When I first went to the nursing home, a big sister next door recognized Yu Shuzhen, "Are you old Yu"? "Yes, that's me".
The eldest sister was surprised and said, "Do you have children?" "Yes, I have a son and a daughter."
She was even more surprised after listening to "Then the children don't want you"?
Yu Shuzhen laughed after listening to it, "It's not that they don't want me, it's that I don't want them."
Yu Shuzhen is the memory of an era, and her songs "Pinetail Bamboo in the Moonlight", "Spring Water Dingdong" and "My Life Is Full of Sunshine" have become classics and have been sung to this day.
Her life is very dedicated and serious, and she is also known as an old artist with both virtue and art.
But such an old artist, but in his old age, he left home with his wife and lived in a nursing home, why is this?
What is the hidden secret behind this?
Yu Shuzhen was born in 1936 in Hebei Province to a very ordinary family.
Yu Shuzhen is the first child of this ordinary family, and naturally she is deeply loved by her family.
However, in that era, every family was many sisters, and Yu Shuzhen's family was no exception, and then she welcomed 8 brothers and sisters.
As the eldest sister, Yu Shuzhen also gradually became more and more sensible, learning to share housework and learning to take care of her younger siblings.
Although the days are hard, the family is very happy to be tidy.
However, the good times did not last long, and when Yu Shuzhen was 8 years old, her mother unfortunately fell ill and died.
This made the family fall into a haze, and the father looked at the several children in the family who were waiting to be fed, and his eyes were full of helplessness.
Fathers have to go out to work, and these children are who will take care of them.
Later, after being introduced by well-wishers in the village, Yu Shuzhen ushered in a stepmother.
Always hearing the story of the stepmother, Yu Shuzhen was also afraid that the stepmother would not be good to their sisters.
But I didn't expect that this stepmother was very kind and very kind to them.
Slowly, they also had feelings for their stepmothers, and they got along like mother and daughter.
However, life during that period was very difficult, and Yu Shuzhen, as the eldest daughter, only attended school for one year.
In order to reduce the burden on her family, at the age of 16, she decided to drop out of school and work as an apprentice in the factory.
At that time, Yu Shuzhen especially liked to sing, and in the factory days, she used her own singing voice to fill the boring.
Later, she heard that the Tianjin Cultural Center had an amateur singing class, so she went to sign up.
Going to work during the day and learning to sing at night is also a fulfilling day.
Later, Yu Shuzhen represented the factory and participated in the Tianjin Workers' Literary and Art Show and won the first place.
She also became famous in the factory, and everyone knew that Yu Shuzhen sang well.
But no one expected that this show made Yu Shuzhen start a gorgeous turn.
One day in 1956, Yu Shuzhen was working in the factory as usual.
Suddenly, a young man surnamed Yan came to her with a transfer order.
Tell her, "You've been accepted by our Tianjin Opera House, just clean up and follow me."
This surprised Yu Shuzhen, but it also made her very happy.
After arriving at the opera house, Yu Shuzhen first sang a small chorus, then sang solo, and later began to sing operas.
Yu Shuzhen's long and beautiful appearance, very lively and cheerful personality, soon mingled with everyone in the opera house.
After getting acquainted, several elder sisters began to introduce various objects to Yu Shuzhen, and at first Yu Shuzhen did not care because she was shy.
But later I learned that the people introduced by everyone were the same person, that is, the guy surnamed Yan who sent her the transfer order.
This surprised Yu Shuzhen, but her mind was now on singing and did not want to think about finding an object.
Unexpectedly, this young man surnamed Yan actually began to take the initiative to pursue himself.
In fact, Yu Shuzhen did not have a good feeling for this young man surnamed Yan.
Once when they were rehearsing, Yu Shuzhen sat in the first row, and he felt that Yu Shuzhen's expression was too wooden, so he said, "New, you change to the back row."
Yu Shuzhen felt that this person spoke ruthlessly, and from the bottom of her heart, she did not have a good feeling for him.
But he did not expect that this person was also her lifelong partner and tolerated and cared for her life.
The love between men and women in that period was not as fancy as it is now, that is, taking more care of her daily life, making her a good meal, helping her get hot water, and so on.
Later, Yu Shuzhen also gradually felt his reality, in addition to his introverted personality, all aspects are very good.
In this way, in the sound of everyone's blessings, they got married.
After marriage, she gave birth to a son and a daughter, and the family of four lived a very happy life.
At this time, Yu Shuzhen also became a pillar in the opera house, but the two people were busy in the stage, what to do with a son and a daughter in the family.
The husband was well aware of Yu Shuzhen's love for singing, so he took the initiative to retire to the house.
Taking on the responsibility of caring for the family, he became a "housewife and man".
At that time, they were all outside the male and female masters, and their family division of labor also caused the discussion of the neighbors.
Some people even say in front of their husbands, "Your daughter-in-law is more famous than you, are you not afraid, which man is at home with children", these words sound very harsh, but the husband does not care at all.
In order not to affect Yu Shuzhen's performance, he did not say that the child was sick, and he was taken care of by himself as a father and a mother.
At that time, the money Yu Shuzhen earned was often subsidized by her mother's family, and after her husband knew, he gave her great support and understanding, and did not complain at all.
It is precisely because of her husband's silent efforts that Yu Shuzhen's career is getting better and better.
In the winter of 1979, Yu Shuzhen received a notice from the leader that a Beijing director, Xie Tian, invited her to accompany the film "Sweet Career" with an interlude.
This made Yu Shuzhen very happy, and it was a good thing that her singing voice could be appreciated by more people.
I immediately bought a ticket to Beijing, and later we heard "Our life is full of sunshine".
This song was popular all over the country at that time, but at that time, television sets were not yet popular, and the song became popular, but not many people knew that It was sung by Yu Shuzhen.
Until 84, Yu Shuzhen appeared on the stage of the Spring Festival Gala and sang this song, and Yu Shuzhen's name was also known to the people of the whole country.
In that era when communication was based on letters, Yu Shuzhen received a lot of letters every day, in order not to disappoint everyone, Yu Shuzhen decided to set aside half a day every day to reply to fans.
However, at that time, the salary was too low, and the reply was to be posted, so Yu Shuzhen had no choice but to pick only part of the letter to reply.
This also allowed Yu Shuzhen to gain higher popularity, and her serious attitude towards everything also impressed many people.
When Xi'an sang again, Yu Shuzhen was a little unwell, plus she sang a lot of songs that day, and overwork caused her to lose her voice.
But In order not to disappoint the audience, Yu Shuzhen still sang on stage for everyone after treatment.
Since then, her throat has fallen ill.
The husband was very distressed after knowing this, and tried to find a remedy for her, the husband knew that Yu Shuzhen often performed under pressure, and tried not to let her do anything when she returned home.
Therefore, Yu Shuzhen has not been able to cook or do housework for so many years.
The two children also grew up in good health under the careful care of their husbands.
Yu Shuzhen knows that everything about herself is inseparable from the support of her husband, and has repeatedly said in public that "it is my husband who has made me" in public.
After many years of marriage, the two are still very affectionate.
Yu Shuzhen once bluntly said that they had not quarreled for many years after marriage, and her husband loved her very much, plus her husband was introverted, and he didn't talk much and couldn't argue at all.
With the popularity of Yu Shuzhen, there are more and more opportunities to go out to participate in the show, although there is a husband at home to take care of, but Yu Shuzhen, who misses her children all the time, often secretly wipes her tears.
At this time, her good sister Guan Mucun always comforted her and made her happy, so the relationship between the two became better and better, and their feelings became deeper and deeper.
Although Yu Shuzhen is more than twenty years older than Guan Mucun, the two have become friends for a long time.
When they performed in Guangzhou, the food cost for a day was only 3 yuan, and a meal was an old vegetable heart and two small pieces of meat.
Yu Shuzhen was full when she ate a little, but it was not enough for Guan Mucun, who was only in his twenties, and was hungry all day.
Sometimes she was still crying with hunger, and Yu Shuzhen often gave some of her own food to Guan Mucun to eat.
Experiencing wealth together may not necessarily have a good relationship, but those who have experienced hardships together will definitely have deep feelings, and the two have maintained a deep sisterhood since that period.
Later, as Yu Shuzhen grew older and reached the age of retirement, Guan Mucun often sang Yu Shuzhen's songs on the stage.
In Guan Mucun's heart, she has always regarded Yu Shuzhen as an example, and in her opinion, the qualities of Yu Shuzhen are worth learning from herself.
After retirement, Yu Shuzhen was not idle, when she was young, in order to replace the family, she did not study well, and now her children have also participated in the work, and each has a family, Yu Shuzhen has applied for the university for the elderly for herself.
However, because the husband had been running housework for many years, his health was not as good as before, and he had a lot of illness, and the two children learned that their father was not in good health, one rushed back from Beijing, and the other ran home from Tianjin.
This made Yu Shuzhen feel very troublesome, and the children also had their own lives, and it was not appropriate to always run at both ends like this.
Coupled with the fact that they could not cook, the children came home busy taking care of their fathers, and they could not even eat a delicious meal.
Yu Shuzhen felt that this was too much of a drag on the children, so she made a bold decision.
She decided to go to a nursing home with her partner and children, and when she told her children about this decision, she was met with strong opposition.
The children say, "Aren't you trapping us in this way of injustice," and this goes out that you want us to be human, and where there is a reason why the elderly with children go to a nursing home."
However, Yu Shuzhen's heart has been decided, she ignored the children's objections, took her wife and children to live in a nursing home, and the children were also helpless, often going to the nursing home to see them.
Yu Shuzhen not only learned calligraphy in the nursing home, but also learned to paint, painting flowers, birds, fish and insects, and she did a good job.
He has his own hobbies and often runs activities with his eldest sisters of the same age, which is full and happy, and later the children see that they are doing well and slowly release their nostalgia.
Later, many people heard that Yu Shuzhen lived in an apartment for the elderly, and they all came to visit the teacher, but they all let Yu Shuzhen refuse one by one.
Because she knows that being able to sing and teaching people to sing are two different things, and taking apprentices is responsible, she is not sure that she can bear this responsibility.
Yu Shuzhen's attitude towards music is always so sincere and responsible, and she once said that "she is in awe of the stage in this life."
Now Yu Shuzhen is 86 years old, and her old partner has left her.
But she still didn't want to move back in with her children.
For her, there is no fixed pattern of filial piety, and it is the best state of old age for people not to cause trouble to their children when they are old.
Don't tie yourself to your happiness, and live the present with your heart.
In fact, raising children and preventing old age is the traditional concept of Chinese, but just like Yu Shuzhen thought, there is really no fixed pattern of filial piety, as long as the old man is happy and comfortable in his old age, he will do filial piety in the way she likes, which is effective filial piety.