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Zhang Ailing said: "For the rest of your life, don't fall in love with someone easily. ”
Have you often heard people around you say that if you like someone, you have to let the other person know. If the other person also likes himself, everyone is happy. If the other person doesn't like him, he should let go.
"Like, don't fight for always be just a person; go to fight, but can't be together, show that you and him have no fate." 」
But reality is not as easy as talking.
Because, liking someone may only take a second, and forgetting someone can take a month, a year, or even a lifetime.
What impressed me most about Jin Yong's novel "Chivalrous Journey", in addition to Shi Baotian's experience on the rivers and lakes, was that sadistic love triangle. Jin Yong has a lot of regrettable feelings in his pen, and there are also regrets that a pair of lovers cannot eventually become a family.
For example, in "Lian Cheng Tips", Ding Dian and Ling Shuanghua are a pair of mandarin ducks with a bitter fate, and both of them love each other deeply. But God didn't seem to like they fell in love, Ling Shuanghua's father broke up a pair of lovers for his own purposes, and let them both die tragically, and the ending was so tragic. Than the love between Liang Shanbo and Zhu Yingtai, it makes me feel regret and heartache.
The clever and beautiful Mei Fanggu in "Chivalrous" has always liked Shi Qing, but Shi Qing does not have the feeling of a lover for her, but likes her sister Min Rou.
Love will make a person lose his original sanity, no matter who it is, no matter how smart and capable a person is, when she encounters love, she will become less like her original self.
Even after twenty years have passed, even if Shi Qing's two children have grown up, she still wants to ask the question of twenty years ago, why not choose me? At the end of the novel, she asks Shi Qing several questions:
"Who was my beauty and Min Rou's appearance back then?"
If the question is Wei Xiaobao, who he may be with will say that she is beautiful.
Shi Qing was different from Wei Xiaobao and Zhang Wuji, he thought for half a day, and said in front of his wife: Although Neizi's appearance is not evil, it is not as good as you
。 Everyone likes to listen to good words and hear others praise themselves, especially the people they like to praise themselves for being good-looking.
I think Mei Fanggu must have been happy in her heart when she heard such words.
She then asked:
"Compared to Min Rou's martial arts, who is stronger?"
"Who is higher in literature?"
"The skill of needlework and the skill of cooking, I am not as good as this Min family girl."
No matter how much you ask about martial arts, about your level of education, about doing housework, and about your appearance, Shi Qing answered frankly: She is not as good as you.
Now that you've got the answer, knowing that you're better than the other person, you should maintain your arrogant self-esteem and turn away. I'm so good, you can't see that I'm blind to you.
Mei Fanggu finally asked a question without an answer:
"Since I'm so good, why don't you like me?"
"Why do you always have a cold and not half-good color when you see me, but you talk and laugh with your sister?" Why? ”
We all know that love cannot be forced. Like is like, dislike is dislike.
There is a saying: "There are always such lovers in the world, you don't love you, you don't love you, and you can't be together." ”
Loving and not loving someone, there is not so much why. Why is there always a part of the people who fall in love and can't extricate themselves, we must ask each other, why am I so good, so good, you don't like me?
Just like Shi Qing heard such a question, he estimated that he was also helpless. It can only be said:
"Miss Mei, I don't know... I'm with you, ashamed of myself, and unworthy of you. ”
I prefer to believe that the front is his heart.
Not to like is not to like, there are not many reasons. If you have to ask a reason why you don't like it, except that I don't deserve you myself, it's that you're not my type. No matter which answer, you won't get the answer you want.
Feelings are your love and my wishes, just like "turnip cabbage, each has its own love." ”
What is love?
I think that a long life, with the person who loves you, then there is love and affection.
However, some people in love will be stupid, will fall into extremes, and must be rooted in the question of no answer. They will feel that the other party has no vision, why can't they look at the excellent self. They don't know that there aren't so many reasons to like someone.
Write to the end
Falling in love with someone doesn't need a reason, because we can't tell for ourselves, why would we fall in love with someone?
Maybe it's a momentary heartbeat, maybe it's a look from the other party, maybe it's a sentence from the other party........
In the matter of love, no one is right or wrong, love is a kind of fate.
Let's not drill the tip of the bull's horn and let ourselves live in pain. Everyone has their own destiny. A lifetime is very long, and to be with the person you love, life is more meaningful.
The person you love doesn't love you, it's not that you're not good enough, you just haven't become the one who makes his heart move.
Let go of the entanglement and find the heart that really belongs to you, your fate is on the way.