The trust between people is established quickly and disappears quickly, and the reason why we and our friends can become good friends is because the two of you trust each other, and if you don't trust each other, there will certainly be no relationship established. Therefore, in marriage, it is also like this, two people can come together, it is not easy, if both sides are not good to cherish, in the end, let each other's trust collapse, then the relationship between you will come to an end.
Especially between couples, most couples are married before the age of 30, which means that you are about to accompany each other for 50 to 60 years, during this time, you will encounter a lot of problems, but also meet better people, but how to choose, that is your own decision.
Some people may choose to give up the people around them decisively when they meet better people, to pursue more suitable for themselves, and some people will look back to see if the person who was suitable for themselves is still the most loved, but no matter how you choose? The final result will also be different.
Today it is Cortana who shares the story.
The relationship between husband and wife is flat
Xiaona and her husband have been married for more than ten years, they have also changed from the initial love period to the current flat period, at the beginning of the husband and wife will always encounter some different things, maybe at that time they are always positive to solve the problem, but now, the two people get along for a long time, but whenever there is a little problem in the marriage, they will look at each other.
Slowly, Xiaona did not have any hope for such a couple's feelings, because he felt that once the two people reached this level, the two parties were not far from divorce, but the husband did not think so, the husband felt that the husband and wife could go to this, it must be that the two sides have reached a realm, and may no longer be able to leave each other.
On this day, xiaona just came home, she said to her husband: "I feel that my body is not particularly good recently, are you interested in us to exercise?" The husband said, "Forget it?" Every day work is so hard, but also go down to run, think about it feel tired, we might as well lie down and watch a movie, and then rest early. ”
Xiaona listened to her husband's words, shook her head, and said: "I also don't understand, just like we are in this state, how did we fall in love and get married in the first place?" Could it be that you lied to me? The husband said boringly: "Most of the couples in the family are like this after marriage, how can I deceive you in your opinion?" What do you think I lied to you about? ”
Xiaona faced her husband with a serious question, and she didn't know what to say. Xiao Na said helplessly: "Forget it, whatever you say, I originally made a joke with you and didn't expect you to be so excited, since this is the case, this joke will not be opened, OK, I want to rest early, tomorrow I will go to work." ”
In this way, the relationship between the two people stopped here, and after Xiaona lay down, she couldn't help but ask herself, is this kind of marriage really what he wants? A person who used to like so much has now become like this, two people do not have relationship ethics, and the life between husband and wife is also very boring, is this really what you want? Thinking of such a question, Cortana fell asleep.
Life is different and contradictions occur
Since then, Xiaona began to go down to run every day, her husband was lying at home, sometimes Xiaona came back to see her husband resting, he didn't bother to pay attention to each other, sometimes the husband was waiting for himself, although he said that he was waiting for himself, his heart was a little moved, but Xiaona knew that her intention was not to wait for her to come back.
Yesterday Xiaona came back after running, found that her husband was resting, Xiaona carefully walked to the bedroom, but her husband said: "Every day work is so hard, if you still insist on running, then you will go to another room to sleep, I did not sleep well, you came back to make me even more unable to sleep." ”
Xiaona listened to her husband's words, a little angry, but simply held her own luggage and went to the next bedroom. Since then, Xiaona has liked running more, for him this is his time alone, even if he looks at the surrounding scenery, he will make his mood better, as long as he does not stay in a space with her husband, he will feel that life is particularly good.
Yesterday, Xiaona met her husband's good friend when she was running, and the other party asked Xiaona how she came out to run alone, and Xiaona helplessly said: "Isn't this what people think is hard?" So I came out on my own, and it was good to be alone, but two people might take care of each other and not be so happy. "Friends think that Xiaona alone is too lonely, he agreed with Xiaona that from today on, as long as both people come out, they will go out for a run together."
Slowly, after the two people ran, they learned more and more, and Xiaona felt that when this boy and her husband were placed in front of her, why did she choose her husband? Instead of choosing this boy, he learned that the man was not married and that he would show that he liked himself.
Find the problem and file for divorce
Since then, Xiaona don't let him be happier every day, but for him, going out with friends every day to run has become the most anticipated life, and in the evening, she went home from work to eat a few bites of food, and sometimes her husband did not understand, and her husband asked her every time: "How do you feel now for you?" Is this running particularly important? And you seem to be in a good mood after every run, is it difficult to run really have such a big benefit? ”
Xiaona nodded and said, "Every day I am happy to watch myself occupy other people's WeChat sports list." After saying that, Xiaona went for a run, and when Xiaona returned, her husband looked at his list one, was it Xiaona? At the same time, he saw that his friend had a lot of steps, so he asked his friend, and it turned out that the friend and his wife had been running together.
The man couldn't help but start to wonder, he asked Cortana, "Why are you running with my friends?" It's hard not for the two of you to meet. Xiaona said, "Yes, the two of us go for a run together every day." The husband said, "You know that the two of us chose you together, and then you chose me, what do you mean that you are running with him now?" Do you regret marrying me and want to turn back? Xiaona did not speak, her husband directly slapped Xiaona, Xiaona couldn't help but say: "Yes, that's what you think, the two of us want to be together, I want to divorce you, we have been married for more than ten years, life has become more and more flat, don't you think that the two of us have no feelings for a long time?" What's the point of you saying that every time you drag each other down like this? ”
Xiaona's words completely angered her husband, and the two of them quarreled, and then they went to divorce. Although it is said that it is because of friends that the marriage of the two of them has come to an end, but fundamentally they have no emotional basis, so leaving is also their best ending, neither of them has bothered each other's lives, Xiaona has not been with her husband's friends, she has chosen a happy life alone.
Many times, we always feel that the people around us must be reasonable to leave themselves, in fact, this is the case, no one will choose to leave you for no reason, no one will become friends with you for no reason, two people can become friends, it means that there is a certain attraction between you, if you are not attracted to each other, then how can there be feelings?
So in marriage is also like this, many people say that marriage in the end has become affection, although at the beginning, the love of each other is vigorous but in the end will become very flat, in fact, it is not necessarily so, the real person you like is that you will laugh when you see him, no matter when, as long as you think of him you may be very happy.
Therefore, no matter at any moment, as long as you meet someone you like, you must be brave enough to express your thoughts, don't always hide yourself, and in the end let you miss the marriage between you, if you feel that the feelings between each other are weak, you must adjust your attitude in time, and then make your feelings better.
Today's topic: If you were Cortana, what would you do?
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