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Some people say that who we will meet in this life is already doomed, and they all come with a certain mission. Some bring us warmth and teach us to love and be loved, while others keep our lives cold and bring us endless harm.
Many times they are like a gust of wind, they come and go, they can not take away a cloud, they can go, but the harm they bring to us cannot be smoothed out, and it is likely that they will follow us for a lifetime.
Warmth and love are easy to forget, but pain can not be easily forgotten, it will only slowly fade with the passage of time, but it will also haunt the mind in countless moments, making ripples in the heart.
Some things do not mention does not mean that we have forgotten, some pain does not mean that we have not been in pain, there is never a so-called empathy in this world, the needle is not stuck in others they will never know the pain.
When you are hurt, there will always be someone to persuade you to forget it, but they have not been in pain, how can they understand that sadness?
In the face of other people's harm, others really do not have to understate the persuasion, only the person is most qualified to make a choice, they can be qualified to choose not to forgive.
Those hard hurts really can't be forgiven easily, you don't have to force yourself to be generous, you don't have to forgive, you can choose to do it.
Draw the line thoroughly, and don't see the heart and don't bother
Some people stand there and it's meant to disgust you. Those who hurt you, frequently appear in front of you, will only add to their own hearts, and those injuries will only be infinitely magnified and repeatedly haunted in your heart.
Some people say that adults are to learn to get along with people they hate, children will say that they break off diplomatic relations, as long as they are people they don't like can show it, and most adults have learned to be patient and give in. However, some people, your blind tolerance will only make the other party think that you are a bully, in exchange for which you will only become more intense and inching forward.
In the face of some innocuous little friction, we can pretend that nothing has happened and still smile at each other. But in the face of some harm, there is really no way to pretend to be generous.
You can tear your face with each other, but you still need to learn to be peaceful with each other, after all, some relationships are not something we can decide, such as those colleagues who have hurt you, those who have hurt your relatives, some people who have hurt you, but you can also pretend that nothing has happened. The perpetrator can always be without waves, but it is difficult for the person who bears the hurt to be calm.
You don't have to pretend to be generous, still get along with each other as if nothing has happened, it is difficult to calm down when watching him, and the most important thing to do at this time is to completely draw a line, and not to see the heart.
No matter who the other party is, no matter what kind of entanglement you have with him, all the injuries should not be forgiven again and again, and it is wise to stop the loss in time and completely break the connection.
A sentence of "forget it" is to let yourself go
In an issue of "Strange Story", Ma Dong said about forgiveness: "Over time, we will eventually forgive those who have hurt us."
Cai Kangyong said: "That is not forgiveness, that is forgetful."
A sentence of "forget it" seems to be light and fluttering, but in fact, it is a choice made through the precipitation of time and countless times of self-healing.
When others say that they are worried, they are looking at the hilarity, they can touch their teeth up and down, they can point at other people's things at will, they do not understand the reason, and they will not understand your sadness.
Outsiders never have the right to tell you what to do, just listen to it when they say it, don't pay attention to it. But you have to know how to let go, learn to let go of yourself.
I know that it is really not an easy task for you to choose to "forget it", but I know more about licking those wounds frequently, how painful it is to chew each time, and you always grasp those hurts and don't want to let go, but in the end it will only make the pain be repeatedly mentioned, and the pain will only deepen.
Those who have hurt you can live their lives freely, only you have been immersed in that abyss and cannot extricate yourself, let yourself live to be depressed, repeatedly hold on to those pains, and finally punish only yourself.
You don't have to forgive him, but you have to learn to let yourself go. Forget it, don't think about the hurt anymore, and make yourself live a little easier is the most important thing.
Stand where the other person can't reach and live your own life
Yue Yunpeng was once hurt when he was a waiter, the other party trampled on his self-esteem, was casually insulted, until Yue Yunpeng became famous and talked about this matter is still timeless.
Only after he became famous will this matter be known, and it will ripple in everyone's heart, if he is still an unknown waiter, this matter may not be known to everyone.
Now he was on fire, standing at a height that was difficult for others to reach, and the person who had hurt him could only sigh.
In "All Is Good", Su Mingyu talked about his experience of entering the workplace for the first time. At that time, she went on a rampage, offending her superiors without realizing it. As a result, her boss put on her small shoes for half a year, and she suddenly realized.
Everyone advised her and her superiors to bow their heads, she was young and vigorous, she was not willing to do this at all, and felt that it was better to take a few more orders herself. Later, he successfully rose step by step with his own performance, becoming a height that was difficult for the other party to reach.
After the promotion, she also thought about revenge, but on second thought, she had already thrown her a lot, and there was really no need.
In the face of harm, forgiveness and revenge are not good strategies, only to make yourself better, stand at a height that is difficult for the other party to reach, and live your own life, is the best counterattack against them.
We will meet many people in this life, some people will bring you warmth, some people will bring you harm.
We'll never have a way to decide how the other person treats you, and the only thing we can do is live our lives.
You don't have to be generous in your choice to forgive or take revenge, that will only make you look abominable. Only by following the above three steps step by step to live your life is the most important.