Being human, being "cold" in these few things, being too enthusiastic is a sin

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A writer once said that we will one day live like the most indifferent, just like when winter comes, the blue waves and rivers are already frozen.

As a person, is it better to be enthusiastic or indifferent? In fact, people of different ages have different opinions.

Young people think it is better to be a person or be enthusiastic. People who are not enthusiastic enough will not be able to get the attention of others, nor can they enter the social circle and make more friends.

In the eyes of young people, the essence of enthusiasm is just the basis of social integration.

And mature middle-aged and elderly people feel that it is better to be indifferent. Being too enthusiastic is nothing more than a form of self-satisfaction. Even if others pay attention to you, it is just a show, what is it?

For people in the world, we have to live for ourselves, warm to the people we love, indifferent to strangers, and grasp a degree of doing things, which will make us live more really.

In the eyes of mature people, it is a sin to waste the slightest bit of true feelings.

People, as long as they have experienced it, will naturally understand the truth of "people's hearts are like frost".

Being human, being "cold" in these few things, being too enthusiastic is a sin.

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To be a person, we must be cold in the matter of "sociality".

In your opinion, is it better to be a person, or is it better not to be a sociable person?

There is no fixed answer to this question. Some people are good at socializing, then he will definitely think it is better to be social. And some people are not good at socializing, then he must feel that it is best not to fit in. Different people have different choices.

It's just that different people, they can all converge on one issue, that is, to live a little "cold".

People who are good at socializing have to live a little colder because they don't have to put too much energy into unnecessary circles, which is useless. True socialization should be precise, not rampant.

People who are not good at socializing want to live a little colder because they don't have to feel lonely, and they are used to being cold to strangers, which is a mature choice.

If he is overly enthusiastic about anyone, he is either a hypocritical person or a naïve and naïve person. The former will cause harm to people, while the latter will provoke unnecessary contradictions between right and wrong, and finally harm themselves.

Therefore, giving ourselves a cold armor will protect us for the rest of our lives.

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To be a person, we must be cold on the matter of "borrowing money".

Someone else asks you to borrow money, and he is still your relative, so do you borrow it or not?

Some people will feel that the other party is their own relatives, not to borrow is not embarrassed, I believe that he will also repay the money in time, so they will lend to relatives willingly.

Some people will feel that lending to the other party may not be able to get it back, but choosing not to borrow, and they are not embarrassed to refuse, so it is better to lend to the other party.

As long as it is a person who attaches importance to feelings, he will definitely be emotional and lend money to so-called relatives and friends at will.

For the matter of borrowing money, we need to maintain such a principle, and save the emergency and not save the poor.

If the other party has an emergency, such as to cure the disease, to deal with something urgent, then we lend them money, which is a good deed. On the other hand, if the other party borrows money to speculate in stocks, or invest, then we can't borrow, otherwise the bamboo basket will be empty.

To be cold is to let us learn to "refuse". To be a rational, know how to refuse, that is the courage and wisdom that time brings us.

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To be a person, we must be cold on the matter of "treating people and things".

In this life, there is only one subject-------------------------------------------------

In terms of dealing with the world, we will slowly develop the mentality of "everyone sweeps the snow in front of the door and takes care of the frost on the tiles of others".

For this kind of behavior, there are actually many people who are against it. They will feel that if they only take care of themselves, will they be too selfish? As a person, shouldn't you learn to give and learn to contribute to others?

Dedication and contribution, that's a pattern. Of course, we also need to find people worth dedicating ourselves to. For families, we cannot have reservations. And for outsiders, then we don't have to care too much.

Everyone has their own choices, and we can't interfere with others. We have our own path to take, others have their own path to go, each one is good, why bother?

Especially in the workplace, what colleagues do, that's their business. What we do is our own deliberate choice. Different concepts do different things. In this way, let each go, each free, then it will be enough.

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To be human, be cold on the matter of "desire".

A Zen master has said that desire is like fire, and delusion is like a fountain.

All desires, like flames, when appropriate, will make us feel warm. When exaggerated, it will make us extremely hurt, and even appear to be regurgitated by desire.

All delusions, like the abyss, make us unable to see the road ahead, but we can easily fall into it, not only eroded by darkness, but also unable to return to the original place.

People, or less desire, more bland is better. All the pain of life does not come from failure, but from the indulgence of desire.

For example, making money, in fact, earning almost can be, there is no need to see others earn so much, they also have to earn so much. Just think, others can earn millions a month, do we have to force ourselves so much?

Happiness, after all, must follow the principle of "moderation". And a little colder, to the dry and hot heart, will make you and me usher in the rest of the rest of your life.

Wen/Shushan has deer