaoping and Zhuo Lin's faces were full of smiles. This is a precious photograph with permanent commemorative significance.
The wedding took place in a warm atmosphere. Everyone celebrated the two newlyweds and drank happily.
Kong Yuan was in a state of happiness, drank a lot, and finally got drunk, and on the wedding night, he was counted down by His wife Xu Ming. Deng Xiaoping did not refuse, and drank when he had respect, cup after cup, but he was not drunk.
Liu Ying, who was familiar with Deng Xiaoping, felt very strange: Xiaoping was not very drunk in the past, and today he is so "drunk", how can he not get drunk at all?
It turned out that Deng Xiaoping was drinking boiled water. At the wedding, Li Fuchun and Deng Fa thought of friendship, knowing that Deng Xiaoping would not drink, afraid that he would be drunk, so they quietly got a bottle of white water to fill him with wine, so that he would not be drunk.
A few days later, Zhuo Lin set off with her newly married husband, Deng Xiaoping, political commissar of the 129th Division of the Eighth Route Army, and rushed to the front and towards Taihang.
This year, Deng Xiaoping was 35 years old and Zhuo Lin was 23 years old.
As soon as Deng Xiaoping returned to the headquarters of the 129th Division, he immediately threw himself into the tense combat command.
Although zhuo Lin's headquarters of the Eighth Route Army is an organ, on the Taihang Mountain, it is still often tested by guns and bullets. Undaunted, she marched with the authorities and troops, turned to battle, and countered the "sweeping."
In 1940, the Taihang District, where Deng Xiaoping was located, was repeatedly "encircled and suppressed" by the Japanese invading forces, and the situation was difficult. At this time, Zhuo Lin came to Deng Xiaoping's side from the headquarters of the Eighth Route Army and was assigned to work in the Secretarial Section of the 129th Division.
Zhuo Lin and Deng Xiaoping spent five years together in the Taihang Mountains. In the past 5 years, the husband and wife have suffered and shared, life and death are dependent on each other, love each other, and have given birth to 3 children.
At that time, the conditions were difficult and it was impossible to take the children with her, so Zhuo Lin could only endure the pain of fostering them in the hometown.
It was not until the end of the War of Resistance Against Japanese Aggression, in December 1945, after Liu Deng's headquarters was moved to Wu'an County, that Zhuo Lin took all three children back to her side, and the whole family of 5 temporarily lived in Wu'an. This is the first time the family has been reunited since having 3 children.
Since then, Zhuo Lin has been busy taking care of 3 noisy children every day, so that the family can slowly settle down, and Deng Xiaoping is busy with military and political affairs every day.
Later, they went to Handan, Luoyang, Shanghai, and Chongqing. In Chongqing, there were three more members in the family: the youngest daughter, the youngest son, and Deng Xiaoping's stepmother, Xia Bogen.
Zhuo Lin still took on the responsibility of educating her children and taking care of the family. As his position changed, Deng Xiaoping became busier.
In 1952, Deng Xiaoping was transferred to the central government, and Zhuo Lin, her five sons and daughters and Xia Bogen followed him to Beijing.
After entering Beijing, Zhuo Lin was transferred to the General Office of the Central Committee and served as Deng Xiaoping's life secretary. During this period, due to her frailty and illness, she mainly presided over household chores at home and took care of Deng Xiaoping's life.
In addition to taking care of Deng Xiaoping's life, Zhuo Lin also helped him sort out and copy documents and do some work within his ability. Sometimes work was busy, and she and Deng Xiaoping toiled late into the night.
Years of living together made Zhuo Lin very aware of Deng Xiaoping's straightforward and sincere inner world. Therefore, no matter how changeable the political situation is, she can never stop her deep affection for Deng Xiaoping, and it cannot shake the sense of trust that they have built up for many years.
In the autumn of 1969, Zhuo Lin, who had been tempered by the war, withstood tremendous mental pressure and did not hesitate to accompany Deng Xiaoping to Jiangxi to meet the challenges of life.
After arriving in Jiangxi, they started a new life. The husband and wife, together with Deng Xiaoping's stepmother, Xia Bogen, shared hardships and hardships. Zhuo Lin gave Deng Xiaoping a lot of care and comfort, and they spent a difficult time together.
For their labor in Jiangxi, they were arranged to be carried out at the Xinjian County Tractor Repair Factory. Every day, when Zhuo Lin and Deng Xiaoping walked on the path leading from the "General Building" to the factory, Zhuo Lin always had to walk in front to open the way for her husband, afraid that her husband, who was 12 years older than herself, would fall.
The road is thorny, overgrown and uneven, which is not conducive to the elderly walking. Especially when it rains on a cloudy day, it is even more muddy.
Whenever this happened, Zhuo Lin paid more attention to Deng Xiaoping's safety. Sometimes, she held Deng Xiaoping's arm with one hand and held an umbrella for him with the other, and her mouth constantly reminded him to pay more attention and be careful of the slippery soles of his feet. Over time, they stepped on a "Deng Xiaoping Trail."
In Jiangxi, Zhuo Lin accompanied Deng Xiaoping to begin a labor career of more than 3 years and became a new housewife in the "General Building".
After Deng Xiaoping returned to Beijing and resumed his important leadership positions in the party and the state, his work was very busy. Zhuo Lin put a lot of energy into it, actively helping to deal with some things that her husband did not have time to take care of.
Although Zhuo Lin is the housewife of the family, her cooking skills are not favored by the children. In the minds of the children, the father's cooking skills are higher than the mother's, and the dishes are particularly Sichuan-style. Therefore, sometimes, Deng Xiaoping deliberately looked for "good opportunities for internship and exercise" for Zhuo Lin.
On holidays, Deng Xiaoping always asked the staff to go home early for a reunion. During the festival, the task of cooking rice and cooking naturally fell to Mrs. Zhuo Lin.
Zhuo Lin asked her daughter to help lay the hand while doing it, and after a symphony of pots and pans of "ding-dong, ding-dong", the fragrance came out of the kitchen. Soon the table was full of delicious food.
At the holiday table, Deng Xiaoping always poured a glass of wine for his wife and said: "It's hard, festival chef, I'll toast you." ”
Say it, and raise your glass yourself first. A small tribute conveys Deng Xiaoping's deep affection for his wife Zhuo Lin.
In 1988, Zhuo Lin and Deng Xiaoping celebrated their golden wedding anniversary. Both husband and wife were born of dragons, and that year also happened to be the Year of the Dragon.
Decades of marital love is simply a harmonious and beautiful symphony.
Zhuo Lin, she deeply understood Deng Xiaoping, for Deng Xiaoping's cause, that is, the cause of Chinese people and the cause of the party, she made some personal sacrifices, she deeply loved Deng Xiaoping, not only the love of his wife, but also the love of comrades and comrades-in-arms.
She deeply believed in Deng Xiaoping, and in the face of Deng Xiaoping's humiliation, she was loyal and became Deng Xiaoping's lifelong companion.
The reason why Deng Xiaoping was able to make so much contribution to China's revolution and construction in his life was inseparable from having a warm and happy home and a wife who was gentle and kind and constantly supported and helped him.
Loving children is a common human feeling. Parents all over the world have a heart that cares about their children, and Deng Xiaoping and his wife are no exception.
Deng Xiaoping loved his children and always treated them equally and as equals. He does not favor sons over women or women over men, nor does he value small or small.
He is impartial to boys and girls, old and old, and treats all children equally, regardless of kinship.
Raising children is the duty of every parent.
As a loving father, Deng Xiaoping loved his children very much. However, due to the needs of work, he rarely spends time with his children and shares the joys of the world. Therefore, the heavy responsibility of raising and educating children fell on the shoulders of Zhuo Lin, who was a mother.
The affairs of the children of the Deng family, no matter how big or small, from life to study, are all grasped by Zhuo Lin inside and out.
No wonder, the daughters said, "Our affairs are all managed by our mothers, and our fathers never ignore them." ”
"Anyway, in our family, of course, dad is the core, but mom is the center, and our group of children grew up around mom."
"Dads are busy, and the work of educating children is mainly mom's."
Even the matter of naming his daughters was authorized by Deng Xiaoping to Zhuo Lin.
Zhuo Lin gave her three daughters a single name: Deng Lin, Deng Nan, and Deng Rong. "Lin", "Nan", and "Rong" are all related to Zhuo Lin's own name.
Zhuo Lin's "Lin", remove the word "Wang" next to the word "Lin", first used to name the eldest daughter; "Lin" is then divided into two halves into "Wood", which are combined with "Nan" and "Rong", and the names of the two younger daughters come out.
In addition, with the name of "Forest" and the name of "Wood", Zhuo Lin is obviously also expected to be a woman who becomes a forest.
As mentioned earlier, Deng Xiaoping and Zhuo Lin had a total of 5 children, two boys and three women. The eldest, the second and the third were born in the war-torn era, endured hardships, and grew up with the victory of the revolution.
The eldest daughter, Deng Lin, was born in September 1941 and was the first child of Zhuo Lin and Deng Xiaoping, so when she landed on the ground, the couple was very happy.
Getting married and having children is, after all, a major event in life. However, the coming of this happy event added a lot of sorrow to their hearts.
At that time, the War of Resistance Against Japan was entering the most difficult stage, and the Japanese army often "encircled and suppressed" and "swept away", and they did not have time to take care of their children. Deng Lin only ate his mother's milk for 7 days, and was sent to a peasant's house to feed, while Zhuo Lin moved with the troops.
The eldest son, Deng Pufang, is the eldest son of the Deng family and was born in 1944. After birth, Zhuo Lin had no milk, so she had to endure the pain of sending him to a peasant family on the other side of the river in Matian Town to feed him.
The following year, the second daughter Deng Nan was born. Similarly, they were sent to a farmer's home to be fed.
These three children drank the milk and millet porridge of the people of the Taihang Mountains, and they all stubbornly survived in the smoke of the war.
At the end of 1945, the leading organ of Luyu District of Jinji was moved to Wu'an, Hebei. After arriving in Wu'an, Zhuo Lin took all three children back to her side.
Later, Chinese mainland was completely liberated, and the years of peace came, and Zhuo Lin gave birth to her younger daughter Deng Rong and her youngest son Deng Zhifang.
She has to work and take care of her children, and she is busier than before. Fortunately, Deng Xiaoping's stepmother, Xia Bogen, came to her side to help take care of the family's life, which gave Zhuo Lin the energy to grasp the education and learning of the children.
On the issue of educating children, Zhuo Lin and Deng Xiaoping have a relatively consistent point of view, they are very democratic, pay attention to respecting children's own choices, and cultivate their sense of self-improvement and self-reliance.
Dunlin was a great fan of singing when he was in his 10s. At that time, the most popular songs to resist US aggression and aid Korea and Soviet songs, she almost sang.
After Zhuo Lin knew about her daughter's hobby, she not only did not object, but said: "Since you love singing so much, you should either go and learn music." ”
Soon, Deng Lin finally got his wish and transferred to the Attached Middle School of the Central Conservatory of Music. Unfortunately, she fell seriously ill in her throat, went to the Soviet Union for surgery, and was no longer able to study music when she recovered.
Once, she saw someone else's girl painting Chinese painting, although there were only a few strokes, but very expressively painted the life in nature, she felt very interesting, very magical, so when she returned home, she asked her mother to learn Chinese painting.
Zhuo Lin took this matter to heart. Soon, Zhuo Lin personally took Deng Lin to find the home of a painter named Wang Shensheng and asked Deng Lin to formally worship him.
Deng Lin made rapid progress after learning to paint, so he transferred to the Central Academy of Fine Arts Affiliated Middle School to study. In 1962, he was admitted to the Chinese Painting Department of the Central Academy of Fine Arts and studied under the famous painter Li Kuchan. For her convenience in school, Zhuo Lin also bought her a small bicycle.
Deng Lin has a great interest in the art of Chinese painting and constantly pursues it persistently. Whenever I have a proud work, I go to my parents for advice.
Deng Xiaoping's assessment was always simple but meaningful: "There is progress! ”
Zhuo Lin was more concerned, always reminding her daughter: "Are those words that someone praised you true or false?" ”
Dunlin replied, "At least half of them are true!" ”
Zhuo Lin would also be a little uneasy and advise: "Don't let people make you dizzy." ”
In front of his mother, Dunlin was always a child.
Deng Rong, the youngest daughter of Deng Xiaoping, was clever and clever from an early age, able to sing and dance, and was the most beautiful of the three sisters.
In October 1967, Deng Rong was a second-year student at the Affiliated High School of Beijing Normal University. He was sent to the Guo Family Brigade of Yangquan Commune in Fuxian County, Shaanxi Province.
As Deng Rong himself said: "Since I became an adult, I have experienced the heat and cold of the world during that extraordinary period. ”
In 1970, Deng Rong was allowed to come to his parents. After a long time of reunion, her mother Zhuo Lin was even happier and shed tears.
Since then, in the lonely and deserted "General Building", Deng Rong's crisp and loud moving songs have been heard from time to time. Whenever Zhuo Lin and Deng Xiaoping returned from their labor in the factory and did not enter the house, they heard the song first, and the fatigue of the husband and wife suddenly disappeared.
After Deng Rong, in the winter of 1970, deng Tianfang, the younger son who joined the team in Li Village, Qicun Commune, Xinxian County, Shanxi Province, returned to his parents. Looking at the son who had been separated for two years, who was tall, his face tanned, and his body strong, Deng Xiaoping and Zhuo Lin's hearts were full of joy.
Deng Tianfang has loved radio since childhood, is smart and self-motivated, and studies very consciously and diligently. His parents admired his love of learning. Therefore, he was encouraged to go to university for further study. With the efforts of Huang Wenhua and others, and with approval, Deng Qianfang entered Jiangxi Institute of Technology.
He did not live up to his parents' expectations, excelled academically, and became the best in his class. After a few years, he passed the examination and obtained the qualification to study abroad and achieved success in studying abroad.
Deng Tianfang's holiday was full, and Deng Xiaoping personally sent off his young son and sent it all the way to the station, and the love between father and son was inseparable.
What made Zhuo Lin and Deng Xiaoping most happy was that the second daughter Deng Nan brought in her fiancé Zhang Hong. They were overjoyed to see their big, extraordinary future son-in-law.
Deng Nan and Deng Rong have similar personalities, are more cheerful and straightforward. In 1964, Deng Nan was admitted to the Department of Technical Physics of Peking University.
A year later, Zhang Hong and Deng Nan finally came to Deng Xiaoping's side. At the old man's side, they held a simple wedding and did not have a table.
At that time, Zhang Hong and Deng Nan were both 26 years old.
Deng Xiaoping was neither partial nor doting on his children. He set particularly strict demands on his children, often teaching them to abide by discipline and the law in an exemplary manner, and requiring them to strengthen organizational discipline and not to talk nonsense.
When Deng Xiaoping was with his children, he seized various opportunities to use chat or the form of a dragon gate array to subtly educate them in revolutionary traditions and arduous struggle.
Deng Xiaoping's education of his children was often more important than words, and more than words. When he talked with his children, talked with his heart, chatted, recalled history, and talked about traditions, he never showed them his merits, complained about his labor, said that he was good, called himself capable, and praised his talents.
Sometimes when his children ask him what the role of the handling of important moments or major issues and the victory of major battles has played, he always smiles and says so simply.
For example, once, Mao Mao asked his father, "What work did you do during the Long March?" ”
Deng Xiaoping replied to his daughter in his usual succinct way: "Follow! ”
In fact, all those who participated in the world-famous 25,000-mile Long March have many memories of the Long March, and there are endless stories about the Long March.
However, Deng Xiaoping only had 3 words.
When Deng Xiaoping told his children about tradition and recalled history, he rarely said anything about himself, and even if he did, he would downplay it.
However, any battle story that is of educational significance and inspiration to the children, or the strengths of others, the heroic deeds of the commanders and fighters of the troops, is still very willing to tell the children.
Deng Xiaoping recalled history and told these battle stories in order to educate his children to learn from their revolutionary predecessors and revolutionary martyrs, to carry forward their fine traditions, and to show concern and love for their children in political ideology.
Dunlin was the eldest in the family, and when she was a child, she was afraid of her father, because he rarely talked to the children, but he was very good at saying a word. Dunlin said: "He didn't talk about his experience with my mother at home, never talked nonsense. ”
When Deng Xiaoping was old, he talked a little more to his children and loved to listen to them. The children also increasingly feel that he is an introverted, reserved, emotionally unobtrusive person.
In the past, before every major political movement, Deng Xiaoping would gather his children together and demand that everyone cherish themselves and respect themselves, and he would not protect anyone if something went wrong.
His children all had their own jobs in society, and when they returned home, they always had to express their opinions and comments on what they saw and heard outside.
For example, certain social phenomena, people's ideological sentiments, and the endless political study of various units have been praised and depreciated, and sometimes there have been complaints.
Deng Xiaoping always listened quietly to his children's discussions, sometimes smiling, and never expressing his opinions.
The conversations of his children were another channel for him to understand the outside society. However, he would never allow his children to interfere in the political decisions of the state, and he demanded that everyone in the family should safeguard the reputation and interests of the country.
In the eyes of his sons and daughters, Deng Xiaoping was a man who devoted himself to the party and did not have selfish intentions, and a person who truly knew how to love his children.