The two slaps were exchanged for 20 years of the Cold War, goodbye to his father has been demented, Gao Xiaosong flew back from the United States for him overnight
When I was a child, I was often beaten
In my memory, Grandpa preferred sons to daughters and always hit me with crutches. If I cried, my father would not only not coax me, but would also beat me. I was kicked by him and put in a cowshed by him. I was also beaten by my brother, who kicked off one of my teeth and hit me with a wooden stick to my bone, which hurt my heart. I was stubborn, and no matter how hard I was beaten, I never said soft words. The elders were even angrier, and only Grandma would protect me.
The two slaps were exchanged for 20 years of the Cold War, goodbye to his father has been demented, Gao Xiaosong flew back from the United States for him overnight
One day in 1976, in Fuyang, Zhejiang Province, a rural teenager was beaten up by three senior students, and even the teacher was pulling a fight!
Why? Because the teenager's grandfather was a Christian, his grandfather was a landlord, and his father was a notorious rebel.
Because the "ingredients" are not good, he is often bullied by a group of people, and he has told his father, but his father has advised him to be patient every time, and he can only hide in the corner and cry alone...
And this time he was beaten by three senior students, and the three children scolded his father while beating him, and he was angry but went straight up to fight back, but because he was outnumbered, he was beaten by others and his nose was blue and his face was swollen!
Unexpectedly, after his father found him, he indiscriminately came up and gave him two slaps.
His father's reckless behavior completely broke through his sensitive and fragile heart. Since then, he has never called out to his father again.
Later, the Mai family described the scene at that time in the article "To the Father":
"I twisted the bridge of my already injured nose, and the nosebleed suddenly spewed out like chicken blood that had cut my throat and flowed into my mouth, and I drank it like water, and I couldn't take a sip of it, and it flowed up to my chest and all the way to my crotch."
The pain of the homeland must be healed for many years
After being admitted to the military school, the Mai family resolutely fled their hometown and bid farewell to the hometown that had hurt them. For twenty long years, family letters were always written to his mother, and he completely closed the door to his father in his heart.
Because of his hatred for his hometown, he traveled to more than a dozen cities after graduation and did not want to return home.
After graduation, the teenager spent 11 years writing "Decryption" and became famous in the first world war, and since then, China has had a new writer named Mai Jia.
After that, his writing path was like hanging:
"Dark Calculation" won the 7th Mao Dun Literature Award.
"The Sound of the Wind", which won the 12th Barkin Literature Award, set a myth for the commercial box office in 2009.
"Wind Whisper" won the 2010 China Book Industry Annual Book Award.
The Mai family has since become the "father of espionage"!
The turning point with his father came in 2008, when he saw the ruins of the Wenchuan earthquake, devastated, broken families, and people holding their loved ones and crying, the Mai family decided that he was going to go home and go back to see his father.
The tree wants to be quiet and the wind is not stopping, and the son wants to raise and not to be kissed
As the distance narrowed step by step, the homesickness of the Mai family began to become hesitant, he did not know what his father would do to himself, and he was not sure what he should do to be better...
Mai's family with parents
When he got home, my father was sitting under the eaves smoking a cigarette, silent and old. When he bent down and said in a trembling voice, "Daddy, I'm back," my father looked up, lay back again, and asked, "Who are you looking for?" ”
Father didn't recognize him anymore, he had Alzheimer's disease.
The Mai family had thought about his reunion with his father countless times in his mind, but in any case he could not predict that he would be greeted by his sick father, and he no longer remembered anyone.
In the old house in Zhejiang, my father took his hand and said to him, "Can you let my second eldest come back to see me?" ”
He squatted on the ground and repeated to his father, "Dad, I am the second oldest." And no matter how patiently he explained, his father was indifferent and could no longer recognize him.
Three years later, the Mai family's father died, and in the next three years, the Mai family was almost in a state of "aphasia".
Finally, 8 years after his father's death, the Mai family wrote about his complex and subtle feelings for his father in the novel "Life Sea Sea".
He did not seek utilitarianism, slowed down, and with the perseverance and piety of ten years of grinding a sword, like striking iron, forged a successful transformation work - "Life Sea".
This time, the new code carefully interpreted by the "father of espionage" is no longer a heroic achievement, nor is it a storm, but life itself.
As a reconciliation with his father, the Mai family said this:
"I want to write about the luck that is born in despair, the morality that stands out in hardship.
I want to set up another mountain, go back to my childhood, go back to my hometown, to decipher the code of the human heart and human nature. ”
In the book, he portrays two fathers, one in his reality and the other as the Colonel,an ideal father.
The father in the book can break through the bottom line for the sake of his son, willing to be a whistleblower who violates the principle, and make people spurn. You can also hang a sign and kneel in front of the ancestral hall for three days and three nights.
Among them, the deep fatherly love that penetrated the back of the paper made Dong Qing and Gao Xiaosong burst into tears when they read it.
The boy has tears, not softly, but not to the sad place
At the new book event meeting of "Life Sea Sea", Dong Qing, who had just returned from a business trip, pushed off all activities, just to recommend to the Mai family, she said emotionally:
"If I were to use a poem to describe how I felt after reading "The Sea of Life", it would be to look back at the place where it has always been, and there is no wind or rain or sunshine."
The book poked at the softest and most fragile place in Dong Qing's heart, and the resonance in the book made her cry.
Everyone has their own corner in their heart, and no matter how strong and superficial people are, there will always be times when they are vulnerable. Some people say that two slaps break the family relationship, and we were often beaten when we were young!
But children are fragile, they are still young, when they are hurt, parents are their heaven and earth, the two slaps at this time, that is, hit the child's heart!
The pain of childhood must be healed with a lifetime. How many people remember being beaten often when they were young, and although we don't blame our parents, this is our injury, and it is also a wound that I can't forget.
This is a book of reconciliation with the father, full of solemn fatherly love! At the same time, this is also an exciting book, Mo Yan also praised it after reading it, he said: Reading "Life Sea", it will make people "fascinated"!
The Mai family just made a phone call to Gao Xiaosong, and Gao Xiaosong rushed back from the United States overnight to attend the press conference. Gao Xiaosong read the book 2 times and wrote a comment:
"This book is a masterpiece that climbs to the next peak of literature in the depths of the heart, and I really can't help but cry after reading it."
Such a book, when I first read it, I feel legendary, and when I read it again, I feel bitter, like a pot of spirits, the more I taste it, the more mellow it is, as if the life written in the book is myself.
The Mai family once said: "Life is not the way you lived, but the way you remember it." ”
Chinese family-style education exists in each of our families, and if you are also deeply involved in the relationship between your original family and can't figure it out, then it is recommended that you also read it.
This book is less than 40 yuan, but it makes countless people seem to see themselves in this book, and the reconciliation with the original family may only be this step!
Life sea sea is a southern Fujian dialect, meaning that life is vast, the sea is as complex and changeable, and everyone will experience suffering.
There is a sentence on the waist cover of the book: "Life is the sea and the sea, daring to die is not courage, it takes courage to live", to you who were injured in childhood, and to you who are struggling alone.
Life sea sea, why care about a moment of floating and sinking!
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