Remember the movie "Hawthorn Tree Love"? The novel of the same name was put on the big screen by director Zhang Yimou and received great acclaim.
In the film, the protagonists Lao San and Jing Qiu fell in love from acquaintance to death to the touching love of life and death, which made countless viewers burst into tears. The film was not only shortlisted for the Crystal Bear Award and the Best Asian Film Award at the Berlin Film Festival, but also broke the box office record for Chinese literary and art films and won the Outstanding Feature Film Award.
This film, which is called "the cleanest love story in history" by the masses, actually comes from a real love story.
Jing Qiu in the movie is the original author of the novel, in order to commemorate the lost love, she organizes the memoir to her friend Amy, hoping that she can be published in a collection. And this writer, who is good at writing documentary long stories, was touched by the innocent love in his memoirs and wrote this "Love of hawthorn trees".
Today' heart is not only sharing a poignant love story, but also let us learn how to face the choice of life and insist on the love in our hearts.
Next, let Zi Xin lead everyone into this book together, evoke our inner beautiful yearning for love, and harvest spiritual wealth in the journey of life.
Learn to appreciate yourself in order to have the happiness of life
Sanmao once said: "A person who does not appreciate himself is difficult to be happy." ”
Everyone in the world is a unique individual, a person who knows how to appreciate himself, and life is full of wisdom everywhere.
Jing Qiusheng was a beautiful city girl in the late 70s, and the female minds of that era were always bound by various rules and regulations. Jing Qiu's father is a landlord, and the family composition is not good, which makes her feel very inferior, and her abundant body shape also makes her often very distressed.
One day, the school organized Jing Qiu and other students to go to the countryside to experience life in Xicunping and write rural teaching materials. Jing Qiu lived in the village chief's house and met the third elder. The third elder was the son of the commander of the military region, a handsome, talented, and extremely affectionate man.
Because of the difference in identity between the two, Jing Qiu was ashamed of herself in front of the third elder, as long as the third elder said a word that did not fit her, she felt that she was targeting herself, and she was angry with the third elder in anger.
However, the third elder fell in love with Jingqiu at first sight and praised Jingqiu's writing talent. The encouragement and praise of the third elder gradually gave Jing Qiu the opportunity to look at herself again and appreciate herself.
Only by learning to appreciate ourselves can we tap into our inner potential. People who know how to appreciate themselves can have more courage to face the setbacks and difficulties of life.
Actor Ma Sichun revealed himself to campus violence in an interview. Because of the strict discipline of her parents since she was a child, she has cultivated everything in her heart since she was a child, and she dare not express it.
Classmates often laughed at her in public, often made fun of her, and stole her drinks. She tried to tell her parents, and their cold attitude made her feel cold. This experience indirectly planted a seed of inconfidence in her heart.
Gradually growing up, Ma Sichun learned to appreciate himself through performance, accepted the unsatisfactory life, and also walked out of the darkest moments in his life.
Zi Xin felt that learning to appreciate himself was not blindly self-congratulatory. It is a kind of awakening in life, but also a realm for people to live in the world, and it can give you the motivation to go forward bravely.
In the long life, the only person who can be bound by everything is himself. Born inward and outward, only those who know how to appreciate themselves can get more applause and praise. Only by learning to understand and understand ourselves can we do what we want and do what we want.
Only by persevering can we have the ability to resist fate
Emerson said, "The power that God has given you is unique, and it is only when you try and apply it that you know what it really is." ”
Each of us can't resist the problems that fate gives us, and the only thing that can change is to be the best version of ourselves.
Jingqiu will go out every summer vacation to do odd jobs to supplement the family, like picking sand such a heavy and dangerous job, no one thinks she can do such a job, especially carrying more than a hundred pounds of sandbags, walking from the narrow springboard, dangling and slowly flat shoulder bending Jingqiu's back, but she is gritting her teeth and insisting on picking a whole section of the road, this serious attitude even the men at the construction site are also impressed by her.
Jing Qiu's handicraft work is also very good, helping people to measure and make clothes is like a tailor, the speed is good and fast, but she never charges others, but appreciates that others give her the opportunity to learn.
Jing Qiu's hard work and hard work have formed her unique character qualities, and many people are willing to entrust things to her to complete.
Only those who dare to struggle with life can hone their hearts in life. Only those who insist on walking soberly understand that the road ahead is not necessarily bright and frank, but it must also be full of infinite possibilities.
At the "2022 Chinese Poetry Conference", Wang Yixuan, a 17-year-old hearing-impaired girl, recited a sign language version of "Will Enter the Wine". Her confident expression, determined eyes, looked at countless people crying.
When Wang Yixuan was two years old, she was diagnosed with extremely severe neurotic deafness and could hardly hear outside sounds, and her mother opened a door for her with ancient poetry.
In order to learn ancient poetry, she needed to learn all the pinyin. Sometimes in order to make a sound, Wang Yixuan's mouth had to practice repeatedly with water, and this action persisted for 12 years, which also made her harvest the joy of success.
The power of persistence will make it easier for us to get closer to success. Only those who persevere have enough confidence to be ready to fight with life at all times and harvest unexpected surprises.
People who think they are really strong understand the meaning of persistence. People who never easily compromise with life, even if they are thrown to the lowest point by life, still have the courage to fight back. People are at a low point, but they do not covet the stability of the low place, but constantly grow themselves and transform themselves, so that they can eventually surpass others.
People with strong hearts have always been moved by dreams and their hearts are stronger. Time will tell us that all perseverance will not be disappointed, and everyone has the ability to conquer any peak in the world.
Respect is more important than love
There is a saying that goes like this: "In the face of love, what is important is not right or wrong, but mutual understanding and respect." ”
The third elder had always been a person who only did not say, and he silently accompanied Jing Qiu's body. Pay attention to everything she has, do not add a little burden to her, and silently help her. The third elder did not ask Jing Qiu to give him a response, only hoping that Jing Qiu could accept his help and protect and love herself well.
The love of the third elder is like a flood of spring water, nourishing JingQiu's dry heart. It gave her hope for life and a beautiful fantasy about the future.
Jing Qiu's date with Lao San was accidentally bumped into by Jing Qiu's mother, who asked the old third to not meet before Jing Qiu turned right, and the cruel reality made them have to separate. The third elder's heart was painful and unwilling, but for the future of Jingqiu, he held a beautiful expectation for the future of the two. He still respectfully promised Jingqiu's mother: "No problem, he will wait for Jingqiu to turn right after a year and come back to her." ”
Loving someone is not about controlling and taking, but about respecting and accepting. Loving too hard may be hurtful, and only knowing how to respect each other is the right love and happiness.
The famous singer Li Jian and his wife Meng Xiaobei have known each other for more than ten years, and when they were young, the two shined in their respective fields and worked together.
When Li Jian was at his lowest point, the burden of life was all on Meng Xiaobei. Not only did she not complain, but she always stuck to Li Jian's side. She cleans up the house every day and lets Li Jian quietly create music. Respect and encourage him to stick to his musical dreams.
Li Jian once said: "The days with you are called time, otherwise it is just a meaningless swing of the clock, and I have been on my honeymoon all my life." ”
Long-term love is the common expectation of the two people for the future, the confidence to walk side by side when encountering difficulties, and the achievement of being equal to each other.
Zi Xin believes that every relationship needs to be managed by both parties in order to achieve the realm of mutual respect and mutual appreciation, and the souls of the door are like each other.
True love never forces the other party to change for itself, and does not force the other party to sacrifice for itself. Each other do their best in a corner of the land to fulfill and respect each other's wishes.
True love is fulfillment, not possession
Someone asked, "What is the highest state of love?" ”
A netizen replied: "Love is not a simple like, but an eternal touch, and it is the spirit that can nourish each other's lives." ”
Later, the third elder really did not come to find Jingqiu for a long time.
Jing Qiu heard the news that the third elder had leukemia from other people, and she ran to the hospital in fear to confirm the reliability of the condition. In order not to make the person he loves miserable, the third elder has been lying to Jingqiu that it is just a common cold, and hides the true condition from Jingqiu.
After the two parted for the last time, the third elder sent Jing Qiu back. The two stood on the opposite bank of the river and looked at each other affectionately, tearfully embracing each other.
The third elder finally chose to leave quietly, he did not want Jingqiu to see him being tormented by illness, and only hoped that Jingqiu would always live happily.
When Jing Qiu saw The Third Elder again, it was already the time of his death, and the Third Elder was completely in a coma. Jing Qiu cried so much that she couldn't speak, and could only say to the third elder over and over again, "I am Jing Qiu!" I am Jing Qiu! Every tear she left behind was a cry of pain to her lover.
Love is never possession, nor is it taking. Rather, the soul parallels over the years and learns how to love someone better.
This reminds Zi Xin of the phrase "I love you, you are free", which explains given giveni's full love for Audrey Hepburn.
Givenchy has been with Hepburn for more than forty years without complaint, and he has achieved the classic of half a century of Audrey Hepburn, witnessing Hepburn's three marriages to personally design a wedding dress for her. A promise made to Hepburn: "I will do anything for you all my life." ”
Givenchy never married, and he silently accompanied Audrey Hepburn in his own way. As long as she is happy and happy, he will have nothing else to ask for in his life.
The most beautiful love is not the vow of the mountains and the sea when you were young, but the time that flies and still does not abandon each other.
Zi Xin feels that true love is to do everything in his power to support the future for the other party, so that the other party has the courage to set sail again. Every love that has been loved with the heart is enough to make time move.
When you truly love someone, you will understand that true love is fulfillment, not possession. As long as she is good, this map of life is complete.
Zhang Xiaoxian once said: "There are some people who will not be together in this life, but there is a feeling that can be hidden in the heart and kept for a lifetime." ”
Time can take away everyone's face, but it can't take away the sincere emotions in our hearts.
Everyone has beautiful fantasies about love, and on the road to beautiful love, there are wandering and bravery, tears and laughter.
Even if you like someone you can't have, loving someone can be fulfilling. Even if the two can't stay together, it makes us believe that we deserve to be loved.
Love is a beam of light, and in the years of life, may it be a beacon that illuminates our front.
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