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Living for themselves, they will have more beautiful life scenery and show more possibilities for women for society.
"In day after day of life, don't lose yourself alive, but set aside a few points to live for yourself." On Mother's Day, just past, 49-year-old Xie Changhong conveyed such a concept through the media.
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A year ago, a message of "I am almost 50 years old, I am going to graduate school this year, I hope to encourage everyone" made many netizens deeply touched, and also let the messageist Xie Changhong enter the public eye. At that time, she successfully obtained a full-time master's degree at Changchun Normal University, and her dream was no longer out of reach.
In Xie Changhong's life course, it is not difficult to see traces of helplessness and regret. In 1993, with a leg disability, she applied for medical school at the suggestion of her school teacher, and after graduation, she was assigned to a public hospital in Yushu City, Jilin Province. But she had no interest in hospitals at school and quit while she was still in her internship. Because the news was relatively closed at that time, she did not know that she could cross the examination for other majors, so she did not choose to continue her studies. Since then, Xie Changhong has lived the life of an ordinary housewife, taking care of the family while finding a job as a training class teacher. Many times, there will be some "yin and yang errors" in life, resulting in regrets large and small.
What is valuable is that Xie Changhong's self-awareness has not been blurred by these regrets, and his enthusiasm for life has not been consumed by trivial daily life. She still maintains that hot "little flame" in her heart, and has the courage to take the initiative to step out of the comfort zone of life. Perhaps in the eyes of some people, returning to school at this age is not "cost-effective", and it is difficult to give Xie Changhong the decisive force to "start over" in the workplace. However, as pointed out in the media report, the accumulation of years has made her more aware of what she wants. Her choice has nothing to do with the external "aura", but also goes beyond utilitarian considerations, but more from the desire for knowledge and the yearning for campus life. This courage to pursue the love of the heart deserves to be praised.
As Xie Changhong said: she can't completely ignore the chai rice oil and salt in her life, but within the scope of what she can, she still has to choose her favorite lifestyle. In recent years, many vivid cases have allowed us to see how wide the radius of life can be and how colorful life can be after women face their hearts and take the initiative to choose their ideal lifestyle.
In 2020, the 56-year-old Aunt Su Min chose to go out alone and walk through the mountains and rivers of the motherland. Today, she has not only stepped out of her former depression and become more cheerful, but also has more than 2 million fans on social platforms, giving strength to many of her peers and young netizens. In addition, the experience of some aunts learning piano, holding art exhibitions, and entering the university campus in their 50s has also allowed them to get out of the boring and tedious repetitive life, showing an independent, happy and rich life.
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In this regard, whether it is relatives and friends around them, or social opinion, they should give encouragement and support to create a more inclusive social environment for women, rather than cold-eyed and anti-ironic. It is worth noting that for women to try to get out of chai rice oil and salt, there are still some stereotypes and prejudices in the field of public opinion.
In 2019, yuan mengyuan, a 49-year-old housekeeper aunt who successfully studied for graduate school, mentioned that when deciding to go to graduate school, many relatives and friends thought that they were just talking and playing, and their son also expressed disdain. Xie Changhong also said that some relatives did not understand her choice, and asked: Quit your job to study for graduate school, no income and spend money on it, you are almost 50 years old, finish reading, and then what? Many of these intentional and unintentional blows are based on the single role positioning of women, constituting harm and shackles to women.
Although life is full of accidents, everyone's life "script" should be written by themselves. As a child, love for her mother should encourage her to live according to her own wishes, rather than demanding that she put all her energy above the family. Because we want our mom to be not just mom, but herself. As a relative and friend, the greatest respect and care for women is to support her to "live out herself", rather than using various stereotypes to set limits and strike.
Aunt Yuan Mengyuan once said: In fact, I initially felt that the examination and research was a fantasy, "but even if it is a fantasy, I also want Tan Yitan." Aunts should not be bound by monotonous titles such as "mother" and "wife", leaving room for themselves to live, they will have more beautiful life scenery and show more possibilities for women for society.
Written by Ren Guanqing
Editor/Shuai Huang
Produced by China Youth Daily and China Youth Network