Speaking of bride price, we are not strangers, although in today's society, the bride price is not a necessity for marriage, but it has become an accessory to marriage, in the words of modern people, if you want to get married smoothly, the bride price is indispensable.
In the face of a bride price of tens of thousands and hundreds of thousands, how many couples have to be separated because of the bride price, a good marriage, scattered, the bride price, has also become a stumbling block on the road of marriage for many people.
Some people may ask whether they should ask for a bride price when they get married, but the views of men and women are very different.
The man feels that there is no need to give a bride price when getting married, after all, he has to live together for a lifetime, and if he really needs money, he can take it out at any time. When getting married, the bride price means that the woman values money, not herself, even if she is married smoothly, her life after marriage will not be happy, and she will argue endlessly about money every day.
And the woman feels that the bride price given when getting married represents the importance that the man attaches to himself, and the more he gives, the more he loves this woman, as the saying goes, love is really not true, a diamond shows sincerity. After all, it is the woman who marries the daughter, and she hopes that the daughter can live happily, if the man does not even give the bride price, how can he ensure that his wife is happy after marriage.
Is it really fair to say that the mother is reasonable, and the mother is reasonable, so is it really related to the bride price whether the married life is happy or not? Let's look at two true stories, and after reading them, we may understand.
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When the friend Xiao Zhou got married, the mother's family did not ask the man for a bride price, because before marriage, the man had just bought a house, and his savings for several years were basically taken out, and there was really no money to give the bride price. And the mother's family will also understand the difficulties of the man, and the banquet and wedding at the time of marriage are all the money from the mother's family.
Xiao Zhou's parents are a hundred willing to the man, although not a rich and noble family, but it is really good for Xiao Zhou, and the parents are in the eyes and remembered. Before getting married, the parents said to the man: "I don't want a bride price when you get married, as long as you are good to Xiao Zhou, I will be satisfied." ”
It is precisely because of the mother's family's understanding that the in-laws survived the most difficult time, and the life after marriage is also very happy, and the mother-in-law is like her own daughter to Xiao Zhou, and the family is harmonious.
Every parent wants his children to live happily, and the mother-in-law is good to Xiao Zhou, not because the mother-in-law does not want a bride price, but the mother-in-law knows that only if the daughter-in-law is happy, her son can be happy, and only if she is good to her daughter-in-law, her daughter-in-law can be better for her son.
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Compared with Xiao Zhou, Honghong's married life is simply a mess, when Honghong got married, she asked for a dowry of 150,000 from her in-laws, and said in her mouth, If it were not for your son's good to me, the bride price I would want more.
Because the conditions of the man's family are not good, 150,000 is simply astronomical for them, and the parents have no choice but to borrow 150,000 from relatives and friends. Although the marriage is married, but the man owes a lot of foreign debt, the original man did not earn much every month, and now he has to pay off the foreign debt, and the life is very hard.
But Honghong didn't care about all this, and was not even willing to take out the 150,000 dowry to pay off the foreign debt, and Honghong also said that since the money was given to me, it belonged to me, and the foreign debt owed by the man had nothing to do with me. For this reason, the man's view of Honghong is also changing, thinking that she is too selfish and does not have this home in her heart.
Life after marriage is also miserable for Honghong, her husband is not good for her, her mother-in-law often says bad things about her, as long as there is a quarrel, Honghong will run back to her mother's house to cry, but no matter what, the road under her feet is her own.
The bride price is much, the life after marriage is not necessarily happy, the bride price is less or even no bride price, and the life after marriage is not necessarily bad.
Sometimes, we blame the unhappiness of marriage on not giving a bride price, and if you think about it, the bride price is secondary, and marrying a good family is the most important.
When marrying someone, you can't just look at each other's conditions and character, but also look at each other's family.
Whether you are happy after marriage really has little to do with the bride price, the key lies in the man's attitude towards you. Sometimes, instead of dwelling on the issue of the bride price, we should look at the man's attitude toward you. Only when a woman marries the right person will she enjoy happiness in her future life.