（1）
There is indeed a kind of person in this world, the one who is under-beaten, the one who is under-packed;
You don't clean him up, he stinks and his mouth is unobstructed;
Expose your shortcomings, mock your flaws, and be unscrupulous;
You clean him up a little, cure him, and he is immediately honest;
However, how to clean up such people is very knowledgeable.
（2）
At the 2022 US Oscars, there was a scene of violence;
According to the custom of international festivals such as the Oscars;
The atmosphere is based on lightness and humor.
There will be a need for a host who is good at live entertainment and good at manipulating the mood of the guests;
But such amusing, joking, playing terriers must be just right;
If it is used improperly and touches the taboos of others, it will have the opposite effect.
On the day of the festival, the host was the American comedian Chris Lee. Locke;
And the actor who won the Oscar for best actor was Will. Smith;
This person is an old actor, the kind who gets the award and gets the hand sour;
Although he has reached middle age, he still took the Oscar trophy;
Strength can not be underestimated.
At the beginning, Chris was on the stage as usual, constantly playing with the terrier, making jokes that made the guests laugh;
After a few words, Chris mentions Smith's wife, Jada;
“jada, I love you;”
“G I Jane 2 can’t wait to see it all right”.
(Waiting for your wonderful performance in "Devil Woman Soldier 2")
Smith's wife has been suffering from the disease because of the chemotherapy that has led to the onset of the disease;
And the actress in this film, Daisy Moore, shaved her hair;
Chris was actually joking about Smith's wife's bald head.
The people in the audience laughed and disagreed;
Unexpectedly, Smith, who was sitting under the stage, suddenly strode onto the stage without a word;
Didn't wait for Chris to react;
Just bang twice;
A slap in the face;
Then he walked down without looking back;
All the people stopped breathing in surprise....
（3）
Hitting people is a violent incident, and beating people comes at a price;
The price is that Smith was barred by the Oscar organizer, the Academy of Motion Picture Arts and Sciences, from attending any events held by the institution for the next decade;
And if Chris sues Smith, there is a high probability that Smith will be able to eat for several months in prison, plus a lot of compensation and fines.
People who know the inside story will cry out for Smith;
Because of her illness, Smith's wife was depressed and unable to live a normal life, and only insisted on living under the encouragement of her family;
Now a person, in order to enliven the atmosphere, is inappropriate and unscrupulous to expose the scars in front of everyone;
Base your own happiness on the pain of others;
Anyone else would be eager to come forward and beat him up before he was relieved.
People can be beaten, and violent incidents are not allowed by law;
The police will not care whether you are in a bad mood or not;
The law does not care whether you are excusable or not;
Hitting someone, no matter if there are a hundred reasons to defend themselves, must bear legal responsibility for the consequences.
（4）
So in the face of hateful jokes, bad ridicule, can you really only silence is gold?
Of course not;
In addition to violent means, dealing with the badness of others with an elegant posture is the most important lesson that everyone should learn.
The power of language is sometimes far greater than violence;
The other party can stab themselves with jokes and ridicule;
You also have to have the ability to fight back through language.
But this counterattack does not necessarily have to be tit-for-tat;
It can be gentle, elegant, relaxed, open-minded;
To retreat into advance, soft knives kill people, in order to make the other party painful;
Use anti-language, anti-metaphor, borrow force, knock on the side, sound east and west and other language skills, plus pretending to force, pretending, silently circling with the other party;
Not only not to be provoked by the other party, but to quietly pull the other party into the game they have set;
Pin the other party to the ground and can't stand it;
You'll win.
Smith can be unconcerned at first;
Then calmly walked up to the stage, shook Chris's hand, smiled and said:
Chris, I love you! (I love you too);
(Hint: Look, how enthusiastic I am, how open-minded I am)
However, it may disappoint you;
(Hint: Don't be complacent, who do you think you are?) How rare are you? ）
My wife, though ill for many years, suffered from illness and lost her beloved hair;
But it was still my favorite, and she only loved me.
(Hint: you mock her for having no hair, but in my mind there is no substitute)
So, Chris, you may be disappointed;
She won't be what you want.
(Hint: How old are you in the minds of others?) To be weighed)
In this way, hit the other party and express your disdain;
You are not embarrassed, embarrassment is the other party.
If the other party cannot receive the move, it cannot be rounded in time;
Then as the host, he was a failure;
Even if he can react and save his dignity, at least in his heart he knows that you are not easy to mess with;
Such a response is the most forceful.
（5）
Two people interacting, even if only one person has high enough emotional intelligence, this kind of accident will not occur;
However, many times we have to face undignified shorting and humiliation;
Violence may be effective, but at a legal cost;
Not cost-effective.
Communicate with people, even if it is an unintentional joke, it must be measured, and it is necessary to pay attention to five not mentioning:
Don't say anything about politics, race, skin color;
For example, whites, blacks, and yellow people, because of the controversy and ridicule caused by skin color, it is easy to arouse national emotions and produce group contradictions;
These deep-rooted differences have been incorporated into every inch of the skin;
It can only be understood, respected, not despised and ridiculed.
About culture, living habits, do not mention;
Some people like to eat bread, coffee, some people like to eat rice, eat meat, and some people just like to drink soup and eat steamed buns;
No one is good and no one is bad, no one is right and who is wrong, and no one is more right than anyone;
Respecting differences and keeping distance is the right way.
Do not mention physical defects or special diseases;
Some people grow ugly, eyes too small, mouth too big;
Someone is born with a genetic defect, polio, and walking lameness;
Don't think it's funny and funny, feel free to comment;
You think it's just funny, funny, but what you leave for others is trauma and pain.
About the disgraceful, undignified experiences of others, do not mention;
Someone confessed that the girl was rejected;
Someone once had their pants zippered open and you saw it;
Don't be outspoken in public comment;
You think it's nothing, but others think you're hateful.
Don't mention the pain points of others, the things that the heart cares about most;
Some people have failed in their marriages, and their inner pain has not yet healed;
Some people fail the college entrance examination, are unemployed, and are depressed;
You make fun of people lightly;
This is the intention to be beaten.
If your mouth is unobstructed, wait for the family to take advantage of the high wind and dark moon, and a group of people will blindfold you;
Dragged to the wilderness where the police are also difficult to find;
A punch and kick;
Give you some blood;
You owe someone a beating;
Hit you, well deserved!
(Author: Han Feng, MBA of East China Normal University/ Lyon Business School, Lyon Business School, European and American enterprise human resources director, if you read this article want to tell me your ideas, welcome to leave a message to me)