Recently, a young man who was appreciated by outsiders and felt good about himself was asked a question: Under what circumstances is 1+1=0? The original intention was to make a metaphor to illustrate the principle of interacting with people and dealing with people in the world. He mistakenly thought I was deliberately embarrassed and a little displeased. In fact, this is a multi-field, multi-angle, multi-choice non-mathematical proposition, there is no standard answer, it is a kind of communication, how to understand is completely in personal cognition. But the ending was reversed, which made me think about it.
The 1+1 proposition, the simple to the arithmetic enlightenment of kindergarten children, and the difficulty to Chen Jingrun's Goldbach conjecture, these are not the focus of my search. Interpersonal interaction, the ultimate focus is on a kind of telepathy and soul dialogue. Everything in the world, the vast sea of people, are in the kaleidoscope of life, with the rotation of the angle refracting different colors and forms, who knows what kind of background color the dazzling image in the kaleidoscope is?
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Elderly people look at people and consciously or unconsciously wear a magnifying glass. Because of the accumulation of perception in life experience, he instinctively wants to identify the original appearance of people in the brilliant light and shadow, filter those dust impurities, and thus determine the depth of fellowship and interaction with people. Unlike some young people who fall in love at first sight, stormy, hot days and cold nights. A person's awareness of society and human nature determines the group and object of his interaction; the mutual relationship between social groups determines the size and closeness of the circle.
Entangled with people with different value orientations, it is bound to be energy hedging, canceling each other out, and the result is 1 + 1 = 0. In the company of sinister and cunning, greedy for self-interest, it is bound to be near-ink black, and the result is 1+1<0. Dealing with indifferent and going their own way is like two parallel lines that extend each other and do not intersect, and the result is 1 + 1 = 1. Those who live and die with the country of profit, those who avoid it because of misfortune, and those who climb the glorious peak of ideals and beliefs together, the result is 1+1>2. With the saints as teachers and the sages as neighbors, the mission will be achieved and invincible!
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Different ways do not conspire with each other, and different aspirations do not make friends, which is also an important factor that determines whether people can communicate with each other for a long time. Some people feel good about their first acquaintance, but to communicate deeply, they must not only observe their words, but also their deeds. For those who are brilliant and calculating, the useful person is the car cannon in his self-centered life chessboard. Interacting with such people is not a bottom in the heart, and can only be gradually drifted away and there is no book. Arrogant and arrogant, eager for success and quick profit is not enough to be a friend, thinking that it is a strange flower, empty of everything, but it is bland to put it in the hundred gardens where the heroes gather. There are stronger middle players in the strong, a mountain is higher than a mountain, and the environment and vision determine self-perception and outsider evaluation. Some people are not outstanding, their speech is not amazing, and their deeds are not dazzling, but they are mellow and refreshing for a long time. Deep cultivation, rich knowledge, humble posture, warm soothing, such as manna moisturizing the heart, admirable, comfortable to get along with, naturally as a friend.
Things are clustered in groups, and people are grouped. Birds choose good trees to perch, people choose gentlemen to live, and hearts choose kindness and friendship. It is necessary to make friends with more people of 1+1>2, gather the righteousness of heaven and earth, and shape the nobility of character, which is the precious wealth of life. Dating also pays attention to the aura, some people are good teachers, always want to change others, in fact, life is their own choice, not to your will as a transfer. Falling flowers and flowing water are unintentional, thousands of turns are also unsuccessful, go with nature, do not have to force. Some people are keen on socializing, often smug about having a meal, don't you know that most of the people you know at the wine table are playing tricks and passing through the smoke clouds. Friends often hang on their lips when the wind and waves are calm, and abandon the ship when the wind is high and the waves are urgent, and the so-called friendship is just a straw. Instead of wandering in vanity fair space time, it is better to read at night under the lamp, taste tea, cultivate oneself, and think about life. People with lofty ambitions and down-to-earth have their own light, and they are like-minded, and there will be noble people to help, and the concentric circles of career development will continue to expand. What kind of friends you make not only proves your style pattern, but also determines the height of your life.
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Wine is less than a thousand cups per confidant, and words are not speculative for more than half a sentence. Interpersonal, two parallel lines, even if infinitely extended, have no substantive significance. Even if they occasionally intersect and separate, it means that the fate is not enough. The key point that can intersect forever is that the heart has a sharp and sharp point, the heart and heart reflect each other, the words and deeds are tacitly understood, the three views are consistent, and there is a great sense of sunset to see autumn grass and twilight to meet the deceased. Acquaintance is not in the length of time, it is good to have a relationship; getting along is not to talk more, it is better to understand; to know each other is not in the depth of feelings, cherish it. The heart is surging forward, the heart is like stopping the water, the flowers blossom and fall, the fate comes and goes, the understanding of all things in the world, there is no time to look back!
Author: Yiwen
Author: Yiwen
Drawing: Cui Shuyin
Editor: Xue Jing
Review: Jiajia Zhou