It is an unforgivable thing for a man to cheat on his wife during pregnancy and lactation, but such things are not uncommon in real life, and there are many such cases in the emotional counseling I have taken over.
So, what should a woman do if she finds out that her husband is cheating during pregnancy or breastfeeding?
On this issue, I would like to share with you a fan contribution.
Disclaimer: This article was published with the consent of fans. The following is the original text of the fan contribution:
I found out that my husband was cheating on the second day of giving birth. He stayed up late to take care of me all night, I could touch his mobile phone, I did not expect that such a "good man" who was busy in the hospital would actually go to the cannon, and even the last time he asked the cannon was three days before I gave birth, he also transferred 1314 to the woman.
Seeing this, I felt very disgusting, when I was pregnant and tortured, he went to the bed of another woman, I felt that something in my heart suddenly shattered; coupled with the postpartum body pain, hormone stimulation, I was extremely embarrassed, I really don't know what to do next. I want to divorce but when I think of my newborn child, I can't bear it, I don't want to divorce and I feel that my husband is very disgusting, and even if he touches me, I can't stand it, and I don't know how to continue living with him in the future.
Under the coincidence of opportunity, I brushed a small red book that provides online emotional counseling services, and I thought that the situation was already so bad anyway, it was better to go to emotional counseling, and so on.
Unexpectedly, this emotional counseling really saved me from the pain and allowed me to cross this hurdle.
The person who gave me the counseling was Enron, lemon psychology's emotional counselor, and the whole counseling process was very comfortable:
At the beginning I was a little excited, my speech was a little confused, the counselor had been listening to me carefully, relieved my emotions, told me that it was the man who was wrong, and it was he who should be punished, not me, I couldn't always be trapped in negative emotions, I had to cheer up;
The counselor also gave me an analysis of the current situation, telling me that the man's cheating during pregnancy shows that his loyalty to marriage is extremely low, and there are polygamous tendencies, it is difficult to say whether he will cheat again in the future, if I do not divorce, I need to discipline my husband well and repair my inner trauma; if I decide to divorce, I must collect good evidence and consider the problem of good children, as long as the child can get enough love, divorce is not inevitable.
In short, the counselor told me the stakes of the two choices of divorce and non-divorce, and what to do depends on my heart.
After clearing my mind and thinking about it for two days, I decided to give myself and him a chance to try to change his marriage with us. So I went to the counselor again and told her about my decision, and this time the counselor analyzed the problems in my marriage in detail, and formulated a detailed marriage rescue plan, a healing plan for emotional trauma, and a strategy for disciplining my husband.
Slowly, under the guidance of the counselor, my relationship with him eased, he also realized his problems, sincerely confessed to me, and our marriage gradually returned to the right track.
The above is the full text of the fan manuscript.
In fact, on the issue of marriage, many women are not sober enough, on the one hand, they complain that they are unhappy, on the other hand, they do not know how to improve the status quo, and they are suffering in a painful marriage and constantly consuming themselves.
In this case, you can go to emotional counseling, listen to the opinions of professionals, maybe they can help you and get you out of the painful state of marriage, so give yourself a chance.
May you cherish the loved ones around you, learn to love, give love, and harvest love.
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