Speaking of children's emotions, the most common problem is that our child collapses and cries when he is not satisfied, how to coax him to be bad, how to teach him to do emotional management?
It is true that children's emotions are fickle, and the words that everyone in the mother group like to use are the terrible two-year-old, the terrible three-year-old, the intolerable four-year-old... All of this points to the children's unstable emotions.
So as a parent, when the child is angry and loses his temper, how to channel the child's emotions?
Here are six golden rules for dealing with your child's angry tantrums, hoping to help you.
When your child loses his temper, don't challenge him again
In the face of children's anger and tantrums, many times parents will choose to challenge them again or fight back with greater anger.
Parents feel that their authority is being challenged, so they must find ways to suppress their children and regain control. As everyone knows, such an approach will only increase your sense of loss of control.
When conflict occurs, the most sensible way to deal with it is to maintain calm. Challenging children when they are angry is like throwing an open flame at a pile of firecrackers, which will only ignite a bigger explosion.
Don't try to be reasonable
Most parents will try to communicate with their children when they lose their temper.
As adults, we are accustomed to defusing tension through rational analysis, but it is often a big challenge for children. Because the child's brain is in the period of reptilian brain and emotional brain control, the rational brain is still in the development stage, so it is impossible to use reason to solve problems when emotions erupt.
So when dealing with an angry child, please give up the communication style you are accustomed to, and wait for them to gradually calm down before trying to communicate with them.
Pay attention to the body's reaction
When conflict comes, stay calm so that you don't challenge your child loudly, or put yourself and your child in a power struggle that escalates.
When you have emotions, you can pay attention to your physical reactions, and when you pay attention to your own physical reactions, it will also help your child learn to pay attention to their own physical reactions, help children better identify and label emotions, and learn to manage their emotions.
Never use physical violence against your child
If you are rude to your child, you are actually teaching your child to use violence to solve his own problems.
When you were a kid you could suppress him, and then grow up, he would respond to you in the same way, and the gain would not be worth the loss.
Take a different approach to younger children
If your little one is between 16 months and four years old and they are throwing a tantrum, you can stay away from him quietly, but don't isolate them.
When your child is restless, we can try to help them adjust their emotions: "You can try to lie on the couch for a while, maybe you will feel more comfortable" until the child gradually calms down.
Learning to get along with emotions is not only what children need to learn, but also what every parent needs to learn.
Demonstrate well in the right way when you're angry
What are some great ways to deal with emotions? Parents should try to properly deal with their anger in front of their children, which can play a good role model.
You can say something like, "I can't talk to you right now, I'm really irritable, I'll wait until I calm down and come back and we'll talk about it later" or "I'm feeling angry now, I'll go and take a break first."
Admitting that you're angry and that you need some time to calm down isn't a sign of cowardice, it's about solving problems and conflicts.
Parents are the best role models for their children.
In the child's education, the more children we can accommodate, the child will also accommodate his emotions and his own life in the future, just as we can accommodate him, and this tolerance will be beneficial to the child's life.
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