"Does he (she) love me or not", this is a question that many people have when they enter a relationship.
Love is like this, when love reaches the depths, you will be afraid of losing, in order to support your own ideas, you will be tempted, over and over again asked "do you love me", get a positive answer before you give up.
However, loving a person or not loving a person can not be reflected from a sentence of "I love you", some people are good at acting, even if they do not love, they can not blush, the heart does not beat to say love.
In a relationship where a person loves you or not, the "detail reaction" of being together will tell you.
When you are with him or her, you don't need to disguise
He Mu in the TV series "Dear Myself" is the president of a listed company, and because he is an elite, his life is also extremely exquisite and self-disciplined.
What to eat every day has a professional fitness consultant to match, in order to maintain the figure;
Usually I like to watch financial news the most, fitness is the norm, and I have my own plan for what to do every day.
Gu Xiaoling is in the opposite state, she likes to eat junk food, likes to chase boring gossip and soap operas, and the most annoying thing is to watch financial news.
He Mu is very satisfied with Gu Xiaoling and hopes that she will become his fiancée, but Gu Xiaoling and He Mu do not feel happy together.
He Mu is very rich, and others think that if Gu Xiaoling and He Mu are together, what a good luck it would be, but Gu Xiaoling does not love He Mu, it can be said that it is not at all.
She needs to disguise herself in front of He Mu, needs to be careful, afraid that she is a civilian girl and will be rejected by the other party, such a love needs to be constantly worried, it is not what she wants at all.
Therefore, Gu Xiaoling proposed to break up, and she still liked the real and somewhat sloppy self.
Bi Shumin once said: "Our lives do not exist because we like others." ”
True love is that we don't need to disguise when we are with each other, and we can be the truest self at will.
If a person can make us face our truest self without any worries, then such a person is our true love.
When it comes to giving, action is always greater than words
No matter who we are with, we need to understand that if a person says "I love you" in words, there are very few practical actions.
Such a person, such love can not stand the test, like a bubble in the sun, colorful but broken at the touch.
I have seen such people: when they pursue girls, they are always asking "have you eaten, have you slept, are you doing, why don't you eat", and when girls reply that they have not eaten, they will continue to say, hurry to dinner, and then talk after eating.
It doesn't sound like there's anything wrong with that, but if you think about it, it doesn't feel right.
Because, when we want to have what we like, we need to pay time, energy and cost, not empty gloves and white wolves, who don't want to give anything, but still want to have everything.
Stetson said: "Like, is to see something good or even excellent, and the ensuing thought is: desire to possess." Love, on the other hand, is mostly to see something bad or not good enough, in fact, to hope that it is good and even very good, and the motivation that follows is: willing to give. ”
In other words, loving someone must not be stingy about their own efforts.
So, if one only pays lip service to us without giving any practical action, then such a person is not worthy of our liking.
When you're with him or her, you just feel comfortable
Shakespeare said: "Love is not a sweet word in the shade of a flower, not a honey word in the peach blossom source, not a light tear, nor a hard compulsion, love is based on a common language." ”
When we have a common language with each other, we will feel that no matter what we say, we will have a response, and we will not have the embarrassment of justifying ourselves and taking care of ourselves.
Because whether we say interesting or uninteresting topics, the other party will give us the response we want.
We are always thinking, what kind of person do we want to find in this life?
In fact, time has already told us the answer.
In this life, we must find someone who can feel comfortable together, and then spend the rest of our lives with each other.
Some people always feel that even if they are in love, they will still feel lonely, and the fundamental reason is that the words they say are not understood and there is no response.
If there is such a person in life - when we are with him or her, we don't need to worry about burping and snoring will be rejected by the other party;
Don't worry about sharing some trivial things, which will be called boring and nonsense by the other party.
Then, we must cherish and manage this relationship well.
Because what makes us feel comfortable is the soul mate we are looking for.