In the 2022 drama series, to ask which drama has triggered the most heated discussion, the small drama first promoted the current fire of "Dear Child".
As soon as the series began to air, the popularity soared at the same time, but also attracted heated discussion from many parties.
There are also three different voices in the audience, one is that life is big enough, and watching the drama must follow the fire; one thinks that the TV series is to erase the filter to see the real state of life; and the last is that the plot is too dramatic, but it is not necessarily in real life.
With such a fierce controversy, what exactly does the screenwriter want the audience to see in it?
Today, we will look at the core of "Dear Child" through the emotional transformation experiences of Xiao Lu (Qin Hao), Fang Yinuo (Ren Suxi) and Xie Tianhua (Nie Yuan).
At the beginning of the episode, there is a 3-minute scene of a lineless performance, where Fang Yinuo (Ren Suxi), who has light makeup, stands in front of the mirror and sees the makeup removal on his face, starting to take off his coat, and finally revealing his pregnant belly.
Fang Yinuo stood in front of the mirror, carefully observed himself, saw the real self, and the happiness of having a child was also accompanied by a change in appearance and shape. Various emotions are also concentrated on conveying to the audience outside the venue through facial expressions.
Removing makeup and taking off the coat to see stretch marks and spots means that the identity of women is changed, and the appearance modification is removed, which is a psychological transformation.
At this moment, this drama about love and affection has begun.
The next shot turns, is the husband and wife two began to sweet sprinkle sugar, buy noodles, cut apples, back out of the teacher's watch, pinch feet, the best but you are making him laugh, many viewers are estimated to laugh here, remember a lot of their own love sweet honey, right?
But then the couple's daily sweetness began to change quietly after Fang Yinuo entered production.
Looking at the drama filter also hints that this is not an easy journey to have a baby.
The final parting of Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu was also accompanied by several escalations of contradictions that accompanied the "journey".
First contradiction:
After Fang Yinuo was admitted to the hospital, important characters in the series began to appear one after another.
Xiao Lu's mother-in-law is not easy to mess with! The telephone serial call because he wanted to relax Xiao Lu, who was drunk at home, let him rush to the hospital immediately after waking up!
Xiao Lu's mother is even more out of the big spectrum! When you come to the hospital and do not run to your granddaughter-in-law, you must first "placenta", and the "negative" mother-in-law image also jumps on the screen. Therefore, Xiao Lu missed his wife out of the operating room.
Xiao Lu two "wrong", the wife into the birth room, he missed, the wife gave birth to the delivery room, he missed again!
In this process, Fang Yinuo was surrounded by layers of emotions of fear, fear, and not being paid attention to.
This is the beginning of the contradiction between husband and wife.
Second contradiction:
After discharge, the couple took the child.
When it comes to couples with children, those who do not get up at night to breastfeed dare not say that they have brought children!
Fang Yinuo is the same, although it took the money to spend energy to choose and invited the sister-in-law at home, in fact, what she longed for most in her heart was probably the help of her husband Xiao Lu.
When she nursed and wanted to drink a sip of water, Xiao Lu slept heavily, and when the sister-in-law brought the water over, she was so aggrieved that she could not cry;
Xiao Lu arrived home very late every day, often sleeping without eating dinner, almost tossing the remaining energy to coax his wife to be happy.
The two did not have the same frequency of thinking, and later there was a dispute.
Most importantly, although in the end, Hehe's illness was caused by breast milk, the crux of the matter was still that Xiao Lu did not communicate in time and effectively about Fang Yinuo's repeated questioning of his sister-in-law, and Fang Yinuo did not understand Xiao Lu's hidden heart.
At this time, the two people who were separated from the bed also began to have a gap in their hearts.
Third contradiction:
After the sister-in-law made a mistake and could not find a suitable candidate, Xiao Lu called for his mother to take care of his wife and children.
This hot old mother does not come and does not tighten, but it is really a world turn. Judging from the character expectations, the "placenta" incident has already implanted the image of the villain in the audience, wearing Xiao Lu Xiaoxu's clothes and pants when he was a child, smoking and playing cards, and fighting with young girls.
Every action seems to make the storm of the son's small family more chaotic.
In fact, in the end, she is just a mother who does not have much culture to bring up two children, if the personality is not spicy, too delicate and tangled, I am afraid that her life process will be difficult to survive.
The nature of the high-color screen is not "bad", and people have their own difficulties.
Despite the reason, when the mother-in-law took care of the child because of the card, Fang Yinuo was furious and refused to communicate with Xiao Lu.
In fact, there are many such things in life, and people will unconsciously empathize with dissatisfaction and anger to the most intimate lover, in fact, this is to punish the couple's intimacy with the mistakes of others.
The Fourth Contradiction:
The mother-in-law and Xiao Lu's brother are under the same roof. Mother-in-law and mother-in-law together seem to be very thoughtful, but in fact, it is really a "human affair account", looking at each other unfavorably, each gambling, and not knowing when a bomb will come.
Coupled with Xiao Lu's ignorant brother also came to insert a foot to add fuel to the fire, this is really a big drama.
In the end, the noise was turned upside down, Xiao Lu coaxed left and right, really tired to the point of collapse and crying.
And these have laid the groundwork for the divorce of Xiao Lu and his wife, and the final trigger for divorce is that Xiao Lu and the project partner Zhu Zhu are drunk and confused, and they can't understand it, so that this marriage has completely fallen apart.
Since then, Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo can never go back to the past, and all the kindness and love have become entanglements and choices at that moment.
Xiao Lu sat on the steps and slapped himself again and again, Fang Yinuo saw xiao Lu and Zhu Zhu's misunderstanding of meeting again and so on superimposed, the two of you complained about me, did not really sit down to communicate once to recognize their own problems and each other's efforts, but was broken by Zhu Zhu's words:
Neither partner feels like they have a problem with the marriage.
Let's go back and look at these several escalations of contradictions, in fact, they are not major events of life and death, but they are often seen in life, and finally because of a "fake cheating" detonation point, couples still love each other at the same time have to endure pain and let go and eventually go to divorce, in the end is still unable to stand on each other's position to feel empathy.
The dedication and response of the wife Fang Yinuo throughout the pregnancy is a concentrated display of thousands of pregnant women in reality.
As a wife upgrades to a new mother, worry, fear, fear, depression, paranoia and even helplessness, whether it is physical reasons or emotional entanglements, is just to get the companionship and understanding of her husband Xiao Lu.
At this moment, her husband Xiao Lu is more considering economic pressure, wants to bring better quality of life to his mother and daughter, and dreams of getting ahead.
The communication between the two "lack of oxygen" is the root cause of the deterioration of love. After giving birth to a child, there is almost no breathing space to talk about whether the love of two people is ignored, obviously want to make the child grow better, but forget that the stability of the intimate relationship between two adults is the basis for giving the child a home.
But we have to admit that after this divorce, Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo have grown qualitatively.
Xiao Lu and his remarried wife Dong Fan, Xiao Lu has tried to gradually balance work and family. Fang Yinuo, who was particularly strong before, after marrying Lao Xie, and Lao Xie's sister "passed the move" became stoic and generous.
And the world's best man Xie Tianhua is indeed thoughtful about the family compared to Xiao Lu.
After a serious confession, Fang Yinuo repeatedly refused to flinch without flinching, still insisted on his decision before the opposition of his family, and when Fang Yinuo's daughter Hehe was suffering from leukemia, he contributed money to care, accompanied the "bald head" with a guessing boxing game for Hehe's haircut, and he used the practical action of love to let the sense of security surround Fang Yinuo.
There is also a detail that proves that the unromantic Xie Tianhua is really living with Fang Yinuo.
Watching Fang Yinuo take care of Hehe has been tired, Xie Tianhua took a promise to go through the "world of two" to relax a little, the idea that came to mind was to play badminton with her, let the whole tense rhythm of life relax a little, and told her that you have to protect yourself so that you have the energy to take better care of Hehe.
The method is "clumsy", but it is warm and practical.
When countless netizens said that Xie Tianhua was a married male ceiling, the side proved that he was so good.
In real life, such Xie Tianhua may be really rare, and it may be more Xiao Lu. It is not that Xiao Lu is wrong to work so hard, but that he is trapped in difficulty balancing family and work, and often ignores the most precious.
And the screenwriter's Xie Tianhua may be a friendship to remind the men around the world's "Fang Yinuo", when the wife is pregnant and pregnant with the child, the care given by the husband can no longer rely solely on money or material conditions to ensure matching.
You earn money to earn joy may only be your honor and pleasure, but it is not the happiness and security that the wife wants, especially when women are in the physiological and psychological changes of pregnancy or postpartum, especially different, but also to attract the attention of everyone in the family, the role of the husband is particularly important.
Say well to be a parent together, let the woman bear all the hard work of raising a baby, this is not a few bags or a big house can be "exchanged".
Husband and wife are originally the same body, in addition to material mutual protection, spiritual support and behavioral care are also indispensable.
Looking at it in this way, some netizens mentioned at the beginning joked about the problem of "how the screenwriter is miserable and how to make it up", in fact, the real-life shadow can be seen everywhere in the play, such as the way husband and wife get along, the care for women during pregnancy and childbirth, it is still worth our thinking over and over again. When we talk about Dear Kids, we're talking about how new parents don't lose their original lovers when raising babies.