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Children's Day probably did not expect that they could one day become a national holiday, adults have a good reason to celebrate Children's Day, who is not yet a baby.
But in fact, adults often just want to enjoy the preferential treatment as children, and do not stand in the perspective of children to understand children and empathize with children. As my daughter said, the behavior of adults is that only the governor fires are needed, and the people are not allowed to light the lamps.
Every adult comes from a child, but when they become adults, they often only remember their own willfulness at that time, and they will not remember how they want their parents to treat themselves. As a result, when children are naughty, they tend to treat their children directly the way their parents treated them.
If adults could treat their children the way they wanted to be treated as children, I think the world would be much more peaceful.
If adults and children swap positions, can they understand each other better? In this set of "Children In Charge", adults become children, and they can make trouble as much as they want. The child becomes an adult, and he takes the orders himself.
Adults who become children are as naughty as ever, but children who become adults do not use the attitude of adults to deal with "adult children" who want to make trouble. They are not small adults, but they can not only take on the responsibility of the family, but also watch the noisy parents still optimistic, and treat them calmly.
Today we will talk about this set of books "Children Are Home", this book has two authors, both Swedish, of which Martin Widmark has created nearly 100 works of children's literature, in 2005, 2008 twice won the Swedish Children's Detective Novel Hound Award, his works have been translated into more than 30 languages and published around the world. Another author, Pete Lidbeck, won the Nils Hogson Prize in Sweden in 2005. The author of the book is Pelfashhed, a Swedish cartoonist and illustrator of children's books.
The language of the book is funny and humorous, the illustrations are exquisite and full of childlike fun, the story is very daily but the coping method is beyond the norm, not only parent-child communication, but also the true meaning of marriage and love. Once published, it has been well received and is very popular with readers.
1. A family of 5 in "Kids In Charge"
The family of five has a father, a mom, a son Alvin, a daughter, Anda, and a dad's grandfather, general.
Jason's dad was a bank clerk who loved lawn mowers and didn't like ties, thinking that ties would make his neck itch. Like your boy who likes Ultraman and likes excavators.
Jensen's mother is a real estate agent who likes to watch TV and urinates as soon as she takes the bus. Like your child who loves to play with mobile phones and wants to pee as soon as he goes out.
Son Alvin, 9, is in the third grade and takes math tests every week. Age aside, it's like you and me who have to go to work every day.
Daughter Kaissa, 6 years old, preschool, is practicing writing letters. It's like you and me who are trying to be self-motivated.
The general, Jensen's father's grandfather, a very principled veteran, felt that there were enemies everywhere. Loved the sausage and shrimp salad. Like a child with insufficient sense of security.
What kind of spark will collide with this family changing identities? Let's move on.
2. Jason's dad who loves lawn mowers
Jason's dad's biggest hobby was lawn mowers, and as long as he let him play with lawn mowers, everything was easy to say. For example, the Jensen family went camping and ended up in a place full of weeds. Jason's dad was very happy to go to the front desk of the resort to borrow a lawn mower, something he had been hungry from the moment he entered the door. It's like where you go, you see a boy who can't move his legs.
But for Dad's treatment of the lawn mower as his destiny, Alvin took that very well. After Dad bit a colleague, Alvin criticized Dad for not biting him and punished him for not oiling the lawn mower. Dad complained and complained, but he did it.
When Dad finished his job or behaved better, he was often allowed to fix his lawn mower. Sometimes Alvin would help Dad fix the lawn mower. Even when Jason's dad was racing against a neighbor's dad on a lawn mower, the kids were, well, it was time for a lawn mower duel. After the two dads game was done, the kids reacted with, hey, this is the adults. Children have helpless behavior towards adults, but there are also spoiled.
It can be seen from the story that adults are bear children, but the way children treat adults is not to stop accusations, but to understand dad's hobbies and use dad's hobbies as a grasp to regulate dad's behavior. The management of Dad's hobbies will also be relaxed, constrained, and supportive.
3. Love to watch TV, timid, take the bus on the urinary urgency of the mother
Jensen's mother's biggest hobby is watching TV. She had bought the biggest TV she could find immediately after being paid. As a result, Dad paid his most beloved lawn mower, leaving the family to rely on cereal to fill their stomachs that month. This is also the reason why the Alvin brothers and sisters later had to get their salaries before their parents.
Although the Alvin brothers and sisters took back their parents' financial rights, they still left them some pocket money. Mom and Dad reluctantly accepted and bought what they wanted with pocket money.
At the same time, her mother was still timid, when she wanted to dance in the unit, he was afraid that he could not dance well, And Caiza was not angry, but consulted with her mother's boss, turned off the lights, and used the way of finding a dance partner in the dark to help her mother overcome her fear of dancing. What about you, when faced with a child who is timid and afraid to do something, how do you do it? Next time, you can be like Kaiza, accept your mother's timidity and accompany her to overcome it.
For my mother to take the bus on the urinary urgency, reminds me of my child, often before going out, you let her go to the bathroom, she said she did not want to go. But as soon as she went out, she wanted to go to the toilet, and every time it made me very angry. Although I also took her to the bathroom in the end, I would often take her to find it while complaining, and now that I think about it, I have done something that belongs to her, and it has not yet settled well. It seems that we will learn to shut up in the future.
Faced with the urgency of his mother's urination on the bus, the Alvin brothers and sisters quickly stopped the bus and asked their mother to find the bathroom as quickly as possible.
In fact, for these things that cannot be changed no matter how you say it, there is probably no other way but to accept. Then don't complain, just think about how to solve it.
4. A good parent-child relationship is that you are making trouble and I am laughing
Although Jensen's father and Jensen's mother are like two bear children and often make some accidents, the Alvin brothers and sisters are quite tolerant.
At the campground, for example, moms and dads are playing insect games, letting ants and spiders kick the ball and making a big fuss over each other's mistakes. It's like a child.
For the quarrel between parents and mothers, the Alvin brothers and sisters and the neighbors' two children are quite helpless. They had to use another game to divert their attention.
In order to cultivate the sense of responsibility of their parents, the Alvin brothers and sisters bought them a dog, for the father does not like the tie, the mother does not want to go to work, the father bites the colleague, although they are also helpless, but they are actively coping, will criticize, but will also encourage. And read furniture manuals to mom and dad before going to bed and coax them to sleep.
And mom and dad, although they are as noisy as bear children, but they are also very understanding of the children who have worked hard to transport them to and from work and take care of their lives, and when the two children are tired of watching TV and watching, they are also quiet and let the children have a good rest.
Read through this book and you will find that children are patient, able to see what their parents think, and are largely willing to respect them and release their nature.
Although adults are bears, they are also measured, and although they are unhappy in the face of reasonable discipline of children, they will also do the same.
The next time you encounter a bear child, I hope you can also think about your own willfulness when you were a child, and treat your child in the way you expected at that time. I believe that your mentality will be more peaceful, the parent-child relationship will be more harmonious, and give the child a childhood full of love, respect, acceptance, and freedom.
"Child In Charge" is a complete set of two books, the content is very daily, are our daily pictures in the life of fighting wits and courage with children, but the story in the book looks very warm, because they all stand in each other's position to understand each other, as the cover says, swap roles, understand each other.
The above is encouraged.
Author: Can't remember the normal distribution of roses, love to read and love to learn full-time mother, often Buddha and lost, occasionally active psychological counselor, the world and I love you. Some of the pictures come from the Internet, the copyright belongs to the original author, if there is a copyright problem, please contact me in time to deal with it. Original works, may not be reproduced without authorization.
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