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In your growth path, have you ever encountered a conversation with yourself? Have you ever heard another self answer your question? Or do you seem to be arguing with another self?
For example, when you're faced with an important exam, you ask yourself, should you try to fight for it? A voice tells you, yes, you have to work hard, life is like this little by little effort. But another voice suddenly appeared, and it said you have to rest, because it's so boring to fight.
Who is right? Have you ever thought that those sounds are actually made by yourself? It's up to you to have multiple sub-personalities that influence your decision all the time.
As can be seen from the above example, there is one person whose words are more positive, and there is one person whose words are more negative. We also know that if we had the choice, most of us would choose something positive. Is there any way to reduce those negative moments in life? Negative and positive thoughts occur not only in the moments of our lives, but also in the moments when we are faced with life and death.
In fact, there is a way. There is a treatment method in psychology called "image dialogue therapy", which is one of the four methods of localization psychological counseling in the mainland, which was founded by Professor Zhu Jianjun, a famous psychologist in the mainland.
This approach comes from the psychoanalytic school, and its greatest feature is the use of "imagery", the symbolic language of primitive cognition, to directly analyze our personality in depth.
Its operation method is to induce the counseling object to imagine, understand the subconscious psychological conflict of the client, and modify the subconscious image of the counselor to achieve the therapeutic effect.
In Professor Zhu Jianjun's work "Medicine Tree", this treatment method is used to guide a terminally ill and dying patient to carry out a spiritual journey of ups and downs and survival in danger. As the book has been stating: we can't say that psychotherapy can cure cancer, but it can alleviate the patient's physical pain and help the patient adjust his mentality, so that they don't pessimistically think only about death.
Just like when we encounter bad things on weekdays, we often say the phrase: "Mentality is the most important." Sometimes, the mentality is good, and things are moving in a good direction.
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01 Behind different sub-personalities is a self that was once overlooked
Chen Shu in the story is a school bully, a high-paid white-collar worker, the daughter of his parents, and the fiancée of his boyfriend. But on the eve of entering the wedding hall, he found himself suffering from cancer, and the wedding was held a bit like wanting to say goodbye to the world.
But because his brother had not yet returned, he postponed the wedding. Therefore, I met the consultant Haiyin. Originally, Haiyin agreed to her friend's request and only came to do hospice care for Chen Shu. But because of this, the two people began a new encounter.
During Chen Shu's groggy period, she always had all kinds of dreams, there were all kinds of creatures in the dream, at first Chen Shu did not know why he dreamed of these, but under the inducement of Hai Yin, he used image dialogue therapy to help Chen Shu analyze what these creatures represented.
From the dream of Qingqing, Susu, 簌簌, small sea cucumber, mermaid, death, and small pole to Mulan, Python, Jingyue, Feifei, Fangfang and Fu Qingzhuo, these are all kinds of images that appear in the book.
Behind these images, there is actually a self that we are not aware of. For example, the vegetarian, cluster, qingqing, small sea cucumber, etc. in it are actually the imagery of the protagonist Chen Shu. When she dreamed in her dreams about the things that these images of hers were experiencing, in fact, behind these stories there were stories that happened to Chen Shu a long time ago. It's just that there are some that even she herself has forgotten.
However, even if our subconscious mind chooses to forget the things that have happened, and we have not intervened and resolved them reasonably when they happen, the body will still help you remember them. And much later, something similar happens, and it automatically jumps out of a defense mechanism, and sometimes even you don't know why you chose to do it that way.
Therefore, if something happens in daily life that makes you feel very bad, and you always have some strange dreams when you sleep at night, you can't ignore the role of dreams at this time, because this thing in the dream may be a continuation of real life. In order not to let those bad and negative dreams have a bad impact on yourself, you can dig deep into the things behind the dreams after waking up, face these problems, and maybe you can find a solution to the problem.
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02 Every cell of your body is alive for you
In this story, there are two patients, Chen Shu and Xiao Dai, who also lived together. At the end of the story, Chen Shu survived, and Xiao Dai left.
The biggest reason is whether you really want to live. In fact, everything we do, every reaction that arises in our bodies, is an expression of what we really think in our hearts.
It was as if Chen Shu planned to postpone the wedding because his brother did not come back in time. Many people said they didn't understand, and she didn't understand why she did it.
At the beginning, the wedding was an event that proved that she had existed in her life, and at the last moment of her life, she saw all her relatives and friends, and they also came from far and wide because of her illness. Flowers have blooming periods, and she wants to keep the most brilliant moments.
In her dreams, she meets Su Su and Qingqing, and later Tu Tu. According to the counselor's analysis, the reason why she wanted to delay the wedding was actually because she grew up in a patriarchal family, and her mother gave all her love to her brother and treated her as transparent. In her growing career, she felt her mother's dislike for her.
So she has always been very well-behaved and wants to win her mother's favor through good performance. However, there has not been. This time, she insisted on postponing the wedding on the grounds that her brother had not returned, in fact, she wanted to express her dissatisfaction with her mother. She wanted her mother to hear her voice, and she wanted herself to be felt.
Once strong to tell myself that I didn't need to, in fact, I just hid the mother's love that I couldn't get deep in my heart.
In Xiao Dai's story, Xiao Dai finally left, because she herself felt bored. In the imagery of Fifi and Fangfang, we understand that Xiaodai also lives in such a family, because they are girls, and there is more than one in the family, so they have been sent away since they were young.
Xiao Dai wanted to leave because no one in the family really wanted her to stay. Therefore, after using all his strength to win the most beautiful moment to meet his classmates, Xiao Dai's life came to an end in an instant.
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03 As long as there is warmth in the heart, people can live
I once heard a saying, "It's not that birds can't fly in the sea, it's because there is no waiting at the other end of the sea." It is probably the end of Chen Shu and Xiao Dai.
In the process of treatment, Chen Shu looked back at her former self, met those unappreciated lives for a certain moment, and then at this moment, she faced those pasts, and finally she understood herself that there are still things in the world that she can't put down, so she wants to live.
Perhaps many people will feel that facing those embarrassing moments, sometimes they will really defeat themselves. But so what? Big deal to do it again. And if you choose not to face it, those moments may become a roadblock in your life.
It's like we've always been taught by adults since we were young, don't clash with others, just endure. The reality is that you can't be a Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, you can't resolve conflicts, and you can't be angry.
The coldness of human nature can sometimes really make us doubt the value of living. Just like Chen Shu's mother and Chen Shu's grandmother, their experiences when they were young will come to Chen Shu because of "intergenerational inheritance". She couldn't understand why her mother didn't like her, and she couldn't understand why her grandmother didn't like her.
The root cause comes to the old society, the status of women. When Chen Shu and her mother explained these issues clearly, her relationship with her mother became better and better. And she no longer felt hopeless from her relationship with her mother.
She began to gain maternal love and let go of her jealousy of her brother. Her heart gradually warmed up, and she felt that the people around her wanted her to survive. So the heart is warm, and the will to survive is also rekindled. Sometimes the miracle of life occurs.
Xiao Dai's life was ultimately defeated by Liang Bo.
So, as long as your heart is warm, your people will be warm, your world will be warm, and you say you can live.
Chen Shu, why is it called Chen Shu? First of all, the tree is also a medicine, and medicine can cure all diseases and save all people. Such a tree, standing between heaven and earth, is used for all peoples.
It appears where it is needed.
How does this tree look? Formless, colorless and odorless.
What's that? It's the love in our hearts. It's just that a lot of times, we're used to hiding it.
Love, standing in heaven and earth, is used for all peoples. Love yourself, love the heavens, heal others, and heal yourself. All inner sorrow can be healed by love.