"They have all become empresses, and they are still so aggrieved, why is this bitter?"
Empress Shen in "Knowing or Not" sat on the throne of the empress after sharing happiness and suffering with the emperor.
However, because of the incident of "the fire in my brother's backyard", it was very "seeking perfection and losing face".
In order to atone for the sins of her courtiers, she personally took off the phoenix beads on the crown of the phoenix and gave them to the British public.
In order to plead with the emperor, she stripped her bald head, dressed in plain clothes, and opened her mouth to be a sinner.
"The sinful woman sits in the Kunning Hall, but does not follow the rules of the Kunning Hall, and the concubines are ashamed of Their Majesty, ashamed of their ancestral inheritance, ashamed of the Empress Dowager's teachings, and ashamed of the British Gongyi veteran, Your Majesty, you punish the concubines, and the concubines are willing to be punished."
At that time, when I watched it, I was very distressed about this dignified and elegant Empress Shen, and now, I want to marvel at her cleverness.
Because being in a high position does not mean that you can do whatever you want, whether it is a small family or everyone, there are always some things that need to be dealt with. Not to mention that she was in the position of the queen who was raised high!
The husband needs to divide the love a lot, she can't be jealous, and the harem has a strong mother-in-law, she needs to appease. The courtiers at the bottom are all kinds of tit-for-tat confrontations, which need to be balanced by her.
I have to say that sitting well in this position is really tiring.
The most troublesome thing is that they, as airborne outsiders, have not yet taken this position.
Proper internal and external troubles!
Combing your hair in the middle of the night can comb a large handful of black hair.
Therefore, Empress Shen has always been careful, trying to balance the complicated relationship around her, but even if she is careful, she can't stop her brother from dragging her feet!
No, there was a fire in the backyard of the brother's house, and this fire was directly burned above the court. Make his own emperor husbands have a head two big, the emperor asked the courtiers to recruit high, the courtiers are difficult at both ends.
This time there was a fire in the backyard, and it was simply a matter of spoiling the concubine and destroying the wife.
This wife is the pearl in the palm of the British public, and it is a political marriage of powerful alliances.
But this concubine, too, has a lot of potential, she is the sister of the queen's savior. At that time, her brother's wife died in order to save the queen, and in order to repay the favor, the queen gave the sister of the savior to the uncle as a concubine, and also gave a commandment.
In other words, is it a very honorable thing to be a concubine? Why is Xiao Zou still so happy? She is not only happy to be a concubine of her brother-in-law, but also persecutes the main mother vigorously, is this not an IQ that is not enough?
No, it should be said that it is not.
In fact, speaking of this little Zou clan is still good, the most inappropriate, should be a strong pull of the brother Shen Guo's uncle. If he hadn't supported him behind his back and given Xiao Zou the illusion, his sister empress would not have lost all her dignity, and her sister, who cherished her wife the most, would not have ended up desolate.
Of course, the most innocent should be the only daughter of the British Gong Zhang.
No, Xiao Zou's guts were fattened, causing Zhang's difficulty in childbirth, and when he was about to give birth, he almost cried out for his life, but he almost lost a corpse and two lives. How can the British gong endure this? Desperately can't stand it! It must be to get justice for the daughter (the plot of the British public holding the daughter out of the house is really tearful to see, sighing world-class good father).
What the British gong represented, of course, was the old courtiers of the Manchu Dynasty.
On the surface, this is just a family dispute, but in fact, it can also be seen that it is the royal family's contempt for the old courtiers and the disrespect for the meritorious family. What's more, spoiling concubines and killing relatives is not tolerated in legal theory, which is the most easily despised behavior by the family, but the uncle of the partial country still did it, and the more he did it, the more outrageous it became.
Isn't this a deliberate attempt to find a draw?
National conditions VS private feelings, when two or two PK, as an empress, can you have great privileges? No, you can't.
Besides, is there really nothing wrong with the queen? No, she was really wrong, this thing was really confused.
Fortunately, even if the empress is in a high position, she is not the kind of person who can't see Tarzan with a blind eye, nor is she the kind of person who can't be confused.
The queen belongs to the growth type, even if she is already in a high position and encounters difficulties, she can still humbly ask for advice, and never die alone in a small corner, and die to face the guilt.
No, but the empress took the initiative and asked Minglan for advice.
Minglan was a wise man, and she did not say it explicitly, but told two stories, one was Cao Cao cutting his hair, and the other was Emperor Tang's anger at the princess. The solution is all in the story, to understand and experience it yourself, which is far more practical than telling the queen what you should do.
The truth of these two stories is also easy to understand, that is, the high-ranking people need to take the initiative to put down their faces in exchange for the death of the courtiers.
Maybe at this point, everyone thinks that this is not an apology? Is it necessary to be so hard?
Did the queen have to sit all night before she chose to really bow her head and admit her mistake?
If you can't feel this feeling, can you imagine your boss, or your boss, who bowed to you and confessed? Did they easily tell employees that I was wrong?
The answer is that basically this is not the case, even if he is wrong, he will not admit that he is wrong, only that the employee is wrong.
So, by contrast, you can see how rare this operation of the queen is for the person on the top.
Fortunately, she made the right decision, and really did what a queen should do.
Of course, this matter is certainly not all a benefit, after all, she really lost her majesty as an empress, and truly became a joke in the harem. In the future, managing the harem will inevitably be difficult, and it will be ridiculed openly and secretly.
However, in contrast, she exchanged the emperor's love and affection for her, paved the way for her own son, and won the respect of the old courtiers.
In the long run, this apology is not worth it.
This kind of thing itself is the two ends of the scale, and it depends on which end is overpowered by which end, and the end that maximizes the benefit is the great good.
Is it "affection" or the "authority" of the corresponding position?
In the face of this problem, I inadvertently remembered that we used to like romanticism.
When reading novels, I always hope that someone can tolerate us everywhere, do everything for us, block all the wind and rain for us, and be a happy silly white sweet, when a lazy rice worm.
However, looking back as an adult, this kind of thing is "difficult" in one word, and another word is "difficult, difficult"!
Difficult! Simply not realistic!
Maybe, two people who love each other for a moment can still be regarded as fun, but who can do this all the time?
One day, we will still have to face the wind and rain alone.
Two people who love each other ultimately need to work together and rely on each other.
And this great wisdom exists not only between husband and wife, but also between friends.
The relationship between the empress and the emperor is actually similar to the relationship between husband and wife and friends.
They are a community of interests in their own right and need to fight side by side.
At the same time, they are husband and wife, close people, and they need to communicate.
Which one is dragging its feet, the other side is difficult to be alone, and win-win is the last word.
Therefore, in this matter, the queen can only choose "love" in order to become an opportunity to turn the crisis into an opportunity.
Of course, in the same situation, if you are not facing a husband, or a friend with a more iron relationship, it is recommended that this "love" is not worth it, and you must think twice.