In the face of love, many people have the same doubts, some people obviously like a person, why not take the initiative?
There are many reasons for not taking the initiative, from the perspective of psychology, mainly because of the feeling of inferiority that arises from liking, thinking that they are not worthy of each other, not fully sure, and dare not pursue easily.
This is a universal phenomenon, in addition to their own efforts to overcome and change, others can also have a certain encouragement behavior. So when you find that someone likes you, but doesn't take the initiative, it's time to play your part.
In the face of feelings, many people are more twisted, because there are too many concerns, so they have not dared to let go of themselves to take the initiative. In the long run, even if happiness is around, everyone may miss it.
In the face of people who do not take the initiative, instead of waiting stupidly, it is better to use some routines to stimulate his fighting spirit. There is a saying that goes well: "If the mountain does not come to me, I will go to the mountain." "If you have the initiative, you can also have a good effect."
Gender psychology research shows that in the face of people who are not active, there is a "routine" that works. Chen Aiting can fall in love with Dayong because she makes good use of routines.
Da Yong looks five big and three thick on the surface, and everything is windy and hot, but in the face of feelings, he is like a shy little girl, who has not dared to take the initiative to pursue love.
His kindness to Chen Aiting is in everyone's eyes, but he is not very active, which makes Chen Aiting anxious. Chen Aiting also likes Dayong, and in order to make Dayong take the initiative, she uses a routine.
Chen Aiting felt that only when the sense of crisis came, Dayong's fighting spirit would be stimulated, so she deliberately approached her friends of the opposite sex in front of Dayong and hung him aside.
Dayong was very sad at that time, and in addition to being sad, he also hated himself for not being active enough. Stimulated by Chen Aiting, Dayong used the strength of wine to speak out loud about his feelings.
Although Chen Aiting was happy, she was not satisfied, because she was afraid that Dayong would wake up and regret it, so she began to guide her continuously. She told Dayong a lot about her own mate selection criteria, and each of them met.
Chen Aiting did this to give Dayong some confidence and let him know that he was fully in line with the standard. Although Dayong was a bit wooden, he also understood Chen Aiting's intentions, and finally plucked up the courage to take the initiative to say love in a sober state.
In the face of feelings, many people need confidence and courage, and with these conditions, he dares to boldly take the initiative to chase. From the perspective of gender psychology, if you want to make someone who does not take the initiative, you need to give him some strength and make him full of fighting spirit.
Gender psychology: In the face of people who do not take the initiative, these "routines" work. Encourage with sincerity and believe that feelings will have a good start.
First, deliberately make him jealous
People who are emotional are like soaking in a vinegar jar, and they eat vinegar pantothenic acid at every turn. Even if the other party is not his lover, seeing the other party with others, the taste in his heart is not good.
In the face of people who do not take the initiative, you have to deliberately make him jealous and feel some torment. Under the torment of suffering, he will no longer sit still.
Like you but do not take the initiative, mainly because he is not impulsive enough, you only let the vinegar stimulate him, he will be impulsive for love, desperate for love.
This is a heart-attacking routine, similar to the radical method, many people just can't stand the stimulation, and they have the courage to take the initiative under the impulse.
Give him more confidence
Most people who are emotional but do not take the initiative lack confidence and feel that they are not good enough, and even if they take the initiative, there will be no good results. It's a very negative state to back off before it starts.
In the face of such a person, all you have to do is give him more confidence and let him know that he is not bad. This confidence comes from your appreciation of him, you praise him from the bottom of your heart, and hint to him that you are interested in him, and he will become brave.
People without confidence, can't do anything well, want to withdraw from everything, even if they have loved deeply, he is still unwilling to take the initiative. Only if you encourage him and give him confidence will he let go of himself and open his heart.
Third, create opportunities to be alone
The feelings of two people are slowly heating up in getting along, and the more they get along, the inner concerns will be slowly put down, and the behavior will be active and bold.
In the face of people who do not take the initiative, you should create more opportunities to be alone with him, so that his feelings continue to ferment and expand in the atmosphere of solitude. When the feelings are swelled to the point of being irrepressible, he can't help but take the initiative.
Solitude is the best way to cultivate feelings, you create opportunities to be alone with him, let him feel your mind, but also invisibly increase his confidence, let him dare to take the first step.
If you don't do anything, two people may just miss it. More opportunities to get along, let the two hearts communicate more, it is not difficult to take the initiative.
Xiaojing's message:
People who do not take the initiative in the face of feelings are usually people who lack self-confidence, are not bold enough, and have many concerns. In the face of this kind of inactive person, all you have to do is to dispel his concerns, give him confidence, and give him courage.
Gender psychology proposes that if you want people who do not take the initiative to contact you, these "routines" will work.
Don't suffer alone anymore, use the best routine, will make you more effective with half the effort. Don't twist and squeeze anymore, if you like it, chase it, don't look ahead and look back.
Love is in front of you, as long as you reach out your hand, you can touch it, why should you back down? Be bold, don't be timid in the face of love, give yourself a little confidence, you can really get happiness.