Text/Lin Xiaoling (Guangdong)
Recently, I met a fish seller at the wet market who was about fifty years old and was quite amiable. Maybe there is a real magnetic field induction between people, and she and I are particularly good to talk about. Because of the good conversation, I became a regular customer at her fish stall. During a small talk, I learned that she had an unhappy family with three children, two daughters, and a son. Her husband has a woman outside, ignores her and the children, and simply treats the home as a hotel, and returns if he wants to, and does not want to return, but she is determined not to divorce her husband. I asked her why, and she said she couldn't get cheaper outside so easily. For her three children, she worked two jobs alone, selling fish at the wet market during the day, working as a Didi driver at night, having to be busy until midnight to get home, and rushing to the wet market early the next morning to sell fish.
She wakes up early every day and is busy, and I think she works very hard. But she smiled and said to me very calmly: "What's this, I'm used to it alone, I'm thinking, man, as long as you don't give up, how to go, it will be uphill, so stay up, just survive." When we stumble and survive the most difficult times, we will meet all the good." After listening to her words, I was a little shocked, how could I not imagine that this unassuming big sister would actually say such a thing, and it was reasonable and impressive.
I have a good friend from middle school named Yue'er. After college, she married a man out of town. Yue'er's husband is the owner of a real estate company, in order to support her husband's career, Yue'er quit her job and became a full-time wife at home. But Yue'er didn't expect that her husband, who had always loved her, had actually raised a "second milk" outside in the golden house. When Yue'er knew all this, she simply collapsed completely, and the marriage that had been envied for fifteen years and she felt incomparably happy was suddenly unrecognizable, and the pain was so unforgettable!
During that heartbreaking day, Yue'er did not eat or drink in her own house, and her husband's betrayal made her feel desperate for marriage and life. The moment she wanted to slash the sharp knife at her wrist, the heart-rending cry of her son downstairs made her wake up at once! For the sake of her son and the family, Yue'er chose to tolerate silently. In front of her husband, as usual, she did not cry or make trouble, pretended to be indifferent, and took care of her son and family with all her heart. Although her heart was full of pain, every time she told herself that even if it was difficult and painful, she had to stand up strong and slowly survive the most difficult time. Later, Yue'er really relied on her own strength and perseverance to keep the clouds open to see The Moon, not only successfully saved her marriage and family, but also won her husband's love and respect for her.
Lately, I have also been crowded together by all kinds of bad things and worries: my mother's death, my work is not going well, the misunderstanding of good friends, being squeezed by villains and calculating... It felt like I was a particularly bad low point in my life, miserable, heartbroken, not wanting to work, not wanting to talk, not wanting to do anything. Maybe it is what people often say, everyone has their own back luck, back luck is the most difficult time, not only discouraged, even walking will fall inexplicably, even drinking cold water will plug teeth, even the sun and moon will be eclipsed. Life will always give you some pain, just to tell you what it wants to teach you, once you can't learn it, you will suffer once, you will always learn it, you will wrestle repeatedly in the same place. I often warn myself that in life, there is always a certain road, I can only walk alone, there are always many things, I need to carry it alone, this is the fate process that I can't refuse.
Perhaps, everyone has one of the hardest times in their lives. An unforgettable relationship, a work bottleneck that does not know the way out, an inexplicable marriage crisis, business failure, betrayal of friends, failure of the college entrance examination, stabbing people in the back in the workplace... Everyone will experience their own life troughs, chickens and dogs, chicken feathers. The trough period is a life disaster, a certain stage of life, is the need to slowly suffer, some bitter, must carry their own, boil themselves. Everyone's life, there will always be some ups and downs and some tribulations that you need to face and bear alone, others can't help you, survive, you grow.
Perhaps, everyone who is really strong has to go through a period of time when no one helps and no one supports. Everything is held up by oneself, and all emotions are known only to oneself. But as long as you grit your teeth and hold on, everything will be different. In those painful days, I always say to myself, no matter what you are experiencing, grit your teeth and hold on, there is no strong heart how to withstand the wind and rain, as long as the heart is tough enough, in order to be invincible, only by persevering, surviving, you will definitely see the strongest self.
The hardest time in life, no matter how dark, as long as you survive it, there will be a dawn. All suffering, all suffering, will rise up again, and then there will be strong armor, then in the days to come, everything will become indestructible in front of you. It is precisely because of the ups and downs of the fate that our lives will appear more colorful. Those most difficult times in life are the best times in your life, and they are also the most precious wealth in your life, because those difficult days have created the best you and enriched your life experience. As the poet Tagore said, "The suffering you suffer today, the losses you suffer, the responsibilities you bear, the sins you bear, and the pain you endure will eventually become light and illuminate your way."
When a person survives the most difficult time, he does not want to look for anything to rely on. Your previous isolation, your pain, and you are even alone against the world's hardships. But in the end, you relied on your tenacious perseverance and desperate efforts, and finally survived the head, saw the light, and then it was sunny.
May 5, 2022
About the author: Lin Xiaoling, a native of Yangjiang, Guangdong, loves life and beauty, likes to dream and like romance, likes music and likes words. He is currently a member of Yangjiang Writers Association, Yangjiang Poetry Society, Yangjiang Writers and Artists Critics Association, and Deputy Secretary-General of Yangjiang Jiangcheng District Writers Association. He has published several essays, poems, essays, novels, and film reviews in Foshan Literature and Art, Jiangmen Literature and Art, Yangcheng Evening News, Zhanjiang Daily, Zhongshan Daily, Yangjiang Daily, and other newspapers and periodicals, and has won many awards in essay contests.
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