A woman who is in love, the most common question asked is: "How can I keep his heart and let him always be by my side?" ”
To this end, she does not hesitate to lower her body and please him in a humble way, no matter when, she is the one who takes the initiative, she is the one who dedicates herself to love.
But does this really work? She thought that as long as she was good enough for him, she would be able to touch him, make him love himself more, make him inseparable from himself, in fact, the more you do this, the faster he will escape.
There is a saying: "The more you can't get something, the more you will be cherished", the more you take the initiative to get close to him, he will only feel that it is effortless, he will only feel that this matter is not interesting, this person is not worth pursuing.
Therefore, it is important to want men to be concerned about you, not to be humble and flattering, but to achieve "3 not active".
01
Don't initiate contact with him
Women are often stupid, she is afraid that if she does not take the initiative to contact the other party, the other party will forget her, or no longer have contact with her.
But you forget that the person who does not contact you, whether your Lord takes the initiative or not, he is indifferent, not that the more active you are, he will think of your good, and then take the initiative to contact you.
Even if you take the initiative repeatedly, it will make him feel bored, feel that you are pestering him, and he will only decide to ignore you according to his mood, reply to a sentence when he is in a good mood, and he may not even want to say a word.
So, don't think that your initiative can be exchanged for his kindness to you, if you are humble and flattering, he will not cherish such love, and will not stay by your side because of your efforts.
If you want him to be concerned about you, the most important thing is to be yourself, contact when it is time to contact, if he ignores you, then you will remain still.
02
Do not actively rely on him
Some women think that finding a man is equivalent to finding a reliance, but in fact, is this really the case?
Luo Zijun in "The First Half of My Life", because of Chen Junsheng's "I raise you", chose to go home and be a full-time wife, which is equivalent to entrusting her fate to this man.
When she chooses to rely on Chen Junsheng, there is no autonomy, when the other party loves you, you are a baby-like existence, when the other party does not love you, you are like a grass with no value, such a life is too insecure.
If you want a man to be inseparable from you, you must not take the initiative to rely on him, you can only rely on yourself, when you make yourself strong, he will appreciate such you more.
If you choose dependence from the beginning, then all you get is boredom, disgust, and even the final distance, rather than waking up in the end, it is better to let yourself have the initiative from the beginning.
03
Do not ask him for peace
In the relationship, it is not that you are humble and flattered, you can get the love you want, perhaps the more humble you are, the more the other party feels that you have no personality, and you do not want to cherish such a you.
Especially when two people quarrel, you will be the one who takes the initiative to ask for peace, which will only tell the other party that you can't do without him, no matter what he does, you can forgive.
Unless you are willing to keep wronging yourself like this, or don't keep looking down and asking for peace, he will not be better to you because of your request, or not quarrel with you, on the contrary, it will only become worse.
If there is a quarrel, let each other calm down, you can wait for him to make peace, this is not necessarily to distinguish who is right and who is wrong, but an attitude issue.
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Conclusion
If you are still struggling, you are so good to him, but he does not love you, then you should first think about it, how do you do in this relationship?
The party that is too active is destined to be the party that loses miserably, if you will only humble and please, he will tolerate everything, he will forgive everything, then you can only wait to be wronged, and such a woman is often not cherished.
Therefore, women still have to strengthen themselves and make themselves better, only when you live your own life and do not put all your thoughts on the other party, you can let his heart be tied to you, more and more inseparable from you.