The three major pits of life have ruined a lifetime

Teacher Li Xiaolai said in "The Road to Wealth and Freedom",

There are three great pits in the world: inexplicably bustling; rushing with the flow; other people's hearts and livers.

The pit was crowded, and basically 99% of the people were inside.

These three big pits make you waste your life, waste time, and fall into poverty forever. The terrible thing is that the vast majority of people are stuck in the mud and don't know it, because looking around— "Aren't we all like this?" ”

Spend a lot of time every day paying attention to the celebrity gossip of the entertainment industry;

Occupy the moral high ground on the Internet and point fingers at people;

Brush Weibo and circle of friends without restraint, and your brain is filled with trivial things;

People are in the clouds, no independent thinking ability, it is very easy to be biased to become a keyboard man...

These are all common signs that a person is about to be abolished and gradually degenerate into mediocrity.

Don't fall into these traps!

Pit 1: Inexplicably bustling

In alberta, southwestern Canada, there is a world site with the Egyptian pyramids, the "Bison Cliff Jumping Place", which was one of the largest hunting grounds for prehistoric Indigenous Indians.

The hunting of the ancient Indians was very simple, just keep driving the American bison and forcing the leading cattle to run wildly in the direction of the cliffs, followed by hundreds of bison, without any logic, just blindly following.

Even if the leading cow saw that the front was the cliff, but because there were too many bison that could not stop the car behind, the cattle could only fall to their deaths under the cliff one by one, and none of them were spared.

This is the herd mentality of animals. And animals have things, people are not less.

If you stand on a lively street and look at the sky motionlessly, it won't be long before there will be a large group of people behind you looking up at the sky with you, because they want to know what you are looking at.

After all, in this world, there are too many people who like to join in the fun but do not know it, and there are too few mavericks and principled people.

Socrates once said that an unexamined life is not worth living.

Once I was also a veteran melon eater, every day either eating melons or on the way to eat melons, alive and free of a monkey jumping up and down in the melon field. Often after eating melon until you are satisfied, you look at the time and realize that two or three hours have passed.

And what did I get?

In order to satisfy his curiosity for a short time, he wasted a lot of good time and a lot of energy, regretting it too much, and the gain was not worth the loss.

How are people abolished?

It is the long-term indulgence in these short-term feedback things, willpower and mind are gradually eroded, and finally the body is hollowed out, the brain is squeezed dry, the interest in everything is lost, and when you want to do something, you feel powerless, and you become a real waste.

I've always told myself not to get so blinded by short-term pleasure that I lose my mind.

Later, I quit the insignificant melon group, reduced the frequency of brushing Weibo and brushing the circle of friends, and invested more time in reading, writing, photography, and fitness, gradually reorganizing the order of life and feeling the fulfillment brought to me by self-discipline.

Now, I live happily.

Pit 2: Impatient with the current

We are always used to seeing what others do first, and then hesitating to follow suit.

Everyone is married, so we feel like everyone is going to get married;

Everyone has bought a house, so we feel that buying a house is deserved;

Everyone bought a certain fund, so we felt that if we didn't buy it, we would lose money...

Making money is the same, something is on fire, and in the blink of an eye, a large number of people will follow the current, imagining that they are the "chosen pig" who stands in the wind and flies.

However, unfortunately, Teacher Li Xiaolai has long said that trends and opportunities do not belong to those who are impatient. Opportunities, trends, clearly belong to those who are ready, consciously or unconsciously.

Everyone has their own strengths, think about where their strengths are, don't go with the flow, don't compare your own shortcomings with other people's long boards.

More than 2,000 years ago, Tian Ji raced horses with The King of Qi for the first time, using the upper horse to align the king's upper horse, the middle horse to the middle horse, and the lower horse to the dismount, because the qi king's horses of each level were stronger than Tian Ji's, and after three games, Tian Ji failed.

Later, in the second competition, Sun Zhi taught Tian Ji to use the dismounting horse to align the king's upper horse, the upper horse to the middle horse, the middle horse to the dismount, and won the Qi king 2:1.

This is the familiar story of "Tianji Horse Racing".

Still the original horse, just change the order of appearance, you can turn defeat into victory.

If you want to jump out of the predicament of life and not go with the flow, sometimes you need such a dimensionality reduction blow, using your own strengths to benchmark the shortcomings of others.

Pit 3: breaks someone else's heart and liver

I've seen a very interesting passage:

"If you want to observe society, just look at the commentators on the hot topics on Weibo, follow their footprints, and look at their lives, and you will find that none of these are decent and reliable."

And there is also a terrible law in this, the degree of unhappiness of the commentators, and the intensity of his scolding, which is exactly the right. ”

There are too many people on the Internet, they have no girlfriends, but they care about other people's wives cheating; they don't have jobs, but they care about the impact of the Situation in Russia and Ukraine on the world economy; they live a mess, but they care about why others don't send microblogs to express their condolences to the dead.

It seems that only in this way can we reflect the value of our own life.

In a word, it's all idle.

Only when the spiritual soul of work and life is not saturated, people will pay special attention to others and desperately brush up on the sense of existence.

Teacher Jin Weichun said in "There is only one thing in life",

There are usually three types of things that people face: the things of God, the things of others, and the things of oneself.

And many people often pay attention to: god's things, other people's things.

As everyone knows, only paying attention to their own affairs is the most valuable.

Living your own life, making a little progress every day, being less nosy and watching less is more important than anything else.

4, take your own way, the road will go wider and wider

From the sky to the sexual encounters, endless games of clearance, fantasy novels, easy to get wealth (gambling, lottery), want to have pleasure (drugs), this kind of easy to make you cool, in the end is easy to make you miserable.

These things, in essence, are using your short-term pleasure to consume the happiness of the rest of your life.

Do more creative things to achieve long-term and healthy happiness.

For example, spend 1 year learning a useful skill, spend 1 month developing a good habit, spend 1 week building a useful thinking pattern, spend 1 day with your loved ones, and spend 1 hour writing a wonderful article.

When you spend time improving yourself, don't make a fool of yourself, don't go with the flow, and automatically stay away from idle people and idle things, the whole person's state will become different.

If you can't do all of it, do one or two. At the very least, the future will not be filled with regrets.