There is a small treasure at home, whether there is often such a scene
"The child is crying again, husband, you come and coax ..."
"Oh, I'm busy!" No time, no, you just show the phone to him for a while..."
"Every day you are busy, you know how to play games, you know how to brush videos!"
"Oh, oh, come! Baby, let's see the phone."
At this time, the cries and quarrels returned to calm, and it seemed that the family of three was relieved!
The child cries and makes a fuss, and the first time he thinks of using a mobile phone to coax the child.
Whether it is brushing short videos, or toddler games, toddler cartoons,
It seems to have become the first choice for many parents.
I believe that this kind of scene will be staged every day in most families,
Some parents are indeed too many things every day and cannot be fully accompanied 24 hours a day.
So use a mobile phone instead.
Then there is a temptation for parents to be unable to leave their mobile phones every day,
Regardless of the child's emotions, it seems that the mobile phone has become a common "comfort pacifier" for two generations.
In the Internet era, mobile phones have brought countless conveniences to our lives.
But it also deprives it of the beauty that should have been there.
While narrowing the distance between people, it also makes people close to the end of the world.
The farthest distance in time is that you are in front of me, but you turn a blind eye to me!
When children have companionship needs and physiological needs for us,
We often feel that they are still young, and it seems that quietness is a reference indicator for raising children.
So at the same time, while we attach importance to the material satisfaction of children,
It is often neglected to cultivate children's living habits.
If the child is exposed to the phone too early,
The impact on children is very serious.
Hazard one: decreased vision
Young children should not be exposed to electronic products for more than twenty minutes at close range,
The child's vision is still in the onset stage, and the eye structure is relatively fragile.
Long-term radiation of electronic products can easily lead to a decrease in children's vision.
Prematurely wear myopic glasses that do not match the age,
It seems to have become a new type of social phenomenon.
Don't say that the child is "anti-blue light",
It's like knowing that this is a pesticide, and saying that this is a pesticide that has passed the test!
The emperor's new clothes, in the end, only himself was harmed!
Hazard two: lack of concentration
Short videos for adults, kawaii-looking, cute children's games,
There are also children's cartoons in "wolf skins",
No matter who it is, adults or young children.
The process of looking is the process of passively accepting information,
It will gradually lose our ability to think actively.
In the long run, children will not be able to focus on everything,
Why, can't settle down, because concentration requires active thinking,
But the ability to think proactively has been "swallowed up" by mobile phones.
Don't think that you are addicted to all kinds of frequency division gorgeous mobile phone pictures,
is to stimulate the child's mind or sensory development,
That's the wrong idea, guys.
A thousand worlds, so colorful,
We have to limit this stimulating process to mobile phones,
Don't you feel a little lost in one or the other?
Hazard three: poor self-control
From a young age, there is no constraint on the use of mobile phones,
Because as long as you cry and make trouble, you will get it.
The price may be just a few drops of "disguise",
In an unconstrained environment, indulging in something comes with loss of control.
Slowly grew up, began to rely on mobile phones,
Without a mobile phone, you are not steadfast in your heart, and you have no intention of learning or even tired of learning.
Xiao Song has seen children whose mobile phones are not on the table and cannot start writing homework.
Even if he doesn't touch the phone, he can feel at ease when he puts it there.
The essence of self-control is self-discipline,
Self-discipline needs the nourishment of the environment, in which to shape a strong self,
Self-discipline that benefits a lifetime in this way.
But if the environment does not allow it, it will actually fail in the first link.
Children look up to their parents and see what they look like.
The emergence of any behavioral habit requires the nourishment of the environment.
So if you want to improve the dependence of mobile phones as a "comfort pacifier",
Parents may wish to try these methods.
In fact, it is really a cliché, seemingly simple, and a very difficult way to do it.
First, lead by example
It is important to be an exemplary role model.
You often watch, children will naturally have the opportunity to share,
Share you have to be happy, you have to screen, you have to react...
They know very little about the world.
Since mom and dad like it, it must be a very interesting thing for them.
At this time, you say that children can't watch,
And then the little ones start to feel unbalanced again, and you look at the phone so much,
Why, I can't do it?
Start to be curious: take advantage of the absence of your parents, secretly look;
Start to resist: all kinds of extreme behavior, temper tantrums, yelling, hitting people;
Start to demonize: if you don't show it, I will cry! You see sure you still love me, next time I will cry;
A child's greatest learning ability is to imitate.
What you do, he will do! Don't tell people the truth that you can't do it, it's useless!
The most trusted person in this world is his parents, and you are all in this situation.
Even in advanced truths cannot change a child's cognition.
Second, the convention rules
Under the premise of protecting the body, sleep, and vision,
Children can play with their phones appropriately for a while every day, but be sure to pay attention to a few principles:
1. The time should be fixed, including the duration and fixed node;
2. Whether the content in the mobile phone is in line with the child's growth;
3, adults should accompany the whole process, do not throw the child's mobile phone and leave;
If the child is resistant to the issue of principle,
Whether you want to play a little longer, or you want to play at a non-agreed time,
Be calm and serious and tell your child no, what are the agreed rules!
The emphasis is on peace, not to express emotions,
At the same time, if you choose to compromise under the soft grinding hard bubble,
Then it will end up making both sides uncomfortable!
Third, divert attention
Any Internet Addicted Teenager,
There is only one reason for its formation: that is, the real world makes them extremely uncomfortable, and it is precisely the virtual world that can make up for it.
So if, the child likes to look at the phone,
So we'll shift more of our time to other things he likes to do.
Or we'll do something more interesting to attract them.
Visiting parks, making parent-child games, watching movies...
Now there are too few children, and they all go back to their homes and find their mothers.
Especially preschoolers, their world is smaller,
There are no peers, adults and do not accompany, it is really pitiful.
Xiao Song said:
The harm of mobile phone coaxing, I believe almost all parents can know,
However, how to solve it will cause most parents a headache.
That is to say, often we are very concerned about the drawbacks of many things.
Or pay special attention to the factors that affect us,
But when it comes to solving, it always finds various reasons to shirk and explain.
Actually, let's think about it! Then ask yourself three questions:
First, how did the child's growth problems come into being?
Second, who should solve the problem?
Third, am I really not capable of solving?
After three questions, I believe that I will find that strong self,
Put aside a variety of reasons and accusations against children,
Get back to your child and get your child back to your child!