In our hometown, this distant cousin is a god-like being, a very magical and egotistical woman.
She suffered a lot from an early age. Often beaten by his mother, who is not satisfied with his life, he runs away from home, commits suicide, suffers from depression... In the end she survived.
Since she was a child, she was the ugliest girl in the whole family, but now she is the best temperament among the sisters of the same year, looking younger than everyone else.
She was born in an ordinary family, the whole family can not be related to the eight rods of art, but she has a unique talent, and she has become a painter by personal efforts.
Today, she is in Canada, living a life we can imagine but can't.
The cousin had to start from the beginning, otherwise it would be impossible to explain why she had finally become such a person.
Locally, our family is a little bit larger.
Taking the cousin's family as an example, her grandfather has a total of nine cousins, the old man himself ranks sixth, and his old lady, that is, the cousin's sixth wife, we call her six BA.
(BA refers to great-grandmother, the father's grandmother.) What is the word "BA"? I didn't understand it, so I had to use pronunciation instead. ）
In the cousin's father's generation, the number of people is even more complex, and it is impossible to tell how many rooms there are. Anyway, every time the family has a wedding or funeral, there are too many sons and nephews to help, and there is no need for outsiders to intervene.
Not to mention the back kitchen, nearly 20 daughters-in-law of all rooms, all less than thirty years old, chattering, warblers and swallows, filling the back kitchen.
At least a third of the women were unemployed, carrying aprons and laughing and joking, looking around the kitchen for food and laughing at the few who were working.
Every time our family had a red and white affair, the chef would be afraid to see this group of concubines. Without appeal, you can't command them at all. They have a sharp mouth, and they can eat and speak.
[Laughing and crying] "Look, stand, dry." See and stand, but also give advice to dry! [Teeth]
The cousin's mother is one of the most inconspicuous daughters-in-law.
My cousin's grandfather was an old teacher, always with a strict face and never smiling.
My cousin's grandmother, Liu Bao, although she was a housewife, could not read, but she could memorize Tang poems and was good at governing the family.
In the affairs of the family, the old man rarely went to the battle in person, and it was all the six wives who came forward. She not only had to weave and farm, but she was also responsible for educating her children and grandchildren.
The sixth wife was a strict and strict old woman, and once she opened her mouth to talk about the big truth, her grandfather, who was a teacher, could not compare.
At that time, the family composition was emphasized, and their six rooms had been hit in that "you know" era, the composition was not good, and the daughters of ordinary people were reluctant to marry in.
Therefore, the son of the sixth wife dragged on until he was 24 years old, and he could not marry his daughter-in-law.
The sixth wife had no choice but to make the decision to marry him a not very desirable family affair, the main purpose of which was to borrow the poor peasant background of the daughter-in-law's mother-in-law's family with a good reputation to offset her family's troubles.
The 19-year-old daughter-in-law came from a nearby family.
She looks ordinary, primary school culture, has not received any strict tutoring, and her words and deeds do not meet the requirements of the sixth wife, mainly because she does not have a door on her mouth, she speaks without a brain, and she opens her mouth to come, which offends many people.
But this daughter-in-law Miao Honggenzheng, her mother's family is a poor peasant among poor farmers, poor, moved from other places, does not care about the ingredients, only wants her daughter to marry a family.
The only thing that can please the sixth wife is that this daughter-in-law is strong, hardworking, loves to work, and a person can stand up to a big man and a half, and is a good helper.
After a year of marriage, the two had a daughter, my cousin.
The birth of the cousin ignited the first war between the sixth wife and daughter-in-law.
First of all, because the cousin was a girl, which made the sixth wife very upset.
She wanted the first child in the family to be a boy, first Lucky, then a successor, and then, growing up, there was one more hard worker in the family.
What's more, at that time, the rooms in the big family were secretly competing, the other concubines had given birth to several big fat grandchildren, and the sixth in-laws of the sixth in-laws had not yet moved, and now it was easy to give birth, but it was a girl!
Ironically, after this, in the fourth and fifth generations, the sixth mother-in-law's family never gave birth to a single girl, and it was all boys. There are so many children and grandchildren that the sixth wife worries that they will not be able to marry their daughters-in-law in the future.
But at present, the sixth wife, who wants a grandchild, is very disappointed and completely loses patience with her daughter-in-law.
In addition to the advantages of great strength and hard work, the sixth wife dislikes everything about this daughter-in-law: cooking is not exquisite, doing things extensively; talking indiscriminately regardless of the occasion, behaving without rules; not loving to clean up the house, things are placed haphazardly, never return to their positions....... In short, big and small things, almost did not satisfy the old lady.
But the old lady never cursed or lost her temper, and she was always chattering with the wind and rain, counting down.
This made my cousin's mother even more mad. The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law never broke out, but it accumulated every day, and the cousin's mother secretly vented her anger on the cousin's body.
The cousin was the third of the girls of her generation, and we called her the third aunt.
In our hometown, three is an unlucky number, especially the third daughter, destined for a hard life.
The sixth wife was even more angry about this, and said every day: What is the use of having a daughter, it is all for others to raise children! Still a third daughter! Bitter death!
The cousin's grandfather was also dissatisfied, mainly because he hated his granddaughter for looking ugly.
In my cousin's generation, we had 13 children born in our family, and 5 of them, the young cousin, were indeed the least beautiful of the five.
My cousin's father was only 25 years old at the time, a mother and treasure man of that era, and obeyed his parents' arrangements for everything. He himself was not satisfied with this family affair, and he did not expect that in just one year, this twisted melon would give birth to a melon again! He didn't have any feelings for this child, and even felt that he was still a big child, how could he have a child?
It can be said that from birth, the cousin did not invite anyone in the family to be treated, and she was haunted by all kinds of complaints.
Those complaints, which have nothing to do with her at all, must be borne by her.
Every time the cousin's mother was blamed by the mother-in-law, she turned around and found the cousin, and by the way, she found a stubble, and it was a severe beating to her.
While hitting, he also scolded, full of foul language, completely unbearable to listen.
The houses in my hometown are all next to each other, separated by bricks.
My grandmother and my cousin's mother were concubines, and she said that in those years, she could hear her cousin's fierce cries almost every day.
Other concubines have also advised their cousin's mother not to hit the child. Even if you hit, you can't hit it that hard.
But dissuasion was useless, and the young cousin was still beaten often.
The cousin was very stubborn since she was a child, never ran away when she was beaten, just stood where she was, let her mother give a fierce hand, did not cry at first, and finally cried in pain.
Her mother beat her with a stick, which was broken.
Whenever such a time comes, the cousin's father always pretends not to see, and the cousin's grandfather does not speak like a transparent person.
The grandmother of the cousin will only say lightly when she hears the daughter-in-law's foul language: Scold the child not so ugly.
When these things happened, my cousin's father was 29 years old and my mother was 24 years old, both young people under thirty years old.
My cousin was about five years old at the time, a little girl so small, thin and weak, covered with scars, but her eyes were full of hatred. But she was too young to stare at her mother fiercely, unable to fight back, and powerless to resist.
The cousin's father noticed the hateful look in his daughter's eyes, and he was a little worried. By the time he was in his seventies, those fears had finally turned into fears.
When my cousin was 7 years old, she gradually began to rebel.
That Chinese New Year's Eve night that year, her mother beat her badly because she was in a bad mood.
She did not cry, and when her mother finished fighting, she rushed out of the gate and ran toward the west of the village, regardless of the heavy snow and wind outside.
There was a river outside the west gate of the village, the water was not deep, but it was enough to drown a skinny child.
It was getting dark, the wind was howling, and the snow was falling. The cousin sat alone on the bank of the river, crying heart-rending, and the sharp cries alarmed a person.
The man was a cousin's cousin, a madwoman, or a mute, wandering around the village all day.
She ran to her cousin's house and asked her father to come to the rescue.
The cousin's mother was also afraid in her heart, and her mouth still said: Die and die! She's dead, and I can have another one.
When her cousin was six years old, her mother gave birth to another son, which found some face and respect on her mother-in-law's side. At that time, family planning had begun, and there was no possibility of having a third child.
The cousin's father hurriedly ran to the river with the crazy girl, only to see that the cousin had passed out in the grass with frost.
After this time, the cousin's mother relented a little, but still often did it.
And the cousin after this, only 7 years old, looks and expression more and more like a little adult, and understands things unbelievably.
Once, the sixth wife took her out to eat a banquet.
During the meal, the adults let her eat before eating, and if the adults did not speak, she would not take the chopsticks. When eating, she is by no means like other children, but she has a very good look, and eats meticulously and elegantly.
You must know that in the era when my cousin was a child, the whole society was short of clothes and food, and the adults and children at the banquet were good at robbing food. The cousin's behavior shocked relatives and friends, and they praised her for being sensible and tutored.
The sixth wife felt that she had a lot of face, and she thought that girls should be like this.
The cousin is very clever. The things that the sixth mother-in-law told her to do, she could do well, so that people could not find a single fault.
The sixth wife was very surprised, and the tasks given to her were always secretly and quietly increased, but she still did a good job and did not make any mistakes.
What the sixth mother asked her cousin's mother to do, her mother often did not do well, but the cousin could. When she heard her grandmother blame her mother, she would silently remember it in her heart and make sure that she did not violate it.
Moreover, she did not inherit any of her mother's shortcomings.
From the age of 6 she has been cooking simple meals and feeding pigs to sheep;
He also loves to be clean, very hygienic, and will scrub the inside and outside of the house when there is nothing to do.
She was methodical, promised beforehand, and confessed afterwards, and her grandmother was so picky that she couldn't fault any problems with this child.
The only downside was that she never smiled.
On the cousin's face, there was never the innocent smile of a child, nor did she have any games that a child should play. She did all kinds of work every day under the command of her mother. Later, after going to school, I had to squeeze out time to work first and then write homework.
She studied very well, and with almost no effort, she was able to get the first place in the class and write beautifully.
Her cousin's homeroom teacher was her other cousin. The cousin teacher often praised the sixth wife for how smart and sensible her granddaughter was.
But the sixth wife always laughed: What is the use of girls being so smart? Raising daughters is all about raising children for others!
The cousin gradually understood what it meant to "raise a child for someone else". She very much wanted to say to her grandmother: "Then I will not get married in the future, and I will not go to someone else's house, so will you be satisfied?" ”
This sentence, she did not say it until her grandmother died, but she did it. She had never married in her life.
At the age of 14, my cousin did the first thing that made people stumble: she ran away from home!
It was her first time running away.
It wasn't until after she left that her family learned that she had drawn a basket of paintings, all hidden in the corner of the wood room.
But no one knows who she learned to draw with? When was it drawn?
Probably in this extremely miserable human world for her, painting is the only thing that can soothe her.
All she paints is a kind of painting: Chang'e Running Moon.
Presumably she dreams of having a pair of wings, flying high, and leaving this home forever!
The cousin ran all the way to the provincial capital to find her teacher. It is said that the teacher promised to recommend her to work-study at the Academy of Fine Arts Affiliated High School.
Where is that teacher? Who is it? How could he have a relationship with the Academy of Fine Arts?
My cousin's family didn't understand this at all.
Not only that, but they couldn't understand why their cousin could paint.
In our family, four generations up, four generations down, and none of the eight generations of our ancestors have engaged in art. Cousin Whose genes did she inherit?
The cousin's grandfather was mad for the first time and stepped forward to stop the cousin from continuing on the wrong path.
Her 14-year-old cousin was quickly transferred to an unfamiliar place and monitored by a new teacher who prevented her from drawing again.
Her family has designed a life path for her, whether her cousin wants to or not.
How the cousin fought against her family in those years, we don't know the details.
I only know that when I was 17 years old, my cousin ran away from home for the second time, and the purpose was to paint.
She went out to a studio in the city and a month later was sent home due to illness.
Her cousin was weak from an early age, and her mother not only left her with scars, but also ruined her health to the extreme.
At the age of 18, my cousin almost died!
She suffered from severe depression, directly due to the failure of her first love, and the auxiliary cause was the hopeless future.
The cousin and the boy (hereinafter referred to as A) met at the new school.
She was 14 years old and A was 15 years old. The first time my cousin ran away from home, it was done with the help of A.
The following year, A went to study in a foreign country, and the two could only communicate by letter. It is not a first love, the two are writing letters to encourage each other.
A is mostly sympathetic to the cousin's suffering, but not love. So at the age of 17, A was in a relationship with other girls.
The second time my cousin ran away from home at the age of 17, it was also related to A.
A told his cousin in the letter that he was not going to continue his school and was going out to explore the world.
The cousin decided to fight with him. She was anxious to use her skills to get a job, become independent, and marry A.
But she worked silently here, but the family had a formal relationship with the daughter of a secretary.
When the cousin found out, she completely collapsed.
People her age are fighting for the college entrance examination, but she lies in bed all day, looking at the leaves outside the window, she refuses to take medicine, refuses to seek medical treatment, and is bent on death.
Her mother was frightened and urged her to see a doctor and take medicine.
Her grandmother wiped her tears and said, "You're going to put yourself in peace." Sick, hurt, no one can do for you.
The cousin was indifferent and made up her mind to end this short and funless life.
At this critical time, a 20-year-old young man appeared and finally rescued his cousin from the mire.
Let's call him B. He was also a middle school classmate of his cousin, two years older than her, and was already working at the time. He had heard about his cousin from other classmates, and he had come to visit him out of good intentions.
The two have more contact, and B likes her cousin more and more, but she doesn't know that her aunt is dead to her feelings.
I don't know what method he used, but in short, the cousin regained her strength.
More than half a year later, the family was afraid that she would stay at home and become ill repeatedly, so they quickly found someone to arrange a job for her and let her go to work.
When she was 19 years old, my cousin went out to work, but she didn't have the heart to go to work at all, and every day she just nodded, and all her time was spent drawing and learning to paint.
That's three years.
Three years later, my cousin was 22 years old. She decided to do it.
She found A, who had not been in contact for a long time, and no one knew how the two negotiated. As a result, A took out a sum of money and lent it to her cousin to study painting at the Academy of Fine Arts.
By the way, A was 23 years old at the time, not married, and had no girlfriend. It was probably after the breakup that he discovered little by little that the person he really loved turned out to be a cousin, but he didn't have the face to look for her.
Now that she was here, he was overjoyed and responsive.
The cousin took the money and said that she would not borrow his money in vain, and that she would come back to marry him after completing her studies.
A mouth said: At that time, if you have a better choice, you will go. If not, you come back and we get married.
His intention was not to take advantage of people's dangers. Unfortunately, he said the wrong thing, and his cousin also misunderstood him, thinking that he still did not love himself.
In this way, with the support of A, my cousin entered the Academy of Fine Arts, worked hard, and finally was admitted to the Academy of Fine Arts, becoming a college student studying art.
My cousin was an elderly young man who was actually admitted to college!
This not only shocked all her family members, but also stunned the whole family.
You must know that at her age, others are busy getting married and having children, but she became a college student and changed her fate.
My cousin's grandmother smiled every time she was greeted and accepted compliments from others.
Although my cousin's grandfather and father did not say anything, they were also very proud in their hearts.
The only embarrassment was her cousin's mother, who began to secretly learn how to please her daughter so that she would not recognize herself in the future.
For the first time, the cousin raised her eyebrows and exhaled, and her wonderful life had just begun.
(To be continued)
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