In 1930, Mei Lanfang planned to take the third lady Meng Xiaodong to the United States for a tour, and the second lady Fu Zhifang learned about it and also clamored to go to the United States.
At that time, monogamy was already prevalent, and as a celebrity, Mei Lanfang would not openly take her two wives abroad. In order not to create contradictions, he decided not to bring one. The long-planned itinerary was disrupted by Fu Zhifang, and Meng Xiaodong was angry and returned to her mother's house.
Mei Lanfang
At this time, she was 3 months pregnant, and she should have been recuperating at home, but in order to go to the United States with her husband, she secretly took medicine and disguised as an accidental abortion. However, Mei Lanfang saw that her wife had a miscarriage and insisted on letting her recuperate at home.
In order to comfort Fu Zhifang, Mei Lanfang also took her to Beidaihe to relax before going to the United States. When Meng Xiaodong saw a photo of the two playing in the newspaper, her heart was broken.
Mei Lanfang had three wives in her life, one was the original Match Wang Minghua who died early, the second was Fu Zhifang, and the last was Meng Xiaodong. It can be said that the first two are the women that Mei Lanfang married in order to pass on the inheritance, and Meng Xiaodong is the love of his life.
The world says that we must marry for love, and it is difficult to be happy without an emotional basis. But in Mei Lanfang's marriage, except for Wang Minghua, who died early, he and his beloved Meng Xiaodong broke up early, but they stayed with Fu Zhifang, who married for the inheritance of the lineage, why is this? Is it just because Fu Zhifang is fierce enough to be spicy? Let's walk into this crowded marriage and find out!
1, 15-year-old Fu Zhifang married Mei Lanfang, not love but value exchange
In 1910, the 16-year-old Mei Lanfang married the original Match wang Minghua at the behest of her parents and the words of the matchmaker. After giving birth to a pair of children, Wang Minghua concentrated on assisting her husband's career and even underwent sterilization. But Providence tricked people, just when Mei Lanfang's career was in full swing, a menacing urticaria took the lives of a pair of children.
After the grief, a more realistic question was placed in front of Mei Lanfang: the children were gone, and the wife had undergone sterilization, was she not without a successor?
Wang Minghua
It is said that there are three filial pieties, and no queen is greater. What's more, Mei Lanfang is still "one son and two qi", her father died early, mei Lanfang was passed on to her uncle and aunt, and she needed to inherit two incense sticks.
At that time, monogamy was not yet prevalent, and it was normal for men to have three wives and four concubines. In order to stabilize the position of his daughter, Wang Minghua's mother's family had proposed that the two adopt Wang Shaolou, the nephew of the Wang family, but Mei Lanfang was only 27 years old, and he did not want to raise children for others. For now, the only way to do this is to marry another wife.
In 1920, during a church meeting, Mei Lanfang met 15-year-old Fu Zhifang. Although Fu Zhifang is young, Qingyi sings very well and looks outstanding. After Feng Liuye, a member of the Mei Party, saw Fu Zhifang, he suggested that Mei Lanfang marry her, on the grounds that Fu Zhifang was "good looking and able to have children."
Mei Lanfang returned home and consulted with his wife, Wang Minghua loved her husband deeply, naturally he could not bear that he had no successor, since Feng Liuye said yes, it was good.
Mei Dang is a group composed of Feng Lianguang (Feng Liuye), Qi Rushan, Li Shijie, Xu Boming and others, whose function is similar to the agents of today's stars. In those years, the Mei Party repeatedly played a decisive role in Mei Lanfang's marriage.
Fu Zhifang was born into a declining Manchu aristocratic family, his father died early, and his mother, Aunt Fu, raised her daughter by cutting toothpicks. When Mei Lanfang met Fu Zhifang, she had only been on stage for a year, and her plays were also well received.
When Mei Lanfang asked for a matchmaker, Aunt Fu did not agree, first, she felt that her daughter was still young and still needed to be sharpened in acting; second, she knew that Mei Lanfang had a wife, and she had a daughter herself, how could she be a concubine.
The matchmaker told Fu Aunt that although the Mei family nominally had an original match, Wang Minghua not only had no fertility, but also had a very bad health, Fu Zhifang married in the past, as long as she could give birth to a child, no one dared to underestimate her.
Aunt Mei weighed the pros and cons and felt that Mei Lanfang was a horn after all, and her daughter's material life was still guaranteed when she married. Therefore, he put forward two conditions, one of which was that Fu Zhifang would not marry a concubine in the past, but would be a peaceful wife. Second: she wants to go to the Mei family with her daughter to live, and Mei Lanfang wants to give herself a pension to the end.
Mei Lanfang and Fu Zhifang
Mei Lanfang happily agreed, and soon after, the two were officially married.
This marriage, like all old-fashioned marriages, has an almost negligible element of love, and the union of the two is more of a value exchange.
For Mei Lanfang, who is about to enter the age of establishment, he urgently needs a woman to help him pass on the generations, and Feng Liuye's sentence "good looks, can give birth and breed", will reveal the value of Fu Zhifang. For the lonely fu zhifang and her mother, what this marriage can bring them is the stability of their material lives.
Love can be a momentary passion. But marriage is like running a business, and if you want to develop for a long time, both husband and wife must provide value for this marriage. This value can be emotional value, material value, safety value, etc.
In a sense, as long as the husband and wife have always been able to achieve equal value exchange, even if there is no vigorous feeling, the marriage can be happy for a long time. This is also the most important reason why Fu Zhifang can win this marriage defense war.
2. Fu Zhifang strives to enhance her self-worth and finally "squeezes out" the original match
Perhaps it is Fu Zhifang's natural quick wit, or perhaps it is the guidance of her mother behind her, Fu Zhifang understands that she wants to gain a foothold in the Mei family, and there are still many things to do.
First of all, Fu Zhifang reluctantly left the Peking Opera stage, because she knew that Mei Lanfang needed a wife who took care of herself and her family wholeheartedly.
Fu Zhifang and Mei Lanfang
Secondly, she was humble to the original match Wang Minghua, and after giving birth to her first son, she also took the initiative to pass on her son to Wang Minghua. But at that time, Wang Minghua was in pain, and he had no time to take care of the child, and when he saw that Fu Zhifang understood etiquette like this, he also put his mind at ease and returned the child to Fu Zhifang three days later.
Finally, Fu Zhifang often accompanied Mei Lanfang to read books, draw pictures, sort out scripts, and personally prepare for the costumes and lines of Mei Lanfang and the actors. The pink glass yarn that Mei Lanfang wore when rehearsing "Roselle" and the wind belt that rehearsed "Tiannu Scattered Flowers" were all designed by her.
Of course, Fu Zhifang knows that her greatest value is to pass on the generations, in those years, she gave birth to 9 children in a row, due to the poor medical conditions at that time, 5 of them died prematurely, but this is enough to reassure Mei Lanfang.
A few years later, Fu Zhifang was already the mother of several children and completely won mei Lanfang's trust. At this time, her strong personality was revealed, and she no longer made a small prostration in front of the original match. Wang Minghua felt that he was superfluous in this home, and left the Mei family in Beijing on the grounds of tuberculosis and went to Tianjin for convalescence.
Some people may say that Fu Zhifang's heart is too deep, she took the initiative to gain Wang Minghua's trust with her step-by-step, and then took the power of the family step by step, and then squeezed out Wang Minghua. In fact, the game between these two women, the power has always been the value in marriage.
At that time, the sick and weak Wang Minghua could no longer help Mei Lanfang in life or career. But Fu Zhifang is different, she is young and strong, not only can take care of her husband's life and career, but also helped him have several children.
All of this makes the balance of value of this marriage biased in favor of Fu Zhifang. Therefore, it is not Fu Zhifang who forced Wang Minghua away, but she made Wang Minghua concede defeat by enhancing her value in marriage.
3, Mei Lanfang remarried Meng Xiaodong, Fu Zhifang repelled Meng Xiaodong in 3 rounds
There is a wife in the family who has to go up to the hall and the kitchen, according to the reason, Mei Lanfang should be very satisfied, but the man has a good time and begins to pursue the wind and snow. At this moment, 19-year-old Meng Xiaodong appeared, but Fu Zhifang only used 3 rounds to repel this beloved woman of Mei Lanfang.
Round 1: Mei Lanfang was kidnapped, and Fu Zhifang broke the defense with one sentence
In fact, as early as a few years ago, Meng Xiaodong had seen Mei Lanfang, although it was only a quick glance, but it had already disturbed her a pool of spring water. Later, the two cooperated in "Dragon Play Phoenix", and Meng Xiaodong secretly agreed with Mei Lanfang. Mei Lanfang was also moved by this outstanding-looking and talented "old female student".
The May Party strongly favors the combination of the two. They believe that if Mei Lanfang marries Meng Xiaodong, the two will perform on stage, and the economic benefits will be immeasurable. On the other hand, the strong Fu Zhifang often clashed with mei dang financially, and Meng Xiaodong entered the door and could compete with Fu Zhifang.
Meng Xiaodong's old life dressed up
On the contrary, Mei Lanfang was still a little hesitant, he was afraid that the powerful Fu Zhifang would not agree to this marriage. Qi Rushan then suggested that he buy another house outside the Mei Mansion and secretly welcome Meng Xiaodong into the door. By then, the wood has become a boat, and Fu Shi can only accept it.
At the beginning of 1921, Mei Lanfang bought a residence outside, and under the auspices of Feng Liuye, she and Meng Xiaodong held a grand and low-key wedding. At that time, the original Wang Minghua lived in Tianjin for a long time, and Mei Lanfang promised Meng Xiaodong to marry and marry as old as Fu Zhifang. At this time, Fu Zhifang did not know anything about this matter.
But paper can't contain the fire after all. Meng Xiaodong has stopped acting since marrying Mei Lanfang, and even if the two are low-key, they still can't escape the reporter's eyes. A few months later, the Beiyang Pictorial reported that Mei Lanfang and Meng Xiaodong were suspected of getting married, and as soon as the news came out, it triggered a heated discussion, but fortunately, the Mei Party came out at the first time to clarify, and only then calmed the storm.
After Fu Zhifang saw the news, combined with Mei Lanfang's frequent spending of the night outside in the past few months, she concluded that her husband and Meng Xiaodong were together.
In theory, according to Fu Zhifang's strong personality, she should kill Meng Xiaodong at the first time to settle accounts. But in fact, Fu Zhifang is not a shrew, she carefully thought about it, since Mei Meng and the two have not yet made it public, it is not justified, and maybe there is a turnaround. So she continued to pretend not to know, waiting for the opportunity to test her husband's attitude again.
Meng Xiaodongqi dressed up
Soon, Fu Zhifang waited for this opportunity.
Meng Xiaodong has a crazy fan named Li Zhigang. When he learned that Meng Xiaodong was married to Mei Lanfang, he thought that Mei Lanfang had robbed his "fiancée".
On September 14, 1927, Li Zhigang pretended to be a fallen student and came to Mei Mansion for help, he wanted to take this opportunity to kidnap Mei Lanfang, but did not think that Mei Lanfang had not come forward, Li Zhigang had to kidnap his friend Zhang San, and shot and killed Zhang San in the confusion, and then Li Zhigang was killed by the police.
It happened suddenly, and Mei Lanfang was scared enough. That day, when Mei Lanfang returned home exhausted, Fu Zhifang said to her husband with a sad expression: "Uncle, I know that you like her, but your life is important, if you have something three long and two short, what can we do?" ”
Fu Zhifang's words are very standard, on the surface, he is concerned about Mei Lanfang, but in fact he is blaming Meng Xiaodong. Mei Lanfang also knew that the person Li Zhigang wanted to kill was actually himself, if it wasn't for Zhang San blocking the gun, it would be himself who died this time. Thinking about it again, if you didn't marry Meng Xiaodong in the first place, wouldn't everything have happened?
Once this idea arose, it began to spread, and over time it became an irreparable rift between Meng Xiaodong and Mei Lanfang.
Meng Xiaodong and Mei Lanfang
Maybe heaven is also helping Fu Zhifang, after the Li Zhigang case, rumors are flying everywhere, everyone says that Li Zhigang and Meng Xiaodong have a marriage contract earlier, it is Mei Lanfang who snatches love with a horizontal knife, which makes Li Zhigang jump the wall. For a time, the spearhead was pointed at Mei Lanfang.
After marrying Meng Xiaodong, Mei Lanfang not only had to worry about her personal safety, but even her reputation was damaged, and he was deeply disturbed by it. To this end, the May Party proposes two solutions:
The first is to break up with Meng Xiaodong.
Second, the waiting time gradually fades the scar.
Mei Lanfang finally had feelings for Meng Xiaodong, and he chose the second plan, using time to dilute the scars. After that, Mei Meng gradually became estranged, laying the groundwork for the two to break up. In this way, in the first contest between the two women, Fu Zhifang easily won.
I have to say that Fu Zhifang's means are indeed high, but the main reason for the development of things to this point is that for Mei Lanfang, Fu Zhifang is more in line with his essential requirements for marriage.
We said before that the essence of marriage is value exchange, but only if the value you provide is what the other person needs. In Maslow's hierarchy of needs, human needs are, from lowest to highest: physiological needs, security needs, love and belonging needs, respect needs, and self-actualization. When low-level needs are met, higher-level needs are pursued.
The emergence of Fu Zhifang not only allowed Mei Lanfang to succeed someone, but also took care of his career and life in an orderly manner, which allowed Mei Lanfang's "safety needs" to be satisfied, and then began to pursue love and belonging, it is clear that the emergence of Meng Xiaodong met his needs.
In this case, the only way to change Mei Lanfang's mind is to make Meng Xiaodong no longer meet his value needs for marriage.
After Li Zhigang's case, Fu Zhifang said that "the life of the great master is important", so that Mei Lanfang's needs temporarily "degenerated" to the need for a sense of security, so he would stay away from Meng Xiaodong, who gave him "love and belonging", and stay by Fu Zhifang's side who could give his life and reputation safety.
Round 2: Mei Meng's feelings heat up, and Fu Zhifang uses the child as a chip twice to win
In the Spring Festival of 1928, Mei Lanfang wanted to perform in Beijing, at this time, Mei Meng and the two were still in a cold period, Fu Zhifang knew that this was a good opportunity, and asked her husband to take him to the performance together.
Soon after, the Beiyang Pictorial reported on the couple's itinerary and called Fu Zhifang "Mei Lanfang's concubine."
This news made Meng Xiaodong heartbroken, she married Mei Lanfang for more than a year, not even a "concubine" name, and now it is snubbed for no reason, but her husband takes Fu Zhifang in and out of public places, is this not deliberately angry with herself?
Meng Xiaodong's youth
Although sad, Meng Xiaodong is an independent and strong woman, and she feels that she can live well without Mei Lanfang. Two months later, Meng Xiaodong made a comeback in Tianjin, and the performance hall was full.
And here, after a few months, Mei Lanfang's inner fear slowly faded, and the love for Meng Xiaodong in her heart was revived. When Meng Xiaodong returned to Beijing, Mei Lanfang personally came to pick up people, and the two reconciled.
After that, Mei Lanfang and Meng Xiaodong often went in pairs in public, and Mei Lanfang also took her to Guangzhou, Hong Kong and other places to perform, while working, while honeymooning. In February 1929, the Beiyang Pictorial reported that Meng Xiaodong was Mrs. Mei Meng.
Fu Zhifang was very depressed, she underestimated her husband's feelings for Meng Xiaodong, if things continued to develop like this, she was afraid that she would always be a "concubine".
In 1930, Mei Lanfang's plan to perform in the United States began to be implemented, at that time, Mei Lanfang set the work place in Meng Xiaodong's residence, and the two prepared gifts together, including not only Mei Lanfang's photos, but also Meng Xiaodong's photos, it can be seen that Mei Lanfang wanted to take Meng Xiaodong to the United States together.
When he learned that Mei Meng and the two were going to the United States together, Fu Zhifang panicked. After the last southward performance, Meng Xiaodong became Mrs. Mei Meng, if this really went to the United States, then it was necessary? This is where the scene at the beginning of the article appears, where Fu Zhifang secretly takes medicine in order to follow him to the United States, disguised as an accidental miscarriage bo sympathetic.
Mei Lanfang and Fu Zhifang
Although Fu Zhifang also failed to go to the United States, when Meng Xiaodong saw the photos of Mei Lanfang and Fu Zhifang playing in Beidaihe in the newspaper, her heart was cold, and she felt that Mei Lanfang's feelings for her could not withstand the fusion with Fu Zhifang's flesh and blood after all.
But Mei Lanfang had no time to take care of Meng Xiaodong's mood, and after returning from Beidaihe, she hurried to the United States. The trip to the United States took several months, and by the time Mei Lanfang returned home, it was already June of the following year. As soon as he got off the boat, he heard that the great aunt had died, Mei Lanfang had been raised by his uncle and aunt since childhood, and when he heard the bad news, he rushed back to Beijing overnight to mourn.
On the other hand, Meng Xiaodong learned that this titular mother-in-law had died, and specially cut her hair short, with white flowers, and prepared to go to Meifu to guard filial piety. In the 3 years since marrying Mei Lanfang, she has not only never seen this mother-in-law, but even the door of the Mei family has never stepped in, and Meng Xiaodong feels that this may be the last chance for herself and Mei Lanfang.
However, Fu Zhifang had already made preparations, when Meng Xiaodong came to Mei Fu's door, a group of people knew who she was, but they stopped her from entering, and called her "Miss Meng". Meng Xiaodong didn't expect to encounter this situation, and it took a while before he came back and said, "Please ask your old master to come out and speak."
The next people pushed that Mei Lanfang was unwell and inconvenient to meet guests, Meng Xiaodong smiled: "Since he is unwell, then I have to go in and see." ”
The two sides quarreled, at that time, the Mei family came to many people in the opera industry, and Meng Xiaodong was so out of shape that many people watched. At this time, Mei Lanfang knew that Meng Xiaodong was coming, and he was ready to go to the door to greet him, but he was blocked by Fu Zhifang, and she said resolutely: "If you still care about the child who is about to be full-term in my belly, you don't let her come in." ”
In desperation, Mei Lanfang had to compromise. After a long time, he walked to the door with a blue face and said to Meng Xiaodong with difficulty: "You go back first." ”
Hearing this, the little hope left in Meng Xiaodong's heart was shattered, and she turned her head to leave and threw down a sentence: "After Meng Xiaodong, I will either not sing, and if I want to sing, I will not be worse than you, or I will not marry, or I will not be worse than you." ”
In the second round of the competition, Meng Xiaodong returned to act, once again awakening Mei Lanfang's love for her, and Fu Zhifang twice used the fetus in her abdomen as a chip to remind Mei Lanfang that she could pass on the generations for him and continue to meet the "safety needs" of his raising children and preventing the elderly.
Imagine how a person's sense of security is no longer guaranteed, how can there be the mood to talk about love, so in this round, Fu Zhifang won again.
Round 3: Fu Zhifang lowers her posture and finally successfully defends the marriage
Before this, Meng Xiaodong may still be around Mei Lanfang for love, but after this trouble in MeiFu, Meng Xiaodong's dignity as a woman and a celebrity was trampled on the ground, how could she continue to endure such a proud person. After that, Meng Xiaodong left for Tianjin, and Mei Lanfang begged for forgiveness many times, but Meng Xiaodong was indifferent.
Although the trip to the United States was lively, it made Mei Lanfang lose more than 100,000 yuan, which was undoubtedly a huge amount of money at the time, but Mei Lanfang was hurt for Meng Xiaodong, and even had no intention of working.
At this time, Fu Zhifang not only did not blame her husband, but became more virtuous, whether it was taking care of the children or caring for her husband, she did a good job and shared a lot of worries for Mei Lanfang.
Fuzhifang Mei Lanfang and her children
Soon after, the May Party held another meeting and finally came to a conclusion:
Meng Xiaodong is proud and arrogant, destined to mei lanfang to accommodate her, although Fu Zhifang has a strong personality, but is willing to lower her posture for mei lanfang, if for Mei Lanfang's life considerations, Meng Xiaodong is destined to become an outcast.
Perhaps he really listened to Mei Dang's advice, or maybe he didn't have time to take care of it, Mei Lanfang failed to keep Meng Xiaodong after all. More than a year later, Meng Xiaodong offered to break up, and this once enviable couple has since become a stranger.
In the third round, Mei Lanfang was in debt, and the independent and proud Meng Xiaodong repeatedly refused his offer of peace, while Fu Zhifang continued to manage the housework for her husband, raise children, and successfully defended the marriage regardless of previous suspicions.
In the end, what Mei Lanfang needs is a little woman who can bear children for herself, take care of the housework, and even be willing to bow down and be a small woman when necessary. Fu Zhifang can do this. But Meng Xiaodong, the "Winter Emperor" who appeared on stage at the age of 8, became famous at the age of 12, and saw the world, was proud, and she could not have wronged herself for a man.
Of course, mei meng's emotional breakdown is not Mei Lanfang's one-way choice, and Mei Lanfang cannot meet Meng Xiaodong's needs for marriage.
Although Meng Xiaodong ostensibly accepted Mei Lanfang's other women, at the critical moment, she still hoped that her husband would put herself first in everything and love herself more than anything else.
Before there was Wang Minghua, who lost his fertility for himself, and then there was Fu Zhifang, who helped him have children and honored his parents, Mei Lanfang was doomed to be unable to give Meng Xiaodong wholehearted love. Neither side could satisfy each other's needs for the other half, and eventually had to go their separate ways.
4. Do not abandon in the midst of suffering, and achieve moving love with each other
Zhang Ailing once said: A man will have at least two women, a red rose and a white rose, married to a red rose, over time, the red becomes mosquito blood, and the white becomes white moonlight. vice versa.
Many years later, Meng Xiaodong did become the white moonlight in Mei Lanfang's heart, but Fu Zhifang did not become the mosquito blood. Fu Zhifang used her affection, thoughtfulness and understanding to achieve a moving love story.
After the September 18 Incident, when the Japanese army manipulated Puyi to establish a puppet state of Manchukuo in the northeast, it sent a flag man to invite Mei Lanfang to perform, and Mei Lanfang categorically refused. In 1938, in order to avoid the entanglement of the Japanese, Mei Lanfang went to Hong Kong to perform, and then lived in Hong Kong, which was 3 years. In December 1941, the Japanese army occupied Hong Kong, and since that day, Mei Lanfang has been holding Ho Ming Zhi and no longer acting.
When Mei Lanfang was in Hong Kong, everyone rumored that he had followed the Japanese and would not come back, and Fu Zhifang stood up for her husband: "Mei Lanfang will definitely come back." ”
During that time, Fu Zhifang was alone at home doing housework and taking care of the children, saying that she was not afraid of being false, but for the sake of her husband's reputation, she had to hold on.
Around the Dragon Boat Festival in 1942, Mei Lanfang published a photo of her beard through the Western European media, and a poem was written under the photo, "Bearded Ming Zhi Bei Zhi Fang" not only expressed Mei Lanfang's determination not to yield to the Japanese Kou, but also conveyed his deep affection for Fu Zhifang.
After Fu Zhifang read the poem, she was full of sorrow and joy, she knew that her husband was ready to die, but she could not drag her legs, and then she wrote back a poem to express her support for her husband. After Mei Lanfang saw the poem, she sighed continuously: Those who know me, Zhifang also.
In the summer of 1942, when Mei Lanfang returned to Shanghai from Hong Kong, there were rumors that he was unfortunately killed. Fu Zhifang's grief was unstoppable, so that the facial nerves twitched, and injections and medicines did not help, and since then, Fu Zhifang has left this root of the disease.
When Mei Lanfang returned to Shanghai, looking at Fu Zhifang, whose facial nerves were twitching, she was moved to tears, this woman who had once made him hate and hurt, was so selflessly loving herself, and her husband asked for more.
After returning to Shanghai, the Japanese army froze his bank account in order to force Mei Lanfang to obey, hoping that he would make a comeback for life.
In that war-torn era, there was no money to really live like a year. In order to support her husband, Fu Zhifang did not hesitate to pawn all her jewelry and dowry, even one of her mother's favorite ancient porcelain bowls.
Seeing that the Mei family was so embarrassed, there were traitors who lured Fu Zhifang with money: "As long as your husband is willing to come back, he will immediately offer a hundred gold bars." But she didn't waver.
The family's things were almost pawned, and Fu Zhifang proposed to let Mei Lanfang paint and sell her own paintings to barely make a living, and this day lasted until the victory of the Anti-Japanese War and mei Lanfang's comeback.
On August 8, 1961, Mei Lanfang died of illness, and before dying, he took Fu Zhifang's hand and repeatedly stressed that he did not want to be buried in the Babaoshan Revolutionary Cemetery. Mei Lanfang said, "If I were buried there, how lonely you would be after you died!" After Fu Zhifang listened, tears wet the placket.
According to Mei Lanfang's wishes, he was buried in Wanhua Mountain, and in 1980, after Fu Zhifang's death, he was buried next to her husband.
Before Fu Zhifang died, he sighed: "Behind Mei Lang's career like a mountain, I am just a small grass. One sentence tells the essence of marriage. A good marriage may not have much to do with how vigorous the love is, how grand the wedding is, and most importantly, we can always understand what value the other person needs, and provide this value for a long time.
Maybe Fu Zhifang is not a good person in the true sense, she knows how to calculate. But she is still an admirable woman, and she not only has the "virtuousness" of the women of that era, but also the "boldness and assertiveness" of the women of this era, and she defended the marriage with her own wisdom and the dignity of the nation.