There are always brothers who come to complain to me: Why do I suddenly become cold when I talk to other girls? Why does she always say that it is particularly difficult to communicate with me, thinking that I am a big straight man? Hey, there are really too many similar problems, come and go, today, Leaves will solve all your confusion at once. How to chat with girls with high emotional intelligence? After the conversation, let her feel good about you.
1, when chatting, do not know how to reply, just take you as the opening
Let's look at the following two examples:
The boy asked the girl: I saw you yesterday when I was eating at a certain place. The girl said: Is it? I went there yesterday and spent an afternoon shopping without buying anything. Are you going shopping?
In the same way, the girl asked the boy, and the girl said: I saw you yesterday when I was eating at a certain place. The boy said, "What are you going to do there?" Then why don't you call me?
You compare, I don't know if you found it, what about girls when they talk? It is people, especially themselves, who are discussed first. And what about boys when they're talking? Priority is given to the discussion of things, especially conclusions. So when we talk to girls, we can reverse the operation and use this kind of thinking.
For example, the girl said: The weather is really good today. Then you can say: you should be in a good mood.
Brothers, such nice words, you boldly say, do not think that if you say such a nice sentence or two, you will become a licking dog. Can talk, can say good things, this is not a dog licking, only licking, will not say that is licking the dog. Let's score this clearly.
2. When complaining, appeasement is the mainstay, supplemented by suggestions
One study showed that what about when it comes to the same thing? Boys like to be heroic, while girls like victims to make themselves.
For example, let's say you've been scolded by a leader. Girls may say: Today I was scolded by the leader, so uncomfortable. Boys may say: I tell you, I am working with our leaders today.
What do you see this example illustrate? It shows that girls want to be appeased, while boys want to be recognized. So when girls talk to you and complain to you, you have to understand what people mean, you just say a word or two of comfort, just do it. When she didn't ask for your opinion, just comfort. But if she's asking you, what should I do? It's not too late for you to give advice at this time.
3, try not to deny her
Brothers, you must not think that only boys have a good face, oh, I tell you, girls are also very good face. Whether it is in front of people who like herself or in front of people she likes, she is a good face, and she hopes that she is perfect in the eyes of others. Speaking of this, I have to say about the boy's thinking mode, the boy's thinking is more inclined to give the result directly. This is also the reason, so it is often when chatting with girls, the above situations occur.
For example, let's say you go to dinner with your friends, and when it's over, you take a girl who has been with you for a long time. As a result, this girl was eating and eating, and accidentally sprinkled the soup on her body, at this time, if you say: Oh, why are you so careless.
Do you know what she thinks when she hears this? She feels like you're denying her. Because this is a kind of language thinking that directly gives evaluation, for girls, it is a kind of denial of her, then you say, who likes to be denied?
But if you say: It's all right, wipe it. Then hand her a tissue, and then say: Oh, your clothes are still very beautiful, and you should be able to wash them when you go home at night. This is the girl's language thinking, because you express your feelings and naturally exaggerate her clothes.
In fact, having said all this, I just want to tell you that if you learn to chat with girls with high emotional intelligence, you will find: Hey, it turns out that she will not chat and talk about it coldly, and she will always talk happily with me. In this way, won't your purpose be achieved?