"People have sorrows and joys, and the moon has clouds and sunshine, and this matter is difficult to complete."
When I was in junior high school, I read Su Shi's "Water Tune Song Head" in the textbook, and I didn't understand it very well. With the growth of age and life experience, I gradually realized the deep meaning expressed in Su Shi's words, and the aftertaste was endless.
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Life is not satisfactory nine times out of ten, career, family, appearance... There will be all sorts of imperfections. Although no one is perfect, how you deal with imperfections determines the direction of your progress.
If you dare to face and accept it calmly, at least it means that you have taken the first step towards maturity.
Life is normal
Ji Xianlin once wrote in the book: "Everyone strives for a complete life. However, from ancient times to the present, at home and abroad, there is no one hundred percent complete life, so imperfection is the norm in life. ”
The toys that you can't get when you are a child, the unsatisfactory test results; the confusion of entering society when you grow up, the huge gap between ideals and reality; the unsatisfactory career after entering middle age, the pressure of your family; the decline and loneliness of your body after entering old age...
At every stage of life, there are always troubles and unsatisfactory, and it always seems so imperfect.
And we always seem to be obsessed with our own imperfections, but ignore the beauty we have, blindly look up to the happiness of others, in fact, look back, what you experience is not necessarily bad.
The moon is lacking, and the water is overflowing. Imperfection is the norm, and it's actually a kind of perfection.
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Accept imperfection
"There will be a program in the wood of the ruler, and there will be flaws in the jade of the inch."
This sentence in "Lü's Spring and Autumn Classics and Departures from the Vulgar" shows that everything in the world has its own shortcomings, and it is impossible to be perfect.
A foot of wood will have knotted scars; an inch of jade will have flaws.
But from another point of view, it is precisely because of the knotted scars that the trees are tougher and more able to withstand the wind and rain, and the jade is also because of its fragility, which is highlighted in value.
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In the movie "The Pianist at Sea", the protagonist was abandoned on a cruise ship in 1900, raised by the boilermaker on the ship, and he has extraordinary musical talent.
He had no original family, no parents, no relatives, no one knew where he came from, only drifted with a big ship, never went to the shore, but he was the happiest, with the purest freedom, and on the ship, he also had insight into life.
The protagonist 1900 could have disembarked to show his musical talent to the world, gained countless fame and fortune, and chased his beloved girl.
But the story ends with giving up the ship several times in 1900 and finally dying at sea with the ship.
It wasn't a perfect ending, but it was perfect—1900 held on to its purity and didn't let itself get bogged down in reality.
This "imperfect" plot also makes "The Pianist of the Sea" a classic masterpiece.
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Be braver
Romain Roland once said: "There is only one kind of heroism in the world, and that is to love life after knowing the truth." ”
People live a lifetime, mentality is very important.
Life cannot be complete, life cannot be satisfactory, and it is precisely because of these unsatisfactory and imperfections that there will be some pursuit.
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Zhang Mengqiu, a Chinese athlete who won the women's super slalom-standing competition in the beijing Winter Paralympic Games some time ago, suffered from pediatric cerebral palsy, resulting in certain motor dysfunction.
However, she loved sports and eventually became a disabled athlete.
At the age of 14, Zhang Mengqiu was exposed to alpine skiing, and because of physical reasons, Zhang Mengqiu's reaction speed was slower than others. It takes her two or three times as much time to master the movements that others can learn in an hour.
With a strong spirit of not accepting defeat, under the hard training and repeated technical actions, Zhang Mengqiu was selected for the national team, and has gradually entered a better state since then.
Zhang Mengqiu once said that her dream was to stand on the highest podium of the Beijing 2022 Winter Paralympic Games, and it took her 6 years to realize her dream and live out what she wanted.
China News Service reporter Han Haidan photographed
Facing it calmly is the first step to get up and go. Of course, there will be many difficulties and obstacles in the future, and the thorns will be overgrown. But you who abandon yourself, feel self-pity, and go light on the road have taken the first step in a mature life.
May you and I be able to face our imperfections calmly. Also through hard work, live out what they want,
Everyone has only a unique life, and you are the protagonist of your life.
(Source: Sino-Singapore Sports WeChat public account Author: Bian Liqun)