It is widely believed that an unhappy childhood can affect a lifetime. Moreover, even if you become an adult, even if you spend a lifetime of effort, it is likely that there is no cure for the reality.
This is particularly evident in Japanese superstar Noriko Sakai.
She once became popular in Japan, once regarded as a symbol of the times, but because of her unfortunate childhood, she eventually fell into a drug addict, or even an online beggar.
Noriko Sakai was born in 1971 to a member of the Yamaguchi group of the Japanese underworld, and because of her identity and personality, violence has become the most obvious symbol of him personally.
Her mother could not bear the years of domestic violence, and eventually, she eloped with Noriko Sakai.
It is also very subversive to people's perception that her mother actually eloped with a temple monk.
Moreover, because she felt inconvenient to take her child with her when she left, Noriko Sakai's mother actually put her in the temple. She was still very young, but she had tasted the cold of the world that she should not face earlier.
Later, Noriko Sakai was taken home by her aunt, but her father never showed up. For him, this daughter is dispensable.
Until the age of 7, she had been living under the fence.
At the age of 7, my father remarried. Thus, Noriko Sakai finally had a home: her father, stepmother, and herself. Although Noriko Sakai is very well-behaved, she is still not loved by her stepmother at first, and she has been punished and scolded.
But Noriko Sakai, who grew up looking at people's faces, was too clever, and she soon found her stepmother's weakness: as long as she didn't spend money, she didn't want candy or toys, and she would let her stepmother praise.
As a result, Noriko Sakai sacrificed her childhood hobbies and rights in exchange for peaceful coexistence with her stepmother. But she never expected that when her relationship with her stepmother was good, her father committed the old problem of domestic violence.
For this reason, the already sensitive home was once again caught in the whirlpool.
As a result, Noriko Sakai was sent to her aunt's house again, when she was 12 years old.
After living in her aunt's house for more than a year, when Noriko Sakai returned home, her stepmother had already left, and the family had a new stepmother and a younger brother she had brought with her.
Fortunately, this stepmother was very gentle and amiable to Noriko Sakai, allowing her to get the maternal love she wanted. Unfortunately, she did not get her father's love from beginning to end, which made her inner desire for home and father's love into an unattainable dream.
Moreover, after experiencing such growth, Noriko Sakai seems to understand one thing: as a woman, she has always been in a humble state, and must obey men's orders, even violence.
This psychology made Noriko Sakai think that her status was extremely low, and even if she later became famous, she was still in this cognition and got along with her husband.
In 1993, Noriko Sakai fell in love with the well-known Japanese screenwriter Shinji Nojima, who has always longed for a family, and she is very happy and carefully maintains her love.
But unfortunately, the relationship lasted for 4 years, and finally the two broke up. Noriko Sakai, who was broken up, felt abandoned again, and she indulged herself for a while.
Soon, Takao Appears.
In the empty moment of Noriko Sakai, this so-called professional surfer who looks good and will make people happy breaks the heart of Noriko Sakai in one fell swoop.
In the second year of the first relationship breakup, Noriko Sakai announced her marriage to Yuichi Takashi: "I hope to build a warm family full of laughter." ”
At the time, Noriko Sakai generously admitted that she was pregnant.
In other words, this is a marriage that must be cashed out, and she can't care about what kind of person the real Gao Xiangyouyi is.
Sure enough, not long after Noriko Sakai got married, the gossip of Takashiro Yuichi was spread throughout Japan: merry, lustful, going in and out of nightclubs, really everything.
In 2000, When Gao Xiangyou's surf shop closed, people found out that the so-called professional surfer was just the son of a surf shop owner, and it was so unreliable that there was no responsibility.
For the sake of family happiness and stability, Noriko Sakai returned after 2 years of leaving the entertainment industry. With her fame, making money and succeeding is too simple.
As long as Takayoshi Yuichi can keep this marriage well, it is not a problem at all, even if he is violent and cheating on Noriko Sakai, there is no result of pushing him out of the marriage.
But unfortunately, in addition to enduring her husband's tyranny and shamelessness in marriage, Noriko Sakai also had to accept the fact that he was taking drugs. It's something she wants to endure, but she can't accommodate: breaking the law.
At first, Takashiro took drugs on sakai's back, and when he was discovered, he persuaded Sakai to suck along:
"Just a little bit, not addictive... This is the proof of our love, and if you suck it, it proves that you love me. ”
Noriko Sakai did not want to lose this marriage, and in her opinion, without her father, a family without a man would become nothing, and it would become lonely.
Therefore, in order to keep her husband, Noriko Sakai also took poison.
At first, she just thought that "two people take drugs together, they have a common secret, and they hope that the two people will be more closely connected and bound." ”
But later, Noriko Sakai understood, not to mention keeping her husband, she herself fell into it. She began to think of herself as an example, but she eventually lost in front of drugs.
"After doing such a thing, there is no obstacle at all, and now I calmly look back on it, the life at that time, the trauma left after the drug use incident, there is no opinion that is beneficial to people." 」
By the time Noriko Sakai learned of this fact, her husband had already been imprisoned, and she had become a fugitive. It was August 2, 2009, and Gao Xiangyou was arrested for taking drugs.
Noriko Sakai was afraid of being confessed by her husband, so she fled overnight.
She went to her stepmother's house and then back to Tokyo. Under the hype of the media and the law, she could not bear it: she finally turned herself in.
In the end, Noriko Sakai was sentenced to 1.5 years in prison and given a 3-year suspended sentence. At the same time, she also faces a liquidated damages of 500 million yen, as well as the reality of divorce.
To pay off the debt, for the sake of her son, Noriko Sakai did everything: shooting, going to the bullet room to sing, and even singing for guests on the ferry.
In short, as long as you can make money, Sakai Will do it. Of course, she stopped doing illegal things and successfully quit her addiction.
However, it seems that Noriko Sakai is still in the reality of lack of funds, and even sent a New Year's greeting on the social platform at the beginning of this year that requires fans to pay to click on the link.
Suddenly, "begging" became a new label for Noriko Sakai.
All of this may not be Sakai's fault, but the shadow of her childhood is always there, and she can't get past it.
Too insecure, too man-oriented, and finally made Noriko Sakai pay a heavy price.
But she had no choice, what she had experienced since she was a child, the cognition that grew up in her heart, she could not avoid it.