I learned about Dale Carnegie by reading the book "The Weakness of Human Nature", and to what extent this book affected many Chinese who worked in the workplace, I don't know, but I know that I was subtly influenced by some part-time work.
Remember a little story about the author and the dog and the police: the author was caught by a policeman while walking his dog in the park, because the dog was not wearing a mask. The policeman, who wanted to show his authority, threatened that he would not be spared the next time. Another day, the author and the dog walked in the park again, the dog did not wear a mask, and the policeman saw it again. The author respectfully told the police that this was my fault and that I was willing to accept punishment. The police said that this is a good dog, will not run around, will not be punished. The story goes something like this. Through this incident, Dale Carnegie told us that before we know that we are wrong and will be criticized and blamed by others, we should find out what is wrong with us and admit our mistakes. In this way, the other person"has nothing to say, and you have a 99% chance of getting his forgiveness. ”
This applies especially in the workplace and even in everyday life. When your boss admits something wrong before you criticize you, when your lover admits something wrong with you before you complain about you, you will avoid a burst of thunder.
In reality, there are not many people who dare to say "I am wrong" or "I did not do it wrong", and people who know that they are wrong but still use strong words abound. This is a weakness in human nature. Such a person also has another weakness: he often likes to comment on others and blame others. In the workplace, Dell said, "if you do something wrong, acknowledge it quickly and sincerely and correct it in a timely manner." Such a person, the boss will appreciate you, colleagues will like you!
Dale's book, give me a lot of nutrition. For example, be empathetic and forgive others. For example, everyone has 90% of the strengths, and only 10% of the deficiencies. When you compare 10% of yourself to others, you can't help but sigh: I am so rich. For example, everyone in the world seeks happiness, but there is only one way that really works, and that is to control your thoughts, and happiness does not care about external conditions, but relies on inner conditions.
"The Weakness of Human Nature" also tells us: we must learn self-criticism, do not always blame others, and cultivate self-control. I agree with this and have been trying to practice it.
I remember that in December 2008, I was traveling to Beijing, and when I came out of the tunnel through the front door with my suitcase in my suitcase on the morning of the 25th, I ran into two men and a woman standing at the intersection. A young male policeman looked at my suitcase and said, check it out. I said, okay, check it out. He said, put your bag up and open it. There was a high stool next to the policeman, and he meant for me to put the bag on the stool and pull open the zipper for them to examine. At this time, I was not happy, I had never encountered such a thing, why should I put my suitcase up? Check it out, and let me do it, and see what kind of person I am! I glared at him, not ringing. The older policeman next to him saw this and moved the box from the ground to the stool. He pulled open the zipper, reached inside and pulled it out slightly, pulled out a bottle of mineral water, looked at it and asked, where is this? I said, this is mineral water from Tibet (sent from the Beijing-Tianjin train, I am still reluctant to drink), do you have any doubts? He looked at it again, then put it in the bag and pulled it on the zipper and said, "Okay."
I still felt a little angry about this matter when I got home, and I felt that the police were nitpicking. Later, on the Internet, I inadvertently saw a news item saying that during the Olympic Games, the police in Beijing "must check every suspicion and check every bag" in order to ensure the safety of the capital. This made me feel very ashamed, it was difficult to be a policeman, it was tired when the police, it was even more difficult and more tired to be a policeman in the capital, and I should have taken the initiative to cooperate at that time. The weakness of one's own "sense of self-esteem" (Dell, which I interpret as "good to face") often comes out unconsciously.
Known as the twentieth-century's most famous teacher of success, Dale Carnegie is said to have influenced the lives of thousands of people around the world morally, spiritually, and behaviorally. "The Weakness of Human Nature" is not a panacea, not everyone can read it and be comfortable with people, but it can indeed give people inspiration.
The book "The Weakness of Human Nature" influenced me because I felt that many of these places were worth learning and thinking about for myself, not that everything had to be done as the book said, and I couldn't do it, and Dale himself decided not to do it. We can only combine our own characteristics as much as possible to inspire and improve ourselves. If you believe things like, "As long as you follow Mr. Carnegie's simple and applicable interpersonal rules and life skills, you will be successful," you are dead in reading!