The source of this article is the public number: brain hole history
In 1906, a famous lady in Hefei, Anhui Province, got married, the scene was very spectacular, just the dowry was paved with ten streets, such a scene made people who witnessed it envious and jealous, that is, in such a situation, a strange old lady on the side of the road said a sad word, who thought that this sentence was actually fulfilled many years later.
At that time, the famous woman who was married was Lu Ying, who had been married for 16 years, gave birth to a total of 14 children, and managed the affairs for her husband's family for many years, everything was taken care of by her in an orderly manner, and she was deeply loved by the elders and servants in the family, but unfortunately, it was such a person, but at the age of 36, Xiang Yu died, leaving endless emotions for posterity.
In 1885, the Lu family in Yangzhou, Jiangsu Province, welcomed a baby girl. Although the Qing Dynasty had not yet perished at this time, feudal ideas still spread in the land of China, but this baby girl was lucky, because her parents never preferred sons to daughters.
Looking at the baby in the swaddling powder, the parents were full of joy and named their daughter Lu Ying.
Her father, Lu Jingxi, was not only rich and invincible, but also had a literary style; her mother was the daughter of Li Hongzhang's fourth brother, Li Yunzhang, and she was also a well-read poet.
Born in such a family, Lu Ying is undoubtedly happy. She was taught by her parents from an early age, not only to learn poetry books, but also to learn female reds and musical instruments.
In a good family atmosphere, Lu Ying quickly came out into a pavilion and a generous lady, not only proficient in piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, poetry and song endowments; also gentle and virtuous, knowledgeable and knowledgeable.
When Lu Ying came to talk about marriage and marriage, there was an endless stream of people who came to propose relatives and media, and the Lu family was in a market every day.
However, Lu Father and Mother Lu did not answer.
They cherished this daughter very much and wanted to choose a good husband for her. He was also afraid that she would marry out early and suffer, so he was reluctant to marry his daughter.
In this way, Lu Ying had reached the age of twenty-one, but he was still in the middle of the word.
In the end, among the many intercessors, Lu Ying's father set up a marriage for her, and her husband's family was the famous Zhang family at that time. Zhang Wuling of the Zhang family in Hefei, also known as Zhang Jimu [yǒu], was an official for generations, and Zhang Wuling's grandfather was a heavy vassal under Li Hongzhang, which made his family very prestigious in the local area.
Zhang Wuling's biological father was the fifth son of the Zhang family, and since the eldest son of the Zhang family had only one daughter, Zhang Wuling passed on to the great uncle and became the eldest grandson of the Zhang family. In the future, it is necessary to inherit all the honors and family property of the Zhang family. The marriage between the eunuch family and the rich merchants became a good local story. The most valuable thing is that Zhang Wuling does not smoke, drink or play cards, and has been addicted to books since he was a child, and is erudite and talented.
In 1906, when Lu Ying got married, in order to let his daughter go to the Zhang family not to be bullied, and in order to show the honor of marrying his daughter, Lu Jingxi made a good big pomp. It is said that her dowry, the Lu family's parents began to prepare a year in advance.
The items that can be used in daily life in the dowry, gold, silver and jade, and silk satin are all in the thousands, meticulous, sensational throughout Hefei at that time, and even became the memory of many older generations.
When Lu Ying got married, the dowry line stretched for several miles, from the fourth archway to Longmen Lane, a whole ten streets, the crowd followed in a mighty way, all lamenting the great joy of landing on the family to marry her daughter, very pompous, and Lu Ying was also very much looking forward to her new life.
Lu Ying, 21, and Zhang Wuling, 17, were married under the grand scene of the jade pot light turning and the phoenix vibrating, and a couple entered the cave room hand in hand with the blessings of everyone.
They were typical parental arranged marriages and had not met before marriage.
In the dead of night, Zhang Wuling nervously picked up the hijab on Lu Ying's head. Under the flickering lights, I saw Lu Ying's face that was glowing red, but slightly shy. At this moment, Zhang Wuling was immediately moved.
He had long heard that Lu Ying was handsome and beautiful. However, at the moment of seeing Lu Ying, he was still attracted by Lu Ying's charm. Ask what man in the world does not want to be able to marry a beautiful wife.
Two young people who have never met, sleep in the most romantic moment of their lives, and experience the greatest joy in life. The life of love between Qinse and Naru and the hand of the son began.
Unfortunately, the old man of the Zhang family did not like such a beautiful Lu Ying, and said: "Beautiful women, they can't live long." ”
Unexpectedly, such a sentence was actually a slur [chèn].
After marrying into the Zhang family, Lu Ying single-handedly took over the entire Zhang family.
The Zhang family is a big family, there are more than a hundred servants alone, and the amount of accounts that come and go every day is staggering, and Lu Ying needs to learn to check the expenses and income of the family.
Lu Ying is rigorous and meticulous in his work, treats people kindly and courteously, and has won praise from all over the Zhang family.
From the taboo of taste and external procurement, to the interpersonal communication and the etiquette of the big and small, Lu Ying handled it with ease and etiquette.
The elders in the family are generally difficult to serve, and they all say that it is difficult for the daughter-in-law to become a wife. Having become an elder, he is usually more critical of his new daughter-in-law, but the elders of the Lu family recognize Lu Ying's ability to run the family.
She is never rude to the elders, among the loved ones and friends, there are elderly birthday gifts, Lu Ying will prepare "peach" (Shou Peach a high plate), "noodles" (Shou Noodles a high plate), "smoke" (a pack of pisi cigarettes), "wine" (a large altar of wine), "tea" (a double can of fine tea leaves), "legs" (a ham), another two-colored objects, a total of ten gifts, sent people to carry them with a carrying box.
The division of the Zhang family's family property is also divided by Lu Ying, the division of family property is like a hot potato, but also the most likely to lead to brothers turning against each other, family breakdown, not to mention the family like the Zhang family has complex family relations, family property is also quite a lot of family, a little unsatisfactory place will lead to disputes.
However, Lu Ying also relied on his own wisdom to make a reasonable division, which could make everyone satisfied. Disobedient slaves, she can also clean up.
Of course, Lu Ying also has his own task, that is, to have children for the Zhang family.
The Zhang family was already sparsely populated, and the heavy responsibility of passing on the lineage was pressed on Lu Ying's shoulders. Lu Ying was already a virtuous wife, and under such pressure, she only wanted to give birth to a son for the Zhang family quickly, so as to continue the incense of the Zhang family.
Soon after, Lu Ying became pregnant with her first child, and the whole family was looking forward to being a boy. Lu Ying and her husband are also very much looking forward to the birth of this child.
Under everyone's daily expectations, the eldest daughter Zhang Yuanhe was born, although she was a baby girl, Lu Ying and her husband were full of joy.
But then Lu Ying gave birth to three daughters in a row, which made her feel pressured, and even thought that she was not a qualified wife.
After the birth of her third daughter, Lu Ying was also pregnant with a baby boy. Unfortunately, it didn't take long for the child to die. For Zhang Wuling, it may not be so sad, after all, there is a daughter-in-law, and it is enough to continue to give birth. But Lu Ying was particularly devastated, as a new daughter-in-law, she had only given birth to a child for several years in a row, but she had never given birth to a son, and she really let her mother-in-law not look at it.
Lu Ying and her husband felt the invisible pressure again, and the affectionate couple decided to leave Hefei with their children and go to Suzhou to find a quieter living environment.
When they arrived in Suzhou, they chose a quiet mansion and arranged the courtyard full of books and ink. Zhang Wuling also consulted his wife and decided to set up a new-style girls' school in Suzhou, where all children from poor families came to school at no cost. The couple takes turns teaching, just so that those children from poor families can also learn the new and advanced Western culture, teaching but no class.
This has made outstanding contributions to the education of chinese women throughout China, and Lu Ying has made.
The bigger the child, the more troublesome things, not to mention there are so many children, the daughters are less than 5 years old, Lu Ying teaches them to read, naughty children how not to learn, always want to sneak out in class, Lu Ying spanking, but afterwards feel that it should not be, and then make mistakes later, punished in the small room to think, until the recognition of the mistake is willing to apologize, but this method is useless, the eldest daughter has a mother-in-law to protect and can not be punished, the second daughter is too weak and disobedient, the third daughter is young and afraid of black.
Daughter is not easy to manage, Lu Ying tried to start with the nanny, she let her daughter teach the nanny to read, not only can the children read more, but also improve the cultural quality of the nanny, but the results can be imagined, family literacy began vigorously, quietly ended.
Sometimes, if Lu Ying didn't have much at hand, he would let the nannies pick up their children, and the young masters and young ladies would play with the nanny's children, eat together, sleep together, and there was no shelf at all.
Every time there was an accident at the nanny's home, Lu Ying would help as much as possible. Lu Ying's nannies are never treated as servants by the children, they are good playmates for the children.
She used her words and deeds to influence her children, and in Lu Ying's view, "a mother who will only enjoy the style of a young grandmother cannot teach children who have achievements." ”
The four sisters of the Zhang family have all become talents when they grow up, and Lu Ying's contribution is indispensable.
The eldest sister, Zhang Yuanhe, worked at the Institute of Botany, Academia Sinica, Taipei, and later moved to the United States;
The second sister, Zhang Yunhe, works at the People's Education Publishing House and is also the chairman of the Beijing Kunqu Study Society;
The third sister, Zhang Zhaohe, became a novelist while serving as the editor of the people's literature magazine, and published the short story collection "Lakeside";
The fourth sister, Zhang Chonghe, taught calligraphy and Kunqu at more than 20 universities such as Harvard and Yale.
Lu Ying is a reincarnated little expert, who won at the starting line as soon as she was born, but her happiness was short-lived.
When she gave birth to her first son, Zhang Zonghe, it was already her sixth child.
In the following years, Lu Ying gave birth to five boys in succession to the Zhang family. Coupled with the four daughters born earlier, Lu Ying married to the Zhang family in less than 16 years and gave birth to 14 children, and some of the many children in the back unfortunately died prematurely, so only nine of the 14 children survived in the end. Rao is so, Zhang Wuling has also successfully made the family prosperous, and the outstanding performance of the children has added countless glory.
In fact, the age of pregnancy for ordinary women is twenty-three to thirty years old, and Lu Ying has been giving birth from twenty to thirty-six years old, almost giving birth to a child in more than a year, which is simply challenging the limits of the human body.
And the child itself on the female body and psychological consumption is very large, children's upbringing, housework, everyone is many, the work of which can be imagined.
In a fortuitous situation, Lu Ying unfortunately suffered from sepsis because of tooth extraction. This illness hastened the decay of her body, and it is even more unfortunate that she was pregnant again at such a critical moment. The weak body was finally unable to bear the burden in the process of conceiving life this time, and in the end, Lu Ying died at the age of 36 due to difficult childbirth.
Lu Ying saw through her husband Zhang Wuling and left a prophecy, saying to the children: "Although your father has been in harmony with me over the years, he is always a scholar who does not understand the world, and he will marry a new wife shortly after my death." I am most worried that the new lady is marrying into the Zhang family by coveting the wealth of the Zhang family, what if she is not good to you..."
So she made proper arrangements for her 9 children:
She called the nurse and nanny of the nine children to her side, each of them two hundred oceans, and she instructed them to take the children to the age of 18 no matter what happened.
Such a request may have been feasible at the time, but later, two years after Lu Ying's death, Zhang Wuling married Wei Junyi, a female teacher of the Leyi girls he founded, into the family. Wei Junyi's conflict with the children inevitably broke out.
Later, the Zhang family also slowly declined and the political situation was turbulent, and it was difficult for these nurses and nannies to keep their promises. However, what amazed everyone was that these nurses and nannies would rather suffer their children than treat Lu Ying's children badly.
It is worth mentioning that just a month before Lu Ying's death, her husband Zhang Wuling founded the earliest girls' middle school in the early years of the Republic of China. A man who values the old ideas of succession, but who has started a girls' school, does not know whether this is redeeming his wife's premature death. However, from the perspective of cultivating the next generation, this also lays a good foundation for the cultivation of his children in the future.
Lu Ying had 5 sons in his lifetime, probably because the Zhang family was too doting, resulting in none of these 5 sons. Looking at her 4 daughters, they are not only cute-looking, but also generally very cultivated. The four daughters eventually married into a large and prestigious family, and everyone called them the "Four Sisters of Hefei".