Everyone wants their life to sing all the way, but the reality is very bone-chilling.
The trough is an experience that almost everyone will have.
Many times, we only see the success and success of others, but we can't see the lows of others.
Because we only aspire to success and success, the low points of others will be selectively deleted in the subconscious, in addition, not all people are used to showing their wounds to others, and more people are used to licking their wounds alone.
We can't see, and that doesn't mean that others don't have lows.
It's just that some people have survived, and some people have been depressed since then.
People who have survived, people see only bright and beautiful, in fact, there are also troughs.
In this regard, those who are still in the trough will say that it is because of bad luck.
In fact, the so-called luck does not appear out of thin air, often related to a person's self-growth.
When at the low point, many people think that if someone can pull themselves, it would be good, but when a person does not have a correct understanding of the self, even if someone pulls themselves, it is useless.
The only one who can really help yourself is yourself.
In this life, the real nobleman is not someone else, but himself.
When you're at a low point, remember three sentences, and the sooner you understand, the better:
One: Learning to accept is the beginning of rebirth
When people encounter setbacks, they will always easily fall into regret and self-denial, constantly blaming themselves: "If only they hadn't done this in the first place", and then spending their time and energy on this problem, as if they were constantly entangled in this problem, they can be as if it did not happen.
In fact, such entanglements are meaningless and can make a person more and more negative,
According to psychology, the reason why a person is constantly entangled in the past is because he cannot accept the current situation.
Many people think that accepting the bad side is to bow to fate, that is, to compromise, so that life is no longer possible to get better.
In fact, if one cannot accept the present result, even if one can go back in time, one will make the same choice and end up the same, simply because one does not really recognize the problem.
In fact, the choices made by a person often reflect a person's cognition.
Acceptance is not to compromise with a bad life, but to dare to face setbacks and failures.
The reason why people avoid and fear failure is that they regard success as too important, thinking that the meaning of life is only success, and second, they think that setbacks and failures have only negative and negative effects.
However, such a recognition is one-sided, the pursuit of success is beyond reproach, but anyone, any kind of success has failed, has experienced setbacks, success is based on failure and setbacks, we go all out for one thing, does not mean that it will necessarily succeed, but if you do not go all out, even the opportunity to succeed.
Is it unsuccessful, and the efforts that have been made have been in vain? Of course not, hard work brings us not only results, but also in this process, every detail, every moment brings touch, satisfaction, and further cognition of things and life, these are positive meanings.
For example, if you are frustrated, you can only see that the other party does not love you, in fact, it also shows that the other party is not as good as you think, and it is not worth your efforts, you should be glad that you have this opportunity to see each other clearly, you can stop the loss in time.
And repeated setbacks in the work, you only see that others are unfair to you, in fact, it is a reminder to learn to empathize, you do this, you will find the problem, and then change.
When a person does what is said above, he has the courage to face failures and setbacks, and he has the courage to start over, at this time, he has begun to come out of the trough.
Two: If a person abandons his principles and bottom lines, he will fall into the abyss
When people are at a low point, they can easily develop anxiety, and the more setbacks they suffer, the stronger their desire for success will be.
At this time, the will of man is often the most fragile.
When people are vulnerable, their will will will be easily eroded and crushed by lust.
In order to prove themselves, but also in order to succeed, do not want to bear failure, do not want to pay too much sunk costs, afraid that they can not afford to lose, so they will take risks and choose shortcuts.
And such shortcuts are often based on abandoning principles and bottom lines.
When one is free from the shackles of principles and bottom lines, the illusion of freedom arises.
But in fact, this feeling of doing whatever you want will not make a person truly successful, but will lead a person into the abyss.
Seemingly doing whatever you want, is to respect your own performance, in fact, you have given up on yourself, chose to become a tool of desire, lost your true freedom, faced with desire, you can only choose to obey, there is no freedom to refuse.
When you are in a trough, you need to keep your principles and bottom line, so that you can go further.
Those who give up their principles and bottom lines in order to gain fame and fortune seem to have a glamorous life, but they often go far.
The more there are no principles and bottom lines, the more there is no chance of rebirth, and it seems to have come out of the trough, but it is actually going towards the abyss.
For example, some people feel that their marriage is not happy, they betray the marriage, thinking that by doing so, they can make up for the lack of marriage and satisfy their own selfish desires, but they do not know that it will only make the marriage fall into a greater crisis, and the gap between husband and wife will be difficult to heal.
But if we choose to keep our principles and bottom line when facing crises and difficulties, responsibly and patiently to face and solve, the temporary crisis and difficulties are just a test in a long life, if we withstand the test, we will come out of the trough, and the days to come will only get better and better.
Three: When something gets worse and worse, it often means it's not far from getting better
In the face of setbacks and failures, many people are afraid not of temporary setbacks and failures, but of failure or more and more setbacks, which will slowly destroy a person's will and make people have to give up their lives.
In real life, many people who are in the trough and face life negatively are often not the first time to encounter setbacks and failures, but continuously, constantly encounter setbacks and failures, and they have also tried to face positively, but always backfired.
In fact, before anything gets better, we must eliminate those bad factors, so that we can achieve real success, and the final success, all the suffering, is to pave the way for the final success.
Just as the fragrance of plum blossoms comes from the bitter cold, how can it proudly bloom on the branches and lead the way without experiencing the test of wind and snow?
When people are at a low point, they always feel that they are on the verge of collapse, thinking that they only need to persist a little longer, but they do not know that there are still greater setbacks to face.
If people choose to give in and give up on themselves because of this, even the bitter persistence of the past will become meaningless.
When people are at a low point, they must understand a truth, that is, when a thing becomes worse and worse, it often means that it is not far from getting better.
Everything will have a limit, including bad things, when life is too bad to be bad, as long as you always believe that you will get better, stick to your beliefs, never give up on yourself, you will slowly get better.
Those who have always had a bad life are more because they have given up on themselves.
If a person gives up on herself, she often sees only the bad.
If a person has a bad mentality, it is difficult to do anything well, and it is naturally difficult to succeed.
And those who can bottom out and rebound at the trough are not because their encounters are not as serious as yours and not as much as yours, but because the other party has achieved the above three points.
In fact, ruining a person's life is never a trough period, but a mentality of facing a trough.
Before doing anything, we must be mentally prepared to face the results of the opposite, this is not negative, pessimistic, but dare to face the reality, such a person, even in the face of setbacks and failures, can also face positively, can restore morale in a short period of time, rekindle confidence in life.
No matter what happens, there is only one direction in a person's life, that is, to move forward.
No matter what kind of setbacks and failures you encounter, as long as you are firm in moving forward, you can always cross the past.
When you are at a low point, remember these three sentences, the sooner you understand the better.
The sooner you understand, the less time and energy you waste on unnecessary entanglements.
Some people say that such a thing is always said lightly, and I don't know how difficult it is to really do it.
However, those who can't do it either don't try at all, or their beliefs are not firm enough.
Since we are already at the trough of life, why can't we let go?
Instead of reacting negatively, it is better to come out in a different way.