Talk about "Missing Sex Chat"

The uncle posted a paragraph in the circle of friends a while ago, "To some extent, like a person, in fact, I want to do two things with him: one is to chat, and the other is what." ”

Compared with that, the uncle feels that chatting is more important, after all, all important relationships come from communication! Without harmonious communication, naturally there will be no harmonious nothing.

Everyone wants to chat harmoniously with the person they like, and the desire for soul collisions is really overwhelming. But objective reality is sometimes unsatisfactory. The person I liked was either cold and cold, oh-oh-hmm, or chatted quite well at first, but suddenly "disappeared" when chatting. If the former is just depressing, then the latter can drive people crazy.

It's a bit like going to a bathhouse to take a shower and getting to the door and being told to stop the water and just getting yourself wet. The former is nothing more than changing the bathhouse or coming back next time. The latter is different, my pants are off, and I am wet, how to get it? Let's go, I'm afraid I'll just put on my pants and come to the water again; if I don't go, I don't know when the water will come. This feeling is like a dog beeping.

When the water is "missing" when taking a bath, the probability of encountering it is still small, but when chatting, people "disappear" This kind of thing is too much. Recently, such a consultation, the uncle received no less than ten. So, what should I do when I encounter someone who "disappears" while chatting a lot?

Today, the uncle will talk to the friends about this matter.

Most intimate relationships from beginning to end, whether the parties are aware of it or not, there must be one party to pay more and one party to pay less (this payment includes, but is not limited to: time, energy, feelings, material, etc.). Whether conscious or not, the party who gives more can be called the "victim" in the intimate relationship, and the party who gives less is called the "indulgent".

As long as there are victims, there are indulgents, and vice versa. If you play the sacrificial role, you will definitely attract others to play the indulgent. To put it in layman's terms, most people's problems are habitual.

Take the chat thing, always take the initiative to say hello, always take the initiative to find the topic of the party is the victim, and those who often chat and chat and suddenly "disappear" are the indulgents.

If you play the role of a sacrificer, then, unless you stop sacrificing, there is no way you can change the indulgent.

See here there may be a small partner does not understand, stop sacrificing? Is it the meaning of never taking the initiative to chat with her again? Isn't that cold?

If you have this kind of thinking, UNCLE IMHO, your little friend's head is not very clear, many things in this world are not said to be non-love or hate or non-cold and hot.

Here the uncle says something off-topic, according to the uncle's observation, many small partners in real life are always prone to extremes, either with high morale and confidence, or with a dead heart and a dejected head. This is really a response to the words of the saints: "The gentleman is moderate, and the villain is against the moderate." Among the gentlemen, there are also the mediocre, and the gentlemen are in the middle of the time. Among the villains, the mediocre are also, and the villains are unscrupulous. ”

Smart people are moderate, and ordinary people are against moderation. The reason why smart people are moderate is because smart people can be moderate at any time, and there is no fault; the reason why ordinary people violate moderation is because ordinary people are unscrupulous and love to go to extremes.

The middle way, everything is available, and falling in love is especially useful.

Well, let's get back to the point, if you're playing the victim, she's playing the indulgent. You want to change her, and there's only one way to stop sacrificing. This cessation of sacrifice does not mean that we will no longer take the initiative to pay, nor does it mean that we will increase the intensity of our efforts. Rather, it is to be the middle way, and there is no fault.

Take the matter of chat as a middle way: each message should not exceed three at most, and the other party will reply and send it again. If the other party does not return, then do not send it again that day. I personally recommend that if the other party does not return, do not look for it the next day, and look for it again on the third or fourth day.

Why?

First, if you send too many messages at a time when chatting, the other party will be very ignorant and do not know to pick up your sentence, and if you send a lot of sentences at once, the other party suddenly does not return, it will be particularly embarrassing.

Second, the other party chatted about the sudden "disappearance", there are only two reasons, 1, there is something; 2, do not want to talk. Either way, you shouldn't send another message for a short period of time. If the other party suddenly has something to deal with, you still send a message, and the other party can't reply. If the other party does not want to talk, you still send messages, the other party will be more annoyed with you.

Second, if you send messages one after another on the same day under the premise that the other party is chatting about sudden "disappearance", then she will "disappear" without moving in the future, because she knows that you will come to her again after a while anyway.

Third, everything has a degree, the chat is the same, excessive, either appear to be very hungry and thirsty, or appear to be very cold. It is not good to live well, and it is not good to be inferior, so we must be without fault, the middle way.

Finally, the uncle also wants to say a few words to those "indulgents", although you are not obliged to take care of the feelings of the suitors, but if you do not hate each other, it is okay to be more polite, right? When you don't want to talk to each other, try to tell each other! Just find a reason, such as, "I'll deal with something else first." "That way, the other party doesn't have to wait for you to reply to the message there." After all, that feeling of anxiety and anxiety is really torturous.

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