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"We often say that if there is a father, there must be a son, and I was not sure of this sentence before, but when the 13-year marriage was facing breakdown, I had a clear understanding of this sentence." 」
This is the feeling of friend Tian Tian after divorce.
Tian Tian and her husband have been married for 13 years and have a son who is 11 years old. Before Tian Tian and her husband got married, she knew very little about her in-laws, because they met through the introduction of a matchmaker, and they were in love for half a year, and they felt that they were quite suitable, so they hurriedly got a marriage license.
To tell the truth, Tian Tian's husband was very good to her before and after marriage, if it were not for the incident that happened later, Tian Tian said that she would never say the word divorce with her husband.
Married for more than 10 years, Tian Tian and her husband have always been very affectionate, and every weekend, their family of three will take a day to play outside.
In the eyes of outsiders, they can really be called model couples.
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In terms of work, Tian Tian has always been better than her husband, because Tian Tian is a sales executive in the company, and she is usually very brave and very good at making money, so the people who earn money at home mainly rely on Tian Tian.
For this, Tian Tian has never complained about her husband, she feels that a family has a person who can make money, not necessarily a man to earn money to support the family.
Therefore, since getting married, Tian Tian's husband has only worked odd jobs in a friend's repair shop, and usually has no serious business.
Last year, Tian Tian's husband suddenly told her that he wanted to start a partnership with his friends, open a large repair shop, and make more money for the family.
Listening to her husband say this, Tian Tian was very happy, because she was really tired in the wind and rain over the years, so she agreed to her husband taking 200,000 yuan from home to start a business without even thinking about it.
However, since her husband took the money away, he often did not go home, and he did not tell Tian Tian where the repair shop was opened, and the reason for not going home was that the repair shop was too far from home, usually too busy, and he was too lazy to run around.
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At first, Tian Tian believed in her husband, and she felt very relieved, her husband finally grew up, he could carry things, and he could relax in the future.
But when her husband returned home for a reunion during the Mid-Autumn Festival, she found a shopping ticket in her husband's bag with items such as the woman's underwear and foundation liquid.
Tian Tian questioned her husband, and her husband slyly said that he bought it for her, and he had to forget to bring it this time, and when he came home next time, he would bring it back to her.
Tian Tian definitely didn't believe it, so she asked her husband to drive her to pick it up now, just to visit their repair shop. Her husband said she was incomprehensible, and after a big fight with her, he slammed the door and left.
After that quarrel, Tian Tian's husband did not come home for a long time, and Tian Tian took a few days off to find her husband's friends and ask them about the joint construction of a repair shop.
As a result, the other party told her that they did not have a joint venture at all, and they had not been in contact for a long time.
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After knowing that she had been deceived, Tian Tian asked people around to inquire about her husband's news, and finally she finally found her husband and his lover in a rental house.
It turned out that her husband asked her for the 200,000 in order to help her lover settle down, and they had been living together for several months.
Seeing all this in front of her, Tian Tian asked her husband to explain clearly, what to do in the end? Her husband said to her, "You can do whatever you want, whatever you want." ”
Tian Tian ran home crying, packing up her things and preparing to leave with her son, the mother-in-law saw and asked her why she wanted to leave, she told her mother-in-law that she wanted a divorce because she was not willing to continue living with a man who betrayed her.
After listening, the mother-in-law advised her not to impulsively divorce, saying that the most important thing for a woman is to endure, and also said that the father of the former hadron also had other women outside, and it was precisely because of her forbearance that the family was complete.
But in fact, what Tian Tian knows is that since she married into this family, her father-in-law and mother-in-law have always slept in separate rooms, and their salaries are also spent separately.
After living together for so many years, Tian Tian understood why the feelings of the in-laws and in-laws were very indifferent, the reason was that the father-in-law had always had women outside, and the mother-in-law was just going to live on it.
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Thinking of this, Tian Tian said to her mother-in-law: "Mom, I don't want to live like you in the future, and I can't tolerate my other half betraying me, so I am divorced from this marriage." ”
After saying that, Tian Tian took her things and returned to her mother's house with her son.
Half a month later, Tian Tian and her husband agreed to divorce, Tian Tian took away all the savings she had saved over the years, she said that she had raised this family for more than 10 years, and she had exhausted her benevolence and righteousness, and she would only live for herself and her son in the future.
The misfortune of Tian Tian's marriage once again reminds us that before marriage, women must understand each other's original family, because the influence and edification of the original family on their children is very deep.
As Hu Ke said on the show "Women Have Something to Say":
"Before getting married, you must contact the man's family, look at the family atmosphere, if you don't understand the other party's family, I am afraid that I will cry after marriage."
In short, marriage is actually an investment in the second half of your life, the chip is yourself and your family, once your investment fails, you will really regret it for a lifetime.
Therefore, for the happiness of your own life, before marriage, in addition to understanding the character of the other party, you must also understand the character of the other party's parents, and then decide whether to become a family with him under the balance.