I saw a question on the Internet, and someone asked: When you are too tired to live, how do you survive? The highest praise answer: face it, accept it, and survive it.
Too tired, because I bear too much, care too much, just so-called: can't see, can't put down, can't forget.
The exhaustion of adults is scattered in every corner of life.
When you are too tired to live, look at the following few words, very healing!
For life: to know how to "turn"
The most paradoxical thing about life is that desire and ability are always out of proportion.
Lack of motivation to move forward, retreat into the abyss, want a lot, get very little, this is the norm of life.
At a certain stage, you will find that the road that was once wide is now getting narrower and narrower, and we have fewer and fewer choices, less and less freedom, and more and more tiredness.
At this time, if you do not know how to "turn" and do not adjust your mentality and direction, you are likely to fall into a road to a black "dead end".
I have seen a story about a father and son living at the foot of a mountain, herding cattle for a living, going to the market every day to sell milk and beef.
There are two roads to reach the market, one road is at the doorstep, you can go directly to the market, you can reach it in 1 hour, but there is a large stone in the middle of the road, which is impassable.
The other road is behind the house, this road requires a lot of mountain roads, it takes 6 or 7 hours, after walking this road for a while, the father and son feel that it is too much of a waste of time, so they decided to take the road in front of the house.
The father and son took out the posture of "Yugong Moving Mountain" to move the big stone, but after several months, there was still no progress.
One day, my son was exhausted and breathless, and muttered, "Why should we remove this big stone, we should move to the stone and live there." ”
When my father heard this, he was suddenly enlightened, and the father and son immediately moved to the stone place, and never had to worry about going to the market again.
Stop loss in time, change your mind, and maybe harvest a different life.
Turning a corner is not to give up, but a kind of wisdom in the world, and people who know how to be flexible can flexibly cope with the ever-changing life
If you feel physically and mentally exhausted, think about whether it is the wrong direction of progress, as the saying goes: in this world, there is no alley that cannot be walked, only people who cannot turn.
To others: Go your own way and let others speak
Adler said: All the troubles in life come from relationships.
People who are too real, sensible and sensitive, "worry" too much about others, and care too much about what others say.
Because of a word of praise from others, happy all day, because others criticize, depressed all night.
Even because of a trivial matter, I argue with people and eventually make myself tired.
When you pin your mood on the faces of others, you also lose the right to "freedom and happiness".
"The Courage to Be Hated" says that the troubles caused by interpersonal relationships actually stem from the arbitrary interference of other people's problems, or the interference of their own problems by others.
It is not that you are blindly worrying about your own affairs, that you care too much about other people's opinions, and eventually consume yourself in "human feelings".
On the road of parenting, the parents of "chicken flying dog jumping" should understand that learning is the child's own life topic, they will eventually have their own road to go, do a good job of parental responsibility, and the rest needs to be borne by him.
The trapped lover in the relationship should be clear, the so-called lover, but the companion on the road, you have your way, he also has his life, you can support, you can comfort, but can not save yourself.
It is your business to love him; whether he loves you or not is his business; when you no longer have gains and losses in your love for him, you are freed from the troubles of love.
People who live in the evaluation of others should know that no one can meet everyone's expectations, and it is always difficult to choose between being yourself and pandering to others. Instead of suffering from gains and losses, it is better to do your own thing generously, and let others say it.
"Silent Confession" says: We spend our whole lives to get rid of the expectations of others and find our true selves.
Tired, just change the way of life, do yourself well, love yourself, for others, do your own thing, let others say it.
To yourself: Accept mediocrity
The pursuit of superiority is human nature, and accepting the ordinary is everyone's practice.
I used to think that if I went to a good university, I would become a "professional elite", I would be able to be materially good by working hard, and I would gain true feelings by paying hard.
But in the end, I found that life is not something you can do with all your might, life is always swinging back and forth between high and low, and no one is a victorious general.
Some are remarkable, some are mediocre, and very few people go to the spire.
Failure may be the norm in life, and most of the time you feel tired, probably caught in the internal friction of self-conflict.
Maybe you have a high starting point, carry the expectations of others, and have perfect standards for yourself, but in the end, you have become an ordinary person, and this gap is unbearable for a while.
Accept failure, accept mediocrity, let yourself go, in order to easily fight.
In "Flying Life", Zhang Chi, who was once a top racing driver, won many championships.
However, in order to give his children a household registration and school registration, he took a risk for a while, participated in illegal competitions and was banned for 5 years.
For a racing driver, there really is nothing but racing.
Overnight, he went from being an idol worshipped by everyone to an ordinary person, and his friends turned away from him.
In those years, Zhang Chi recognized the reality in time, set up a stall, sold fried rice, took care of children, simulated driving at home, and his life gradually stepped onto the right track.
Five years later, he was finally able to return to the game with a relaxed look.
In the face of fate's teasing, some people are depressed, complaining about the world, and since then they have been devastated and have become the "abandoned children" of life.
Some people accept it calmly, dry their tears, continue to move forward, and become the "lucky ones" of life.
You are tired because you can't see hope, a hopeful person, a dynamic person.
YiShu said: The reason why we are unhappy is that we don't know how to stay in a quiet room and get along with ourselves calmly.
Accept the undesirables of life, accept your own mediocrity, and learn to reconcile with yourself in order to embrace a happy life.
Life is like a journey, carrying too many things, it will become more and more tired.
If you want to play easily, you have to learn to make trade-offs and flexibility.
Abandon some indifferent views, life is your own, shoes are not suitable, your feet have the final say.
To learn to turn and work around, the mountain can not come, I can pass, this road is not passable, change the road next to it.
Just as the so-called mountains and rivers are doubtful and there is no way, the willows are dark and the flowers are bright and another village.
To accept your own ordinariness, you are not God, and it is not a blessing to be an ordinary person?
If life is full of suffering, we can also live a different way:
Replace calculation with tolerance, fill the body and mind with contentment, turn stress into motivation, and see difficulties as tests.
If the heart is sunny, everywhere is a beautiful landscape.
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