●Author ╳Lin Wanyang ●Source public name ╳Wanyang woman
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Invited by friends, in the way of online networking, I watched the premiere of a movie, Tan Zhuo and Tian Yu's "Punch! Mom". In fact, it is a very simple story, the mother played by Tan Zhuo overcame all the unimaginable difficulties for the sake of the child, stood in the boxing ring again, and finally with the iron will of the [mother], she had the kind of life she wanted to show her son.
The whole movie, the most told, is also Tan Zhuo's dedication and persistence as a mother, such as she lost 20 pounds a week, of course, the price is huge, such as she defeated one opponent after another, of course, the sweat behind can be described by the word "inhuman".
But, strangely.
Maybe it's because this kind of dedication has always been seen in our ordinary lives, so although I am moved, I have not yet accumulated the emotion of a thousand times.
Because, visible, spoken, and understood pain and effort, in the end are still worth it, in the end there is still a little comfort.
(Tan Zhuo as Bai Yang)
But middle-aged women, especially married women, what is the real difficulty, is that there are some people, some things, some feelings, you can't even open your mouth and people, because it seems that those things, girls say emotional, middle-aged women say it is temperament.
Therefore, what impressed me the most in the whole movie was that between Tan Zhuo and Tian Yu, there seemed to be nothing, and I wanted to rest, like a gust of wind drifting over, and after the rain, it was crushed into dust.
When I watched the movie, I asked myself countless times whether Shen Hao, played by Tian Yu, had ever loved Bai Yang, played by Tan Zhuo.
Poplar is a very complex person, first of all:
Poplar is not a perfect mother in the traditional sense, she has made many mistakes, always acted impulsively, lived in prison, and even the birth of a son is against the world.
In the process of watching the movie, I myself once hated Poplar, thinking that she was very persistent and feminine on the one hand, but also felt that some of her behaviors were very selfish to her relatives. For example, in any case, she just let her sister take on the responsibility of raising children for her.
If we really talk about the tenacity and kindness of women who are as silent as water, her sister is more worthy of admiration.
(Tian Hairong as Bai Yang's sister)
But this imperfection I feel very realistic, everyone aspires to be a good enough mother, every child also wants their parents to be looked up to, but the truth is that being a mother is really random. Bai Yang, played by Tan Zhuo, became his mother at his worst time.
People who are not good enough can also become good mothers little by little. In this sense, the expression of the film is relatively advanced.
In addition to not being a good mother at the beginning, Poplar does not seem to be the kind of woman who is very attractive to men.
Think about it, when she met Shen Hao, she had just come out of prison and made a living in the most complicated cracks in society, and her body was rubbed by life fiercely, and the words "beauty" and "good" had nothing to do with her, and even her sister, for the good of her children, had to quickly avoid her.
However, Shen Hao was touched by the persistent energy of Bai Yang,giving up everything he had to complete The Poplar, and even for the sake of The Poplar, he did a lot of things that he had to calculate carefully and then give up decisively.
When I saw him being a sparring partner for Poplar again and again, silently caring for Poplar again and again, delivering food to Poplar who was still working in the middle of the night, and even being beaten to death for Poplar.
I asked myself if he must have loved her.
Even, he also gave Bai Yang the most precious [understanding] in the world, Bai Yang never said that he missed his son, but Shen Hao saw everything from Bai Yang's subtle actions, giving Bai Yang and his son a chance to get along.
So, has Poplar ever been moved?
This question really bothered me from the beginning to the end.
If you say that this movie has nothing to do with love, but the whole movie, filmed is the mutual achievement of Bai Yang and Shen Hao, she is the undoubted heroine, he is the male protagonist of course, but if this movie has something to do with love, the whole movie, there is no sentence "I love you", even if there is no temptation such as "I seem to like you a little".
The only scene that could be seen that Shen Hao was very important to Bai Yang was that when Bai Yang was about to fall, he remembered everything that Shen Hao had told her.
Then the movie came to an abrupt end, Shen Hao smiled from a distance, and Bai Yang hugged his son.
As for Bai Yang and Shen Hao, the film does not have a little more ink.
In exchange for 20 years old, I will definitely feel uneasy, and even feel that such a story direction is unfair to Shen Haotai.
However, now, I just feel helpless and even a little calm - because this is the most real middle-aged love, and we no longer have the strength to seriously talk about a love.
Therefore, many feelings, even if they are like Shen Hao and Bai Yang, have been brewing for a long enough time, and finally they will become the sentence written by Wang Zengqi in "The Chronicle of Da Nao": "They are all old, and their hearts are not nothing." It's just like a thin cloud, floating over, floating past, not raining. ”
However, here I would like to change the sentence: "It is not that there is no heart, but it is all old." ”
Yes, Bai Yang's dedication to Shen Hao is not unknown, just because she is her mother, just because she has reached the age. She feels that the feelings around her must all make way for the "becoming a qualified mother", and she will have a sense of shame that she still wants to fall in love when she gets to this situation.
Not only Tan Zhuo's role of Bai Yang, I recently chased the divorce variety show "Spring Day Delay and Departure", I found that the female guests inside, but all those who became mothers, all have a sense of shame about love, even if the personality itself is open enough to career women, there will be a feeling of "how dare you" about love.
Because they know better than anyone how much comfort their children bring them, but at the same time they take away how much affection they once could share with others. It is also because they have reached a certain age, experienced too much, loved, and hurt, even if they have not lost their desire for love, they have also lost the freshness of love. So, even if there is enough money and enough time, the heart of love is gone.
Not to mention the poplar in the movie, a woman who is still struggling with life.
Therefore, not writing the ending of Bai Yang and Shen Hao is the screenwriter's transparency, but also the screenwriter's compassion: there are many things in the world, and there is no need to shake them all. It's good to ask in your heart if you've ever loved.
For middle-aged people, love has no so-called ending, and it is enough that the person appears and can give a different meaning to a certain period of time.
The movie stops at Shen Hao's smile, which is the best ending: because, she wants what she gets; what he wants, he also gets.
Adult love is nothing more than a piece of fulfillment.
Of course, the reason why I see such emotion is really because Tan Zhuo and Tian Yu perform too well, never stingy when it should be strong, and never take out a little more when it should be light, perhaps because experienced actors understand the restraint of adults.