She's been a man for 28 years, and a woman for another 26 years.
Received three marriage licenses, raised three children,
Once had a wife,
The second and third marriages were still with the same man.
Venus is well known to the public for its sharp and poisonous tongue,
But I have to say that she herself is both beautiful and wise,
This charm spans gender, unique and eye-catching,
Her life is a complete work of art.
From the boy's body to the beautiful woman, what has this high-profile dancer experienced?
01
In 1967, Venus was born into a military family in Shenyang, Liaoning Province.
Mother gentle housekeeper can also sing and dance,
Father is solemn and silent but not harsh,
The whole family is full of tolerance, open-mindedness and respect,
In such an atmosphere,
He developed the habit of independent thinking.
Before the age of five, my father was busy with military affairs.
The mother took her sister to live with him alone.
Go to the women's bathhouse when you take a bath,
Occasionally wearing my sister's little skirt, which is very common.
Little Venus has no objection to this and will even dislike that the trick is not novel enough,
I crept myself to sew beautiful lace with needle and thread for my little skirt.
His happiness came to an abrupt halt after his father returned to the family,
Already a big child, he could only go to the men's bathhouse with his father to take a bath.
Every time he saw a room full of naked men, he couldn't help but blush,
I was so embarrassed that I wanted to hurry home.
He wondered why he had to go to the men's bathhouse.
Why is it necessary to shave your hair short,
Why can't he wear a skirt, why is he different from others?
His psychology produced the germ of gender awareness,
But the physical and psychological conflict makes him both entangled and afraid,
Clever little Venus hid his abnormality.
Went to elementary school,
When the boys in the class were running wild on the football field and basketball court,
Little Venus likes to play with the girls with jumping bands, flip ropes and even go to the toilet together.
once
His parents took his sister and him to the opera,
As soon as Xi'er of "The White-Haired Girl" appeared, she was deeply fascinated by Little Venus,
It turns out that there really are such beautiful characters in the world.
Shocked, he could not suppress the desire in his heart,
Without thinking, he said, "Mom, I want to learn to dance." ”
Mother smiled only when he was playing, on a whim,
In her heart, boys have no future in learning dance,
My son should find a safe and stable job in the future.
But after returning home, Venus began to look for materials to learn,
Every day, I press my legs and lower my waist to practice basic skills, and get up early and greedy.
Try to imitate the dance performance on TV,
He also went to visit the cultural and labor corps of the Golden Father's army.
Mother felt his seriousness,
I really can't bear to see my beloved son cautious because he is not supported,
I couldn't help but say, "Well, as long as you don't regret it, if you like to dance, go dancing!" ”
The mother agreed and gave more than verbal encouragement,
He also helped him find a professional dance teacher.
With the guidance of the teacher, he took a lot of detours,
At a young age, he not only had talent, but also feared hardships.
He joined the People's Liberation Army at the age of nine to learn dance and military skills,
At the age of 11, he entered the Forward Song and Dance Troupe of the Political Department of the Shenyang Military Region.
The time in the army is enriched and beautiful,
He strives like a sponge to absorb knowledge and energy,
Here, the patriotic feelings of rigor, positivity and loyalty to the motherland also remained in his subconscious.
As they grew older, the children of the song and dance troupe reached the time when the love sinus first opened.
There are even many girls who have sent him love letters,
But after getting along, it became a sisterhood.
The development of puberty also bothered him very much,
Every day he fantasizes that he can wake up and become a girl.
Or a bolt of lightning appeared out of nowhere and split him into a girl,
He would never have to worry about it anymore.
In 1979, the People's Liberation Army Academy of Arts resumed running its school.
The 16-year-old Venus insert board joined the 79 B class.
He was the youngest in the class and was often taken care of.
One after another, the tall, handsome, gentle squad leader lingered in his sight,
Always can't help but secretly pay attention,
The height difference between the two allows Venus to always look up at each other silently.
Occasionally rubbing shoulders during the laughter and fighting, calling him a brother and a brother let him enjoy it.
But he knew very well,
Your own heartbeat can never be known to the other party, otherwise even your friends can't do it.
Suppress the bitter mood of the first love that ends without illness,
He devoted himself to learning to dance.
This helplessness and unwillingness also brought him the inspiration to create,
Letting go of his children's love, he constantly refreshed his achievements in the dance competition,
He became the best dance graduate in the military arts.
Shortly after graduation, Venus created a new dance genre - "Men's Tiptoe Dance".
In the same year, he won the gold medal at the first Tao Li Cup.
After winning the award, he performed abroad on behalf of the song and dance troupe many times.
International fame.
He wasn't satisfied with that,
After seeing the wonderful world outside, I found more deficiencies in myself,
He chose to continue his studies and went to Guangdong Dance School to learn modern dance.
In 1988, he was recommended by the school to go to the United States to study modern dance.
Not only can you worship under louis, a modern dance master,
He also became the first mainland dancer to receive a full scholarship in the United States, breaking new history.
Venus cherishes this opportunity,
The strong overseas artistic atmosphere and enlightened environment make him very longing,
Although I learned English very late, the spoken language is not standard,
But even walking on the streets of Europe and the United States, his confident and bright face also makes him bright,
The return rate is two hundred percent.
Talent and strength is the capital of his pride,
No matter where he learns, he will always be the most dazzling being.
What's even more surprising is that
Venus found that homosexuality is a very common phenomenon in Europe and the United States,
There is no discrimination or scorn.
He realized he didn't have to worry.
You can show your true self,
He had long hair and a beautiful dress,
The whole world seemed to be brightening up with the mood.
02
The little famous Venus often follows the dance company to tour everywhere,
After a Texas performance,
Go to the bar with your colleagues to celebrate.
He suddenly noticed that there was a tall, bespectacled European and American man staring at him all the time.
At first he didn't care.
After all, he knew that everywhere he went he was noticeable.
Until they're going to leave the bar,
The man suddenly stepped forward.
Venus secretly drummed in his heart, afraid that his intentions would not be able to resist.
Just when he couldn't help but think about it,
This tall, strong man spoke,
The gentle gentleman asked if he could invite him to drink and chat.
This confirmed that it was a oolong,
Apologetically he agreed to the invitation.
I didn't expect them to be very talkative.
To Venus's surprise,
"He's not gay, he wants to date Venus because he thinks she's a girl inside," Ray said. ”
The words hit his soul, and the two of them couldn't have been more compatible.
After a few days of knowing each other, Ray became his boyfriend.
First time in love,
Even if you are calm and wise like Venus, you can't control yourself,
They stay together all day like all couples in love, like glue.
In order to meet with Kelei every day,
He pushed off his job in New York.
Moved to Texas to live with Corey,
Study recipes at home every day, clean up,
Wait for Ke Lei to come home and tell the interesting things around him.
At first Venus was happy, enjoying the joy of being a wife,
Even prepared to give up careers and dreams.
But
Soon the tedious repetition of the daily routine bored him,
The trivialities of life constantly cause quarrels, and the two gradually have no common topic.
Hot love fades passion, and reason slowly returns.
Corey took the lead in proposing a breakup,
The Venus he likes shouldn't be buried in life, and letting go is the best outcome.
Although this relationship ended regrettably,
But Corey was the first man to really read him,
He would always keep him deep in the memory album.
03
Back in New York,
Venus is still the dancer who is in full view,
As time passed, his position became more and more secure,
The dance career is in full swing, and the income is also very impressive.
But the visa problem is constant, can not be settled for a long time,
People around him suggested that he settle in the United States and find a way to get a green card.
It just so happened that classmate Kemperine and her boyfriend were worrying about the residence,
After discussing and discussing together, it was decided to let the two fake marriage.
After applying for a marriage license,
Kemperine moved into venus's apartment and began living together.
The IMMIGRATION office knocked on their doors every three to five minutes to interrogate them about the actual situation.
The most unacceptable thing is that
Within four years of marriage, he could not leave the United States one step before he could get his green card.
This means that he can't go on a tour of Europe.
Do you have to sacrifice your career and freedom for a green card?
Soon she made up her mind: this broken green card, don't stop it!
It didn't take long,
He received an invitation from the Italian national television station to be a choreographer,
Officially left New York and parted ways with Kemperin.
The two thought that separating for seven months would automatically be punished by divorce.
I didn't expect that,
It wasn't until ten years later that Venus received a call from Kemperine to get married.
Only then did the divorce procedure really go through.
Ending this absurd marriage, Venus focused on her dance career,
Working at a television station also brings some good news.
A performance on a television station,
He was admiring the dedicated figure of the hostess,
Suddenly, I heard someone gossiping on the side, and the female host on the stage was transgender.
Venus pricked up her ears, wanting to hear more.
This
The bud in his heart had grown into a towering tree.
He eagerly inquired about some relevant professional news,
Quick contact professionals for inspection tests,
Denaturation requires a test index of more than 80, while Venus is as high as 95 points.
Surprised, he advertised,
But friends and colleagues around him are very surprised, no one agrees with and supports him,
He didn't care and enjoyed the joy alone.
But what he cared about and worried about most was the idea of nurturing and nurturing his parents.
In 1995,
Venus came home and solemnly told his parents that he wanted to have sex reassignment surgery.
Unexpected
The mother said lightly: "Whether you are a boy or a girl, it is my child." ”
It seems that parents have expected it.
Father silently lit a cigarette,
He smoked this cigarette as if half a century had passed.
finally
He silently snuffed out the cigarette butt,
Raising his eyes, he said, "That's finally right, congratulations." ”
Venus breathed a sigh of relief,
Having the support of his family is very important to him.
Director Zhang Yuan learned of this news and contacted her,
I want to make her a film that records the whole process of her transgendering, "Miss Venus",
I also wanted to photograph her mental journey.
"Venus transgender" once became a hot topic of discussion among countless people.
Some people think: she has to make a movie for sex reassignment surgery.
This is sensationalism and eyeballs.
Venus dismissed these remarks: "It's not a dirty business, I have something to see!" ”
04
April 5, 1995,
Venus completed this important operation at Beijing Xiangshan Hospital in Beijing.
What is devastating is that
Sex reassignment surgery was very successful,
But due to the nurse's mistake, her left leg muscles and nerves were completely necrotic,
This degree has been able to be rated as grade II disabled.
She was not overwhelmed by fate,
Insist that the doctor develop a complete set of rehabilitation treatment plans.
Just like when you first started practicing dance, you can get up as many times as you fall.
Time passes day by day,
She switched from a wheelchair to a walking stick,
Then I threw away my crutches and walked freely, and it took only a year and a half,
Venus, who was diagnosed with no longer being able to dance, once again stood on the stage of shining.
Venus, which is already eye-catching, has become a woman's body and is even more charming.
The number of suitors is even more endless.
After a few years of living freely, she no longer pursues freedom,
She began to yearn for family life.
Under the attention of her mother, she successively adopted three children,
They were named the eldest son, Toot Toot, the second daughter Nini, and the younger son, The Younger Third.
After becoming a mother, the unscrupulous Venus has become quiet at home,
Friends came to visit her, and she didn't even know where to go.
In the face of the shock and confusion of friends,
Venus replied proudly, "I have that kung fu!" I'm a mommy! ”
Much after that, Venus raised three children alone,
But she was very proud of her talent for motherhood.
Changing diapers without a teacher,
Education is also based on the child's personality, which is completely enjoyable.
While her emotions have sustenance, she is also struggling for her dreams.
In 1999,
She founded China's first private modern dance group, Venus Dance Troupe.
Not only to stick to their dance dreams,
It is also a big umbrella for other dancers who are insisting.
The hardest time,
She also never thought about disbanding and giving up, gritting her teeth and insisting, not forgetting her original intention.
In order to survive the crisis,
4 million worth of property sold directly,
Elegant and unsure in her bones, she had not bought new clothes for three years.
She said: "I don't expect the dance troupe to feed me, all the money I earn has been given to this pure land." ”
Three years later,
She was hired by the United Nations as an artistic consultant at the Shanghai Oriental Art Center.
Then he took the dance troupe to Tour Europe, and the tour was a great success.
Her efforts were worth it.
Family happiness, career development is smooth, love is not to mention more.
In 2004, Venus flew back and forth to perform at home and abroad, as usual.
On this day,
She meets a tall, bookish German man.
The man took the initiative to introduce himself and say his name was Hans, talking to her all the way.
After a few days of knowing,
Hans pursued her, and Venus had a slight liking for him.
But she had to be honest: "You may not know that I used to be a man. ”
Hans didn't mind and was pleased with his honest trust.
In fact, according to her criteria for choosing a mate,
Hans does not match, not her "dish",
She likes manly, tall, brave and hormone-filled men.
Although Hans is equally tall,
But it seems weak and more bookish.
But after the two became acquainted, she invited Hans to come to the house as a guest.
That afternoon,
The light of dusk shines into the house through the transparent window and hits the man's shoulder,
He happened to pick up his young son.
This picture is warm and beautiful,
At that moment, Venus suddenly raised the desire to get married.
In fact, Venus originally had a boyfriend who was dating,
After considering whether to accept Hans's pursuit,
She resolutely decided to break up with her boyfriend Baska.
She believes that Hans is the right man to marry.
Baška, after learning the reason for the breakup, said that he wanted to meet Hans.
Surprisingly,
He wasn't unconvinced and wanted to fight or duel with him.
He invited Hans for a drink,
Like a family member, test Hans's character and charm.
The time between the cups and cups passes quickly,
Baška returned to Venus and told her, "This is a good man worth marrying." ”
Soon after,
The two entered the palace of marriage.
Venus once said: Falling in love and getting married are completely different,
The person you spend the rest of your life with doesn't have to be handsome, but you have to be able to afford a home.
Before marriage,
Venus and Hans agreed that life after marriage should focus on children.
For the education and growth of children,
Hans was willing to sacrifice his career and spend more time caring for his family.
In order to accommodate Venus's career, he chose to accompany her to settle in China.
March 2006,
Venus successfully held the first "Dance in Shanghai" International Modern Dance Festival,
It has added new colors to the domestic dance world.
In the same year, the University of Plymouth in the United Kingdom awarded her an honorary doctorate in the arts.
After receiving good news, Venus was not happy,
The eldest son has reached the age of school, just when he is going through the enrollment procedures.
But the staff replied: because she is married to an international friend,
"Toot Toot" needs to re-apply for an international adoption.
The international adoption process is cumbersome and extremely time-consuming,
But the time of "toot" school is close at hand, and there is no wait,
Thinking of this made her anxious and guilty.
The staff joked: "Then get a divorce, and the divorce will not have to be handled." ”
She immediately called Hans, who was on a business trip overseas, and decided to apply for a divorce.
Hans, as a German, was difficult to understand for a while,
But he trusts and respects Venus's decision.
Handling divorce procedures inevitably gets asked about the reason for divorce,
Venus said: "Germany lost to Italy in the World Cup, I want to kick this German husband and marry an Italian." ”
The reason for this absurdity is that she said it so that it was not so shocking.
After the eldest son entered school,
Venus asked, "Do you want to get a new marriage license?" ”
Hans shook his head: "It is better to wait until the 3 children have finished school, anyway, our feelings will not be affected at all." ”
Venus smiled and nodded,
This man really fit her mind perfectly,
The marriage of the two does not need this marriage certificate to be bound at all.
The children were taken care of by Hans, and she had no worries.
The following year, she was invited to Venice,
Served as a judge for the Golden Lion Awards modern dance section of the 52nd International Art Biennale.
In just a few years,
She was also awarded the Chevalier de l'Ordre des Arts et des Lettres des Lettress des Lettress des Arts et des Bea
Honorary Doctorate in Dance by the Royal Scottish Academy of Music and Drama.
For the economic resources and better development of the dance company,
She began to step into the entertainment industry,
In 2011, she was invited to be a judge for the fourth season of the Dance Forest Festival.
After the show aired,
Talented and capable and her own poisonous tongue style made her quickly known to the audience,
The legendary experience added some mystery to her.
Smelling the heat of oriental satellite TV seeking cooperation,
The "Venus Show" created exclusively for her began to be produced,
With a unique and sharp hosting style,
Once broadcast, the ratings remain high,
Shock the industry and flock to it.
In 2017,
She took the Venus Dance Company to the art of Susan Della in Israel
Heart performs the modern dance drama "Nine Palace Grid".
The following year, in Italy, she and Hans held a grand wedding ceremony.
In the past, their every move was paid attention to by the public and constantly attacked by public opinion.
For the sake of the physical and mental health of young children, they are low-key to obtaining the license.
Now the children have entered secondary school,
The wedding was finally celebrated.
Venus once said in an interview that her life is a huge performance art:
"This performance art doesn't last a day, it doesn't last until I die. I use my life and my works to be a person, to see how society recognizes me and accepts me. ”
There is no shortage of courageous people in this world, but there is a lack of people who live for themselves.
She is an unquestionable brave, and her life is a miracle and a legend.